The best response I’ve ever heard given to an army recuriter goes a little something like this: “Look, I’m lazy and I’m a fag. I refuse to wake up at 5am every morning to wear that ugly green. And I’m gay! Did you hear that? GAY!”
I was tempted to use this line, originally reported to me by my best friend’s big gay brother, when they phoned me at seventeen. I felt bad. I was working as a telemarketer at the time, dreadful job, and knew what a downer it was to hear the line go dead on every phone call. I let the man finish his spiel about paying for college and a possible stint with the Reserves before I told him I was pregnant. “Oh,” he said. “Have a nice day.” And then he hung up on me.
I got a phone call from an Army recruiter yesterday. Knowing that they were short on recruits this year and remembering my telemarketing days, I decided to let the guy talk. He asked me what I was doing this summer.
Taking classes.
Oh, lots of people seem to be taking classes this summer. How are you paying for school?
Loans.
Is that working out for you?
Not too bad. I was beginning to develop a smirk. You might begin to see how I’m not at my best on the phone.
Have you ever thought about joining the military? We are looking for well-educated candidates and we could help you pay for your school and your loans.
I’m not the best candidate for the military.
I’ll bet you are. What makes your think you shouldn’t join?
Well (and this is where I lied a little), I’m practically blind (LIE!) and I am a single mom.
This is where the conversation shifted. I had been having a bad week — too much to do, too little time to do it, feeling run down over medication and lack of sleep, generally feeling sorry for myself.
So, you’re a single mom going to college. He sounded impressed.
Yup.
I had a single mom. She went to college and worked and managed to save up enough money for my brothers to go to school, too.
Wow. Good for her. I was getting suspicious of where this conversation was going to go from here.
We need more of you. Keep working and gettin’ As. Your kids will thank you later. Have a nice day.
Hey, you too. I hung up the phone, stunned. I didn’t wonder how they’d gotten my cell phone number until much later.
Something about this conversation was incredibly refreshing. A total stranger, initially friendly with alterior political motives, genuinely complimented and identified with me and this struggle through school as a young parent. And then he let me go without pressing his initial motive.
I thought about that all day.