Continuing from Part 1, I’m answering your questions about feminism. And again, feel free to critique my answers, ask follow-up questions, or add your own answers in the comments.
1. From Tuomas, “How do you define a feminist? Is anyone who calls herself/himself a feminist, if not what sentiments is one required to share in order to be called a feminist?
How does feminism measure its success, which statistical measurement devices would you consider important? What about failures (can it fail)?”
Very loosely, I define a feminist as someone who believes in universal human rights, and that rights shouldn’t be contingent on your sex organs. A feminist no doubt recognizes biological differences, but further recognizes that men and women are vastly more the same than they are different, and that biological differences don’t justify differences in social, economic, or political treatment. One could not, then, call oneself a feminist and promote policies or belief systems which position women as subordinate to men. Don’t believe that women should be paid on par with men? Don’t believe that women deserve the right to vote? Don’t believe that women deserve full economic, social, and physical self-determination? Then you aren’t a feminist, in my eyes. But again, that’s broad, and there are many different types of feminsim which are at odds with mine, but which I can still recognize as feminist belief systems.
I’m not sure how feminism measures its success. The most obvious way, of course, is looking for parity in law, which is fairly easy to gauge. What isn’t so easy to gauge is social parity, and fairness in the way that those laws are applied. We can also gauge things like poverty levels, access to healthcare, hours worked in and outside of the home, and general economic well-being. Those are important measures, but they obviously aren’t exhaustive.
As for failues, I’m not exactly sure what you’re asking — how we measure failues? That, I’m not sure about, aside from looking at the above-listed measures and recording the areas in which we go backwards. If you’re asking what feminism’s failures have been, well, I’m not sure that “failure” is the best word, since it seems a little strong. But feminism (or, to be more clear, feminists) have certainly dropped the ball on a few issues. When it comes to international women’s rights, I think that Western feminists have been a little to quick to impose our cultural framework on others, without allowing non-Western feminists a place to speak and be heard and divise their own solutions. I think that feminism could certainly use a PR make-over, but I don’t blame feminists for that, I blame conservatism and backlash culture.
2. From Unsure, “consentual BDSM. Be it the male or the female who holds the ‘power’ in a scene (in porn, in 24/7 relationships, or just in people’s fantasies and experiments), I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on the relationship between current patriarchal culture and S&M. Also, when done with love/care/affection, can such a sexual practice coexist with feminism as you understand it?”
Ah this is a tough topic for me. My short answer: Yes, BDSM can certainly coexist with feminism as I understand it.
My long answer: BDSM, like all other sexual practices, fetishes, fantasies and areas of enjoyment, doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It wasn’t conceived of in a vacuum. I’m not sure that anyone can engage in overtly power-based sexual acts and argue that getting off on that exchange of power has absolutely nothing to do with patriarchal society. That’s part of the fetishization of power: Getting off on either acting out that traditional power to the extreme, or flipping that traditional power on its head. Would BDSM still exist in an entirely gender-neutral society? Maybe, because people get off on power. But, like porn, I think it would look really different.
Fetishization of power isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Where I get frustrated is with the perspective of, “I like it, so it’s ok.” We saw that a lot in the Great Blowjob Wars of 2006, and I suspect we’d see if again if BDSM was discussed in-depth on a lot of feminist blogs. Sexually, we like what we like. Some of us like blowjobs. Some of us like BDSM. Some of us have rape fantasies. Some of us like missionary and nothing more. Some of us are abstinent by choice. Some of us like to watch or even create porn. Some of us are sex workers. All these choices and areas of sexual enjoyment are completely valid, but they aren’t above feminist discourse. And all of them are influenced by patriarchal culture, norms and values.
BDSM, in my opinion, can be, like blowjobs, “patriarchy-approved.” I will admit that images of women tied up or appearing to be injured or tortured really, deeply bother me. Hearing that many women have rape fantasties really, deeply bothers me. And getting to the root of these things is important, and it inevitably involves examining gender issues.
But I don’t think that one’s sexual practices negate one’s feminism (with a few exceptions, the most obvious of which is rape — it’s pretty hard to be a rapist and a true feminist). I do, however, think that one’s feminism requires one to take a good hard look at their own sexual practices. Those practices don’t necessarily have to change just because they’re patriarchy-approved in some way or another (not to say that all BDSM activity is patriarchy-approved; I don’t think it is). But awareness is important. And in my experience, knowing exactly what you’re buying into (or fucking with) while you’re doing it can make sex all the hotter.
There is, of course, a line, and that line is crossed when actual harm (physical, mental or emotional) is being done to your partner. But from my understanding of the BDSM community, this is rarely the case.
3. From Werty, “can feminism ever be a conservative ideology?”
Well, that would depend on how you define “conservative” (and how you definie “feminist”). Can it be socially conservative, according to the current incarnation of what social conservatism means? I don’t think so. But I’ve encountered some conservative feminists in my day who are pretty damn incredible, so I’m not going to write off conservative or libertarian-identified women from this movement. There are also lots of feminist women in more conservative societies working within those frameworks to bring women’s rights to their countries. They may be religious, and fairly conservative from my vantage point, but in their own culture context they’re incredibly progressive and doing great work.
It is difficult, though, to reconcile feminism with conservatism. However, it’s much easier to reconcile feminsim with fiscal conservatism or small-government conservatism. I do think it’s possible to subscribe to the theory that our government should generally stay out of our lives and still be a feminist. It gets tricky when dealing with institutional discrimination and strategizing solutions — small-government feminists probably aren’t going to be the biggest fans of using government-sponsored social programs to combat discrimination and alleviate suffering — but certainly not impossible.
Further, I’ve met many women who are personally conservative, but who don’t believe that their social or religious views should translate into policy that affects all women. Conservative women of that stripe can certainly be feminists. And if conservatives can be feminists, then I suppose feminism can be part of a conservative ideology.
4. From hedonistic, “I need help answering the question I receive FREQUENTLY at my site (got one this morning!) as to why feminists can’t solve all the problems stemming from oppression in OTHER countries before presuming to “whine” about oppression at home.”
Ha. We get this a lot, too, and my answer is generally that we need to clean our own house before we go around trying to fix up everyone else’s. I would also say that it’s inherently misogynistic and bigoted to assume that there aren’t already women in these other countries fighting for their rights. I would hope that women around the world are open to community-building and helping each other, but no one wants a group of people who are unfamiliar with their situation coming in and telling them exactly how they should run things in their movement.
Feminists are also able to multi-task. As bloggers, we can write about more than one thing in the course of a day. Just because we cover a local issue doesn’t mean that we can’t also cover international issues in the same day, or the same week, or the same month. And the fact is that proximity matters. We’re better equipped to combat discrimination and sexism at home than we are in, say, Yemen. And we recognize that while we are happy to be of help to other women wherever we’re needed, there already are fantastic, motivated women in all countries around the world doing good feminist work. We trust them to do what they’re doing, and don’t feel the need to step on their toes or second-guess them, when we know very little about where they’re coming from. They’re also likely to be far more effective in their own countries than we, as strangers, could ever be.
5. Exangelena asks, “What do sex-positive feminists believe? (and, what I’d really like to know, what do sex-negative feminists or sex-negative people believe?)”
Sex-positive feminism, as I understand it, stemmed largely out of the “sex wars” of the 1980s between anti-pornography feminists like Andrea Dworkin and Catherine MacKinnon and other feminists who opposed efforts to censor pornography. It basically argued that pornography, sex work, etc isn’t inherently demeaning towards women, and that sexual freedom is a key component to the feminist movement.
As for “sex-negative” feminists, well, I’m not sure that they exist in any organized way. Part of the problem with a term like “sex-positive” is that it implies that anyone who doesn’t adhere to the sex-positive viewpoint is, in fact, sex-negative. That obviously isn’t the case, and is one reason why I take issue with the term “sex-positive”; a lot of feminists who don’t fall into the sex-positive category simply take issue with pornography, or sex work, or objectification of women sold as “empowerment.” Sex-positive feminists will often argue that pornography isn’t inherently bad (something I would actually agree with), but in my experience, get a little defensive whenever something sex-related is critiqued, be it porn or prostitution or blowjobs.
Sex-positive feminists have also been key in breaking down barriers for LGBT people in the feminist movement, and for that I’ll give them a lot of credit (many traditional feminists have been great on this issue as well, so I don’t want to downplay their work — but sex-positive feminists really made it a cornerstone of their movement). Sexuality and sexual orientation have historically been tricky issues for feminists. We’ve seen lesbian separatist movements, hetero feminists who fear being associated with a “lavendar menace,” discrimination against trans women, etc. And the sex-positive feminists have addressed these issues head-on.
“Sex-negative” feminists, in my opinion, aren’t actually sex negative at all. I used to identify as a sex-positive feminist because, as a general rule, I don’t think that pornography should be censored; I think sex work should be decriminalized; and I believe that women can genuinely enjoy pornography and erotica. But I think that there are serious problems with pornography, sex work and sex in general as they’re currently constructed, and I think that those problems need to be addressed. I think we need to discuss them, and to recognize that our desires and our sexual practices are shaped by a patriarchal society, and just because you enjoy something sexually or get off on a particular sexual practice doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s empowering, or even ok from a feminist perspective. I think it’s perfectly acceptable to criticize these practices, as long as we aren’t attacking the women themselves who engage in them. From the perspective of some sex-positive feminists, this makes me “sex-negative.” I think it just makes me a liberal feminist.
So there are some issues with the terminology, which underscore the ideological divides.
6. From exangelena, “What is your take on the relationship between beauty or beauty culture and feminism?”
First, I think there’s a huge difference between beauty and beauty culture. My personal view is that beauty is a wonderful thing. Aesthetics are important. What I have a problem with is the over-emphasis on a culturally-constructed standard of physical beauty, and a gendered requirement as to who has to focus their efforts on achieving that beauty. As it stands, women are the beauty class — beauty is supposed to confer greater benefit on us than just about any other attribute, and as a group we put far more time, money and effort into achieving beauty than men do. Socially, women are required to fit a particular physical standard that men just aren’t. In many industries, expensive and sometimes painful clothing and beauty items are required — high heels, make-up, “professional” hair-dos (i.e., no natural hair for African-American women), maintaing a certain weight, etc. That’s a problem. So my feminism takes issue with a beauty culture that puts the burden on women to be beautiful, over-emphasizes the importance of physical beauty, and pretends that there is a narrow definition of “beautiful” that women must strive for. It doesn’t take issue with beauty itself.
More soon.