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And happy Memorial Day!

Once Again: Rape is NOT Your Personal Metaphor

HUGE TRIGGER WARNING

So remember how we were having a conversation fairly recently about assholes who throw around the word “rape” to mean anything but? Well I’m sure you’ll all be shocked to know that not every person on the internet read that discussion about how horrifying, triggering, pointless, blatantly misogynistic and fucking stupid such a use of the word is.

Including, even more shockingly, the fine folks at that upstanding blog known as Gawker (which, I believe I was recently reading, doesn’t currently have a single regular female writer on staff?). Because this is how CajunBoy decided to describe the awful, no good, very bad experience of . . . wait for it . . . developing a TV show! (Below the fold, and again, Huge Trigger Warning)

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Lady Looks Like a Dude

Hey, guess what the latest misogynist attack on Michelle Obama is, everyone? Are you ready for this? It’s none other than that old transphobic, gender-enforcement standby, “THAT’S A MAAAAAAAN, BABY!”

The consistently amazing Monica Roberts of Trans Griot surfaced this clip of stand-up comedian and SNL vet Jay Mohr on Jim Rome’s sports radio talk show.

[at around 2:00 into the clip] Michelle Obama — that is a big dude. When Barack plays pick up games at the White House, you know he picks Michelle as at least his forward, maybe his [center] depending on who’s in Congress that day.

That has to be like being married to Elton Brand. She is a big dude. I like when she put her arm around the Queen of England and she put her in a headlock and told her, “I’ve been waiting 200 years to put my arms around you, lady.” I love that.

I like how she shaved off her eyebrows, and then drew them back way too high into an arch, and then straight back down, so she always looks super surprised. She kind of, Michelle Obama kind of looks like the Count on Sesame Street. One — hah hah hah — One Black President — hah hah hah.

Real classy way to treat the First Lady — but if you ask me, Jay Mohr has always been about as funny as a week-old sack of dead rats. He’s clearly whipping out his most tired material for Rome’s sports-radio army of clones, too. Scott Madin noted over at Shakesville that there are even more racist, transphobic jokes (somehow related to steroids and gynecomastia, I guess?) later on in the clip, at about 3:30.

But transphobic misogyny on talk radio is a dog-bites-man story, right? One of the more interesting angles here is how women in color are targeted by this kind of bullshit in very particular ways. White people’s bodies form an unquestioned “default” of normalcy and beauty, but the exoticized and demonized bodies of other peoples are scrutinized for difference — taller, wider, differently proportioned, associated with any number of stereotypes. Monica has touched on this subject in earlier posts as well, about particular ways black women have been subjected to the “you look like a tranny” insult, and about distorted, grotesque media portrayal of black trans women. I could write a whole essay about being an Asian-American trans woman, and what that means in the minefield of overlapping stereotypes. And really, how much doubt is there that race factors into Mohr’s insecure sniping at a “big black woman” with “scary vampire eyebrows?”

I want to explore something a little bit different for the rest of this post, however. What struck me about this clip was how Jay Mohr (and other misogynist assholes like Perez Hilton) have managed to sink so low that they’re making the same kinds of jokes as mainstream liberal bloggers. That’s right, liberal bloggers who feel fine about targeting Ann Coulter in exactly the same way: the “Mann Coulter” joke. Do we really need to explain why this isn’t OK? Apparently we still do. In the last month I’ve seen several “defenses” mounted for this kind of joke, even from people you’d never expect to be publicizing such deeply problematic humor. But maybe the equal-opportunity slagging of Michelle Obama for “mannishness” will open some eyes? One can only hope.

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Friday Random Ten – the “What rare thing do you get when you cross a feminist and an attorney?” edition

Answer: A lawyer who won’t screw you. (h/t thebalcony on Twitter for that joke).

Yes, it’s true, I am officially a Real Lawyer as of this past Monday, when I was admitted to the New York Bar. And I just moved into a new apartment, and it’s a long weekend, so this Friday is very celebratory. Some Grizzly Bear to kick it off:

You know the deal: Set your MP3 player to “shuffle” and post the first 10 songs that come up.

1. Jill Scott – Free
2. Liars – The Garden was Crowded and Out
3. Goldfrapp – A&E (Maps Remix)
4. The Capstan Shafts – Hp to the Sweet Blue World Again
5. Architecture in Helsinki – That Beep
6. The Avett Brothers – Nothing Short of Thankful
7. Tom Waits – Blind Love
8. MGMT – Pieces of What
9. The Shins – One By One All Day
10. Chris Garneau – Castle Time

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Oh my God, was your high school boyfriend onto something?

According to a recent paper by Guttmacher, perhaps…

A new commentary, “Better Than Nothing or Savvy Risk-Reduction Practice? The Importance of Withdrawal,” by Rachel K. Jones et al., published in the June 2009 issue of Contraception, highlights that withdrawal is only slightly less effective than the male condom at preventing pregnancy. Yet there is a general reluctance among health care providers and individuals alike to consider withdrawal as a viable method of contraception—even as a backup to more effective methods or as an alternative to not using contraceptives at all—which likely stems from misconceptions about its effectiveness at preventing unintended pregnancy. The article examines why this lack of enthusiasm persists despite the method’s relative effectiveness, as well as the consequences of the method’s lack of popularity.

The best available estimates indicate that with “perfect use,” 4% of couples relying on withdrawal will become pregnant within a year, compared with 2% of couples relying on the male condom. More realistic estimates suggest that with “typical use,” 18% of couples relying on withdrawal will become pregnant within a year, compared with 17% of those using the male condom. In other words, with either method, more than eight in 10 avoid pregnancy.

I don’t know. Still sounds awfully shady to me. There’s way too little margin for error. And maybe I’m just having high school backseat flashbacks, but you’d really have to trust your partner to have the self-awareness and self-control enough to pull out in time. Mm. Nah. Even the best-intentioned person can lose their head (yeah yeah yeah) in the heat of the moment.

The High Cost of Poverty

This won’t surprise people who have ever been poor, but poor people pay more for things that middle-class people take for granted.

Poverty 101: We’ll start with the basics.

Like food: You don’t have a car to get to a supermarket, much less to Costco or Trader Joe’s, where the middle class goes to save money. You don’t have three hours to take the bus. So you buy groceries at the corner store, where a gallon of milk costs an extra dollar.

A loaf of bread there costs you $2.99 for white. For wheat, it’s $3.79. The clerk behind the counter tells you the gallon of leaking milk in the bottom of the back cooler is $4.99. She holds up four fingers to clarify. The milk is beneath the shelf that holds beef bologna for $3.79. A pound of butter sells for $4.49. In the back of the store are fruits and vegetables. The green peppers are shriveled, the bananas are more brown than yellow, the oranges are picked over.

(At a Safeway on Bradley Boulevard in Bethesda, the wheat bread costs $1.19, and white bread is on sale for $1. A gallon of milk costs $3.49 — $2.99 if you buy two gallons. A pound of butter is $2.49. Beef bologna is on sale, two packages for $5.)

Prices in urban corner stores are almost always higher, economists say. And sometimes, prices in supermarkets in poorer neighborhoods are higher. Many of these stores charge more because the cost of doing business in some neighborhoods is higher. “First, they are probably paying more on goods because they don’t get the low wholesale price that bigger stores get,” says Bradley R. Schiller, a professor emeritus at American University and the author of “The Economics of Poverty and Discrimination.”

“The real estate is higher. The fact that volume is low means fewer sales per worker. They make fewer dollars of revenue per square foot of space. They don’t end up making more money. Every corner grocery store wishes they had profits their customers think they have.”

Of course it’s not just that groceries are more expensive — it’s also that there’s a dearth of fresh fruits and vegetables and healthy food items. Where those items are available, they’re significantly more expensive than frozen foods. If you have a family to feed and a box of frozen fish sticks is the same price as one pear, it’s not a tough calculus.

And food is just the start of it:

When you are poor, you don’t have the luxury of throwing a load into the washing machine and then taking your morning jog while it cycles. You wait until Monday afternoon, when the laundromat is most likely to be empty, and you put all of that laundry from four kids into four heaps, bundle it in sheets, load a cart and drag it to the corner.

“When you are poor, you substitute time for money,” says Randy Albelda, an economics professor at the University of Massachusetts at Boston. “You have to work a lot of hours and still not make a lot of money. You get squeezed, and your money is squeezed.”

The poor pay more in hassle: the calls from the bill collectors, the landlord, the utility company. So they spend money to avoid the hassle. The poor pay for caller identification because it gives them peace of mind to weed out calls from bill collectors.

The rich have direct deposit for their paychecks. The poor have check-cashing and payday loan joints, which cost time and money. Payday advance companies say they are providing an essential service to people who most need them. Their critics say they are preying on people who are the most “economically vulnerable.”

“As you’ve seen with the financial services industry, if people can cut a profit, they do it,” Blumenauer says. “The poor pay more for financial services. A lot of people who are ‘unbanked’ pay $3 for a money order to pay their electric bill. They pay a 2 percent check-cashing fee because they don’t have bank services. The reasons? Part of it is lack of education. But part of it is because people target them. There is evidence that credit-card mills have recently started trolling for the poor. They are targeting the recently bankrupt.”

Read the whole thing.

Feministe Feedback: Navigating Race in My New Neighborhood

A reader writes in about getting involved in her new neighborhood. She prefaced this email with a note saying that it might sound stupid and borderline “please educate the white girl,” but she wants to emphasize that she’s asking the question in good faith and is sincerely looking to have a discussion about gentrification, race and community involvement.

I am a white female, almost 26, and moving into a predominantly black neighborhood in August with my (white) husband. The side of the city alone tends to scare both my white and black friends and acquaintances alike, and this block in particular has a particularly bad reputation. I’ve lived in this city nearly my entire life, in various different neighborhoods, and have gone to inner-city public schools throughout the entirety of my education, so the problem isn’t a fear of black people or an overt racism that I have to overcome (I obviously acknowledge the white privilege I have and try my best to keep it in check), but a worry about how to become involved in my community without coming off as “the white girl that wants to save the black people.”

The landlords (who have lived next door for over two decades) have raved about the neighbors and their involvement in the betterment of the community. I would very much love to be involved in community organizing, no matter how informal, and appreciate the idea of what the landlord called “porch parties,” where we all walk up and down the block, meeting and having a beer on each others’ porches, getting to know everyone, ensuring a safer neighborhood by sheer numbers alone. I would like to, for once, actually know who my local congressional representative is and meet with other neighbors to discuss our issues as a community, and I think I’m personally at a point in my life where doing something with immediate results is actually something I have the motivation for.

How do I participate in the community, made up of predominantly African-American people, when it comes to negative issues that, while they affect me as a fellow resident, especially affect them? How do I make sure that I don’t get the wrong idea across? Without looking like a martyr who moves in to save everyone, or a proponent of gentrification? I’m so hyper-paranoid about giving any of my new neighbors the wrong idea, that I’m afraid it will do much more damage than good.

Any suggestions or thoughts?

Remember that you can send your Feministe Feedback questions to feministe@gmail.com.

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Conclusion: 91% of ConservativeHQ Readers are Idiots.

Richard Viguerie is the supposed “founding father” of conservative strategy in the United States and the chairman of the website ConservativeHQ. He also runs an annoying email list to which I have somehow become subscribed. I usually delete his emails without opening them, but today, the headline caught my eye:

91% of Conservatives Believe Obama is a Socialist, Marxist, Communist or Fascist.

Apparently, 91% of conservatives don’t understand that words mean things. And they wonder why they’re increasingly irrelevant.