I suddenly realized that one of the lovely perks about being able to guest blog here this week is that I get to ask questions to a very large audience, much larger than I am used to. I’m in the process of working on two posts that are incomplete so until they are polished, I thought I would send out some questions to things that I have been thinking about in the last few weeks – they vary, and hopefully people will have the time or energy or desire to answer one or more of them. Eh hem:
1. Does anyone know of any catchy dance music that is not homophobic/racist/sexist? that isn’t techno?
2. Is anyone working for a job that they absolutely love that they want to talk about?
3. And along those lines, does anyone have any advice or stories about how they respond or deal with people who are extremely offensive in the work place?
4. What are your thoughts on Ugly Betty?
5. Any tips for figuring out whether or not to pursue a career in academia? as a woman of color?
6. Is it possible to keep friendships with people who have extremely different politics than you do?
Happy weekend š
update: Hi all,
thanks so much for all the responses! This was really wonderful, as was guest blogging. Sorry that daily writing did not come to fruition – fortunately, I do blog at my own site pretty frequently so hopefully some of you will swing by š
I thought I would answer my own questions, after thinking about it a little.
1. The quest for catchy music that isn’t totally racist/sexist/homophobic is a hard one. And more often than not, artists of color do not end up being on this list. I’m going to attach a link that I hope people read: a letter written by poet/spoken word artist Saul Williams to Oprah in response to her statements about hip hop music being offensive. His letter is touching, inspiring, and explores the institutional oppression that affects hip hop music and artists of color. I found the site via Racialicious.
2. I’m still thinking about what I want to do after graduation. And I’m still trying to figure things out enough to write about it.
3. The advice everyone has offered for this was so helpful! Thank you!
4. Hmm…Ugly Betty. I watch the show (online – I don’t have access to a television either) and I love it – but it’s complicated. There is so much wrong with the show (in simplest terms, it appears that transgendered people are malicious, gay people are kiss ups to women of color who will do anything to get to the top, and blonde women are promiscuous idiots…). All of this said, I think as the season has gone on, the show has worked on character development, exposing intricacies of each person in a way that makes them more than a horrible stereotype. And of course, Betty is endearing and loveable and strong. I LOVE that.
5. I’ve written about my anxiety about entering academia in the past and I still maintain that I will end up in grad school one day.
6. I think I agree with what many of you are saying. It is possible to be friends, maybe not best friends, with people who have different politics than me. But it is difficult. And it is complicated when the differences come in more identity based ways. For example, I have a friend that I am completely unable to discuss race, class, or gender issues with. These are things that are extremely important to me because they shape the person that I am. We both try to steer away from these issues, but I often feel drained by this sort of work. Ultimately, there are other things that have held our friendship together that for now at least, seem to matter more than our politics.