I was poking around Slate.com earlier and noticed a curious “line of the day”
See it right there in the middle there? “The top searches that begin with ‘my girlfriend is’: a bitch, pregnant, crazy, hot, fat, depressed, getting fat.” What’s the article about you might ask? The Google toolbar and Google Suggest, Google’s feature where you begin typing in your search and it gives you completion suggestions.
So we have an article which is about understanding what people are looking for and we illustrate it with a healthy dose of misogyny. Now, in fairness, the “my boyfriend is” searches aren’t all that flattering (an asshole, an alcoholic, depressed, mean, married, hot.) Neither are the ones about “my mom is”, although by far the creepiest to me is “my mom is hot”. But neither of these are the quote of the day. Instead of highlighting the novel or weird search terms, Slate opts for calling attention to the stuff that makes my skin crawl.
There’s nothing inherently vile about the search terms. They’re perfectly civil (mostly) on their face, but the implications are nauseating. “My girlfriend is getting fat” leads to pages which encourage you, either in the alternative or in combination, to belittle your significant other, try and control her food intake, take her hiking and to other activities, or to buy her clothes a size too small as a hint. “My girlfriend is a bitch” leads you to charming testimonials from men who are eager to agree.
A lot of the time, misogyny is frighteningly mundane and unremarked upon. At the same time, calling attention to it here feel weird somehow; that Slate is letting its male readers know that yes, other men are just like you. I’m not necessarily convinced of this interpretation, but the quote in question doesn’t come until the 12th paragraph in and on the second page. If you’re like me and *hate* Slate’s decision to go to multi-page posts, you’d miss it if you couldn’t be bothered to click through. Is it new that men will call their girlfriends bitches? Or think they’re crazy? The author isn’t even pointing out any implications the fact that these are the top suggestions, which leads me to feel more like a validation that I think is necessary. [Front-paging the quote, that is, not including the example.]
Google suggest also tells you more about the depressing state of -isms and -phobias than you’d probably care to know. In the interests of science, I also played around with it for a few minutes. Begin a search for “Mexicans are…” and the top three responses are stupid, dirty, and dumb. “Gays are” suggests evil, bad, and disgusting. “Women are” gives you evil, from Venus, and (not third, but still my favorite) like tea bags*. And there is a reason that there are no longer any suggestions at all for “blacks are”. Tells you great things about your average Google user, huh?
*This is a reference to Eleanor Roosevelt’s famous remark that a woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water. (I’d not heard this line before and sat here thinking “Women steep and produce yummy liquid goodness? Who knew?”)