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Later, Y’all

Just want to say a heartfelt thank-you to the Feministe crew, and to everyone who’s taken the time to read and respond to my stuff here over the last two weeks! I’ve especially loved hearing your wisdom in the comments: from thoughts on Marxist feminism to ways of taking refuge and experiences with snark.

I sincerely appreciate folks’ open-mindedness (and endurance! haha – these posts were hella long!) in engaging with what I’ve shared. My style differs a bit from what Feministe readers are used to, and part of my aim for guest-blogging was simply to present some new perspectives. Particularly on the spiritual tip, it seems like this entire dimension of feminists’ experience goes virtually un-discussed and untouched in Lefty feminist media -type circles. Probably in part because of reactions, explicit or implicit, like David‘s:

When you first made a post about dhammic practice, a useful technique for dealing with life’s problems could be gleaned from it, and I found it useful. However, you have since made many posts about your personal religion, and as someone who is not a Buddhist, I feel alienated from your readership. I would greatly appreciate more posts about gender equality, and less about dogma.

Or from no, on my home blog:

Oh, so this is touchy-feely NewAge/Sewage Dipshit Central? Not that I had that high a regard for Feministe anyway, but with you spewing superstitious woo-woo crap all over it these days, that’s one more reason to stick to feminist blogs that value skepticism and reason.

Truth be told, I empathize with the wariness around spirituality. Took me years and years to even try any form of meditation, despite a long-time interest in Buddhist philosophy. Wouldn’t get within 50 yards of an altar or shrine, or assume any kind of bodily position that could in any way be construed as religious, prayer-like, or devotee-ish. (Yoga I rationalized as just another type of exercise.)

All I can say is, I’m glad I got over myself enough to test it out. 🙂

If any of y’all have an interest in investigating the dhamma in the Vipassana/Theravada school, and can find some time, there are free 10-day Vipassana meditation courses (totally donation-based: food and lodging provided) in countries all over the world — with 14 in the U.S. alone. Or if there’s a dharma meditation center near you, you can check it out on your own schedule. Any sangha (dhamma community) would benefit from an influx of quality feminist practitioners!

To repeat Donald Rothberg’s words, “the two paths deeply need each other.”

Thanks again, everybody, and take care.

–katie

(Ps: Please feel warmly welcomed to get in touch at katie (dot) loncke (at) gmail (dot) com, on the Facebook, or at Kloncke.com.)

The Shape of the Problem

What I wanted to talk about today is employment. I am currently unemployed, and have known very few trans people offline who weren’t in the same situation. It’s difficult to really get a true sense of the employment situation for trans people, since most studies are small, and few if any actually separate the sexes (which would give us a much clearer picture of who in our community is unemployed). But here’s what we can say for sure: compared to the general population, it’s really bloody awful.

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Oscar Grant, Audre Lorde, Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche and the question of loving our enemies.

[Trigger Warning: discussions of sexual assault and deadly State force.]

Love your enemies.

For feminists, is there any phrase more terrifyingly reactionary?

Love your enemies. Even the one who assaults you in private and reaps accolades as a brilliant community organizer in public. (One of my mom’s former boyfriends.)

Love your enemies. Even the ones who throw cherry bombs at you in the school bathrooms. (My dad’s fellow students at Yale, in the 1950s.)

Love your enemies. Even the one who tells you women should be seamstresses, not lawyers. (Opa — my mom’s dad.)

Love your enemies. Even the one who tells you, as a child, to bit down on your lower lip so it won’t grow too big. (Grandma — my dad’s mom.)

Love your enemies. Even the white police officer who shot and killed you while you were lying helpless, face-down on the ground with another officer’s knee on your neck. (Oscar Grant, a 22-year-old Black man killed Jan 1, 2009 in an Oakland subway station.)

Jury deliberations began yesterday for Johannes Mehserle, the Bay Area Rapid Transit police officer who fatally shot Oscar Grant. All of Oakland awaits the verdict. Both police and non-profits are making preparations to quell the “violence” anticipated after this “deadly lightning rod” of a trial.

Deadly? Violence? According to CNN’s coverage, not one single person was seriously injured in the 2009 protests following Grant’s death. Nobody injured, let alone killed. Windows were broken; dumpsters set afire. Is this violence? Sounds more like property destruction to me.

Whatever happens, whether riots flare up or not, things will once again settle, and the ordinary state violence will resume as usual. After all, there’s only one individual on trial — not an entire racist police force armed with deadly weapons. Not an entire patriarchal, militaristic, anti-immigrant, plutocratic (ruled by wealth) law enforcement system. Not California, the US state running “the largest prison system in the Western world.” That won’t be standing trial anytime soon. So what are we supposed to do?

Love your enemies.

What an injunction, huh? Just how are we supposed to achieve this? And why?

The “how” I’ll leave aside for now. Let’s focus on the why.

Why should we love our enemies? Why not hate them? Or at least get angry?

Audre Lorde, one of my all-time favorite feminists, has one answer. With hatred we harm ourselves, and anger only takes us halfway to where we need to go. From “Eye To Eye: Black Women, Hatred, and Anger”:

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Obama, the first female president?

Someone is wrong on the internet!

Cartoon via XKCD

You may have read this terrible op-ed by Kathleen Parker, a Washington Post opinion columnist, published a couple of days ago. It was burning up my Twitter feed all day. In it, Kathleen Parker argues that Barack Obama is our first female president. Yes, that is what she said. And she proceeds to make a terrible case that can be summed up as such: Obama is a terrible president because he is not manly enough. He is acting like a woman, and losing political points because of it.

I was annoyed enough that I couldn’t even formulate a coherent response for two days. Fortunately, some bloggers I know and love, such as Rachel Sklar and Mary C. Curtis, did a pretty good job of vocalizing why this column was so disgusting.

Now, I will try to add something of my own.

Parker’s case for Obama being “female” is as follows: he has a testosterone shortage, he “displays many tropes of femaleness,” and that he is like all women, who “tend to be coalition builders rather than mavericks (with the occasional rogue exception). While men seek ways to measure themselves against others, for reasons requiring no elaboration, women form circles and talk it out.” She also adds that Obama is “is a chatterbox who makes Alan Alda look like Genghis Khan,” and that his speech on the oil spill “featured 13 percent passive-voice constructions.”

I think the reason I didn’t write about this before was just because I didn’t know where to start. I mean: there are so many problems! Kathleen Parker would say that this is because I am a female who is passive and meek and likes to “talk it out” rather than issue a straight-up takedown of someone. So now I will try to list just all the big glaring things she is WRONG about:

1) The overarching message that being a president is a role reserved only for men

2) The notion that there are a strict set of traits that are inherently female and inherently male

3) The idea that stepping out of traditional gender roles always has negative consequences

4) That Kathleen Parker is given a platform from which to broadcast her opinions, something few people are given, and she chooses to use it perpetuating 1950s-style gender stereotypes that we should have done away with by 2010

5) The minor aside that this is a poorly written piece filled with bad metaphors, hollow statements, very little research, broad generalizations, and almost no facts.

7) Her admission of the fact that, yes, women are often faced with sexism when running for political office, and her attitude that women should just man up if they want to make it in politics. Perhaps the only decent sentence in this entire piece is as follows:

Women, inarguably, still are punished for failing to adhere to gender norms by acting “too masculine” or “not feminine enough.”

But Parker then proceeds to ruin it by talking about how the only way to be a good politician is to be more “masculine.”

What mystifies me is that presumably serious publications such as the Washington Post give people like Kathleen Parker a platform from which to voice this kind of terrible crap, and then PEOPLE BELIEVE THEM. I have already seen plenty of white dudes read this and chuckle and scratch their heads as if actually considering it seriously. It is because of stuff like this that women continue to face struggles in being elected to office: at every possible opportunity, people like Kathleen Parker question whether women can make effective political leaders and posit that political leadership requires inherently “masculine” traits. She makes broad generalizations about how all women act, and then claims that these “feminine” traits are negative and are not suited for politics. Those damn females! They talk so much and they use passive voice constructions! Clearly this is why they cannot be president!

As an aside, Parker was recently offered a gig co-hosting a new CNN show with none other than the disgraced criminal and former governor of New York, Eliot Spitzer. This is where I shake my head and wonder what is going on with our media.

When Blogging, Just Blog.*

To say that blogging can be dhammic is not to claim that it can substitute for formal techniques of spiritual practice. Those techniques are designed to help bring us face-to-face with the hard lessons — otherwise, it becomes just another feel-good affair (or, as I once heard Mary Ann Brussat call it, “salad-bar spirituality”). Still, with any spiritual teaching, it’s easy to get too wrapped up in literalism and formalism. So we have to remember to engage creatively with the mundane — the materials already before us. Whether that’s blogging or boxing or BDSM roleplaying.

Yesterday I talked a bit about how sexism keeps us from taking journal blogging seriously. Today, 5 reasons the medium suits dhamma practice terrifically, with particular advantages as a new form of spiritual autobiography.

1. The highest wisdom comes from experience. In the dhamma, there is value in both wisdom heard from others and wisdom reasoned out for oneself, but ultimate wisdom comes only through direct experience. We can understand the texts and lectures, we can meditate, but unless we apply the dhamma in life, we won’t be able to realize and internalize its benefits. Memoir blogging can help put the focus squarely on the stuff of everyday life, a rich and often underestimated field of dhamma. As Chokyi Nyima says,

[H]onestly, it’s not that one has to go to some other place and close the door and be quiet in order to practice. That’s not the only way. It’s definitely the case that we can practice at any given moment. We can always try a little more to be kind, to be compassionate and be careful about what we do and say and so forth.

2. Dialectical praxis. Theory makes practice makes theory makes practice. A basic understanding of journal blogging might be: harvesting raw material from real life, then fashioning them into stories for online distribution and discussion. Something like this:

two people makin' out, while one of them uses a camera phone to document the moment.

But we can also choose to use blogging not just for communication and performance, but reflection. We can establish a dialectical relationship between online and offline activity: particularly when mindfulness and reflexivity are applied in both contexts.

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Mel Gibson: Definitely a rational, kind and Christian-seeming kind of guy.

So Mel Gibson ranting about The Jews and calling a cop “sugar tits” was pretty high on the “wow what an asshole” scale. But he definitely just topped himself here by calling his estranged partner, Oksana Grigorieva, [trigger warning!] a series of misogynist names (the usual – whore, cunt, etc etc) and then screaming “You look like a fucking pig in heat and if you get raped by a pack of niggers it will be your fault.

Very nice, Mel Gibson. You are definitely not a bigot or a misogynist of any kind.

He also tells her that he’s going to “burn the fucking house down … but you will blow me first.” Which is maybe kind of a rape threat?

Oksana says she recorded the conversations because she was afraid for her safety. She previously accused Mel of punching her in the face twice, giving her a concussion and breaking her teeth; he said that they simply had a loud argument. Which is fair. I mean, who among us doesn’t define “loud argument” as “punching someone in the face”?

I’m going to go ahead and say that Mel Gibson is both an asshole and a very scary human being. Not that this is surprising, at this point. But he probably should not be left with Oksana or his children unsupervised, and I hope all of Hollywood has the sense not to cast him or work with him on any more projects. But of course, if his career finally implodes after this, it will surely be the fault of the Jews.