Said problem being the unrelenting publicity surrounding the Duggar family.
17 children! And counting! More than 10 collective years of pregnancy! (Abuse of exclamation points concludes.)
It’s stories like this one and posters like this that make me feel like a bad feminist blogger. (I also have this problem when talking to an acquaintance who is obsessed with becoming a stay at home mom.)
I want so desperately not to be judgmental and really to encourage reflection and introspection about one’s choices…and I fail. Try as I might, I cannot avoid thinking that Michelle Duggar is out of her mind and wishing, hope against hope, that we could, collectively, look away from the scene. I want to think critically about the situation and why anyone, under any circumstances, would think that featuring the power of their uterus on national television was a good idea or that their entire purpose was to keep having babies. And all I wind up doing is snickering.
This isn’t a comment on choice feminism, but rather a comment on my own unwillingness and inability to look at individuals making (mostly) private choices that I fundamentally disagree without jumping up and down and explaining exactly how I feel about said choices, why they’re wrong, and I know better. (And, as we all know, how I am possessed of superior knowledge and insight which enables me to tell others exactly how to comport their lives.) Rather, this is my own admission of self-righteousness judgmentalism.
Certainly, I have no desire to legislate on any of these issues, but I think that I (and if I may be so bold, most of us) fall into the trap of belittling others rather than critiquing choices within the dominant paradigm. It’s so much easier to snicker at Michelle Duggar (Vagina. Clown Car! *snerk*) than it is to try and understand why she’s planning to have more kids.
How do we work to keep the focus on the patriarchy, the systemic factors at work, and not on the couple who named one of their 17 children Jinger*?
*Is this a misspelling of Jigger, Jingle, a variation on Jingoism or something else entirely?