From Nine Pearls, the story of a husband who sued the man his wife was (or maybe wasn’t) having an affair with:
CHICAGO Jul 1, 2007 (AP)
Stealing someone’s heart can cost you: Just ask German Blinov. A Cook County jury ordered Blinov to shell out $4,802 last week after he was sued by a husband from a Chicago suburb for stealing the affections of the man’s wife.
Arthur Friedman used a little-known state law to mount the legal attack against Blinov. The alienation of affection law, one of eight across the country, lets spouses seek damages for the loss of love.
But Natalie Friedman, the woman at the center of it all, claims her husband asked her to have sex with other men and women including Blinov to spice up their relationship. She supposedly began having feelings for Blinov, prompting her husband to file the lawsuit.
I think I’d be pretty miffed if my husband agreed to open up our marriage,
caught me enjoying myself too much, and decided that the courts were the best
place to air our disagreement and salve his broken heart. But I think I’d also
be upset if he treated my affections as something that could be stolen away from
him, as though I wouldn’t have to hand them over. (This law at least
applies to both sexes, so wronged wives can sue the homewrecking floozies who
corrupt their defenseless husbands. Score one for equality!)
A marriage is a contract between the married people. They are the ones who
decide what the boundaries are, and whether to honor their agreements. Who has
responsibility here, the third party? If Mrs. Friedman is telling the truth
(and her scenario doesn’t sound at all unlikely*), then Blinov accepted an
invitation tendered by the Friedmans as a couple. Even if she isn’t being
honest, Blinov was engaged in reciprocal affair with the stolen wife.
*Public service advisory to all the potential swingers out there: if you have reservations about your partner seeing other people, it probably isn’t a good idea to open up the marriage. There is at least a small chance that, rather than get over these feelings in time, you will develop seething resentment towards your partner and anyone your partner sleeps with.