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Friday Random Ten – the Officially Burned Out edition

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Do I really have to do this Bar study BS for another month? Isn’t it vacation time yet?

And, since I know at least a few other Feministe readers are in the same boat, a question: What makes you want to scratch your own eyes out more, Property or Wills? (I vote Property, even though the fabulous Paula Franzese and her little songs make it much better).

1. Sally Shapiro – Jackie Junior (Junior Boys Remix)
2. Death Cab for Cutie – Little Furry Bugs
3. Rhett Miller – I Want to Live
4. MIA- Come Around
5. Tom Waits – How’s It Gonna End?
6. Guided by Voices – Glad Girls
7. Mogwai – Kids Will Be Skeletons
8. Bill Evans Trio – Stan’s Blues
9. The Elected – Greetings in Braille
10. Jill Scott – Free

Friday Video is pretty:

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A Few Words on Honour(less) Killing

If you’re looking about information on what Arabs and Muslims are doing about honour-killing (or honourless killing), a good place to start is this website. I highly recommend the site as a good resource for progressive opinions on this dreadful phenomenon. I also invite you to check out my friend and anti-honour crime crusader, Jordanian journalist Rana Husseini. Finally, stop by Ali Eteraz’s blog for possible Quranic wisdom on the subject.

These resources are important, especially today, when many of us outsiders are content to say, “eh, it’s their culture,” oblivious to the fact that there is a conflict raging on within the culture itself.

While honour killing is a very specific phenomenon, it does have its echoes throughout the world.

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How to Counter Harmful Tween & Teen Magazines – Part One

University of Minnesota research finds that teen girls “who frequently read magazine articles about dieting were more likely five years later [emphasis added] to practice extreme weight-loss measures … than girls who never read such articles.”.

That’s terrifying for parents, grandparents, aunts & uncles, teachers and youth workers because we know most girls will read those magazines at some point. What to do? Here’s Part One of how you can counter their harmful influence.

  • If she’s not a tween yet, decide ahead of time at what age you will allow her to read which magazines.
  • Try to avoid censorship, which makes the magazines “forbidden fruit” she reads in secret—where you can’t discuss them with her.
  • Read her magazines yourself (yes, this is excruciatingly painful to do, but it’s crucial) so you can converse casually (not lecture her!) about them.
  • Look critically at the magazines you read (both the articles and the ads). Do they objectify females or reduce them to body parts? How would you feel if it was your daughter in those photographs/stories?
  • Do your magazines make you judge your body? Do they make you crave certain clothes, cars, products, etc? Look for the parallels in her magazines.
  • Ask your daughter to identify her favorite article and ad in each issue. Listen for her underlying emotional need and think about other ways you can help her meet that need. Is she concerned about her body? Is she worried about fitting in or getting male attention?
  • Provide positive attention for ALL of who she is and she’ll have less desire for “appearance-only” attention from others.

To be continued tomorrow with Part Two ….

11-year-old Romanian rape survivor permitted abortion

Good news: Despite threats from anti-choice groups, the 11-year-old Romanian girl who was raped by her uncle has been allowed to terminate the pregnancy.

In a letter to the government committee, the girl said she wanted to be able “to go to school and to play”.

“If I can’t do this my life will be a nightmare,” she said, according to a text read out by government committee member Vlad Iliescu.

“The committee has decided that a voluntary termination of the pregnancy can be carried out,” said Mr Iliescu.

He said the abortion could take place because the girl was a victim of sexual abuse and faced “major risks to her mental health” if the pregnancy continued.

In response, 20 “pro-life” Christian Orthodox groups have threatened to press charges.

How nice.

But despite the predictable actions by anti-choicers, it sounds like other religious groups and community members have rallied around her:

While some pro-life Christian Orthodox groups had urged the family to keep the child, and offered to raise it in a church institution, the Romanian Orthodox Church said any decision on abortion should be left to the family.

The girl’s parents had said they wanted to travel to a country where such a late-term abortion was legal.

In Romania abortion is only normally allowed beyond 14 weeks if the mother’s life is deemed to be at risk. In Britain, they can be carried out up to 24 weeks in some circumstances.

A Romanian living in the UK had offered to cover the costs of a termination there.

It’s a good reminder that there are lots of individuals, organizations and religious groups that are willing to help where they can. It’s easy to get caught up on the actions of fundamentalists, but they are hardly the rule, despite the fact that they’re disproportionately loud and powerful.

Irrational, Hysterical and Angry

I decided to dedicate this post to the code words typically attributed to feminists.  Of course you cannot point out social injustice without being angry, irrational, and hysterical.  All logical people naturally exist as automatons, going through their days parroting the status quo. Only an unbalanced person would even begin to think that the system we live under could possibly be unfair.  What do you mean all men operate with gender privilege? In fact even pointing out that calling a feminist angry, irrational, and hysterical is sexist, is enough to further entrench the views of some.

Angry: When aimed at a black female such as myself this is never a neutral comment.  The angry black woman is a social construction that is used to uphold  racial, and gender hierarchy.   In a wider gender discourse labeling someone as angry is an attempt at silencing, and dismissing. Are there issues in this world worth being angry about..yes, but does that mean that we live a life filled with anger,…no.  Even if we admit to anger, why is this a bad thing?  When I read in the newspaper about women being murdered, raped and abused, would it make me a better person if I just put a smile on my face, and said c’est la vie?  Perhaps I should consult with my doctor, and become yet another one of those over medicated Prozac twits, so that I can dull my feelings of genuine outrage every time women are treated like disposable bodies without any value.  How can I not be thrilled knowing that women still make less than men, are increasingly denied access to birth control, and that women are unnecessarily being castrated by doctors, who believe that if you are past child bearing age, your uterus is the equivalent of a spare tire.

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Obama and the Death Penalty

I don’t think anyone can be reasonably surprised when a progressive Democratic Presidential candidate disappoints us. But Obama didn’t have to speak out on the recent Supreme Court decision about the death penalty, and yet he chose to — against their decision and in support of capital punishment. I’m with Liliana on this one:

There’s no question the sexual assault of a child is a monstrous thing, the kind of utterly indefensible crime that can test the resolve of anyone who opposes the death penalty on moral grounds. Indeed, it is the sort of offense death penalty supporters reach for in arguing for the “ultimate sanction.” For a political candidate, it’s a particularly easy position to take. What kind of a person would attack you for saying a child rapist deserves to die?

In fact, in the recent history of the death penalty, calling for the execution of a person who commits a crime other than murder is a radical stance. Nobody has been executed for such an offense in the United States in over 40 years. Until yesterday, only two people out of more than 3,200 prisoners on death row faced execution for a crime in which the victim did not die. Affirming the death penalty for child rape would not only have potentially placed thousands more people on death row — as Justice Anthony Kennedy noted yesterday, there were 5,792 rapes of children under 12 in 2005 alone — it would have vastly broadened the net for capital crimes, a trend that would quickly become a slippery slope. Nevertheless, “I think that the rape of a small child, 6 or 8 years old, is a heinous crime,” Obama said yesterday, “and if a state makes a decision that under narrow, limited, well-defined circumstances the death penalty is at least potentially applicable, that that does not violate our Constitution.” Never mind cruel and unusual punishment. (And yes, that is Obama embracing the conservative mantle of states’ rights.)

Obama’s defenders may argue, as they do about his other recent shifts to the right, that he had to take this position in order to strengthen his candidacy. No, he didn’t. The Democrats may continue to operate in a world in which opposition to the death penalty equals political death, a world shaped by that famous 1988 Dukakis moment, in which the Democratic presidential candidate was hapless when challenged to state that he would support the killing of a man who raped his wife. But times have changed. While the Democrats have embraced the death penalty, public support for it has dwindled — especially in recent years. The regular exonerations of innocent prisoners in this country (218 and counting), persistent evidence of rampant racial and economic bias, and botched executions nationwide have led people — and juries — more and more, to reject the death penalty. Chalk it up, as the Supreme Court likes to, to our “evolving standards of decency.”

I have no sympathy for the monsters who rape children. If anyone deserves to die, it’s probably them. But I still oppose the death penalty — not only because I believe it’s morally and ethically wrong, but also because it’s impossible to assign equitably. The decision of who gets put to death and who doesn’t is far too dependent on the state where the trial is held, on the characteristics of the defendant, and on the characteristics of the jury. Criminal defendants don’t have a as good of a chance if they’re of a certain color or a certain economic class in certain states — and death is simply too harsh a penalty to be applied haphazardly.

Of course, even if was applied to every criminal, the death penalty would still be wrong. It’s unnecessary and cruel. And the fact that we really hate the person who committed the crime doesn’t justify it. I’m disappointed to see Obama on the wrong side of this one.

Feministe Feedback: Seeking a feminist career

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A reader writes in:

I’m at a sort of crossroads. I’m 26 years old and I’m a web designer. I don’t really have any attachment to this job; I liked designing websites in my spare time, and it pays the bills. Right now I’m in clinical research, which I like because I’m helping the world be a better place.

I feel sort of like this isn’t going anywhere, though. I have thought of going to law school. I have also recently (after seeing that article about EMTs refusing service to women) thought about going into medicine.

My question is this – what can I do? How can I help? I am smart and I am willing and able to go to school (I live in the DC Metro area, if that matters). I believe I could get over squeamishness with exposure. If I go to law school, what kind of lawyer would be the most helpful? What kinds of things can I do to dedicate my otherwise directionless life to something that will make the world better for women?

Thanks in advance for any advice you or your readers can offer.

Sign me,
Mad as Hell and Not Gonna Take it Anymore in Virginia

Any suggestions for a smart, passionate feminist looking for some direction?

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The Latest in Stupid Laws You Probably Didn’t Know About: HIV Criminalization

Recently at The Center for HIV Law and Policy, we’ve been helping out with this case, in which a woman is facing jail time for exposing her husband to HIV.

The woman being charged faces up to 10 years in prison. Her husband has also gotten a restraining order against her, and she has been unable to see her four-year-old son, on the grounds that she will somehow transmit HIV to him. The criminal charges pending against her will make it harder for her to receive custody.

We don’t yet know all of the facts of the case. We know what her husband is alleging (but people say a lot of things when divorce proceedings get underway). We know that her version of events is different. Perhaps more importantly, we know that she is black and her husband is white. We also know that she doesn’t come from money, and he has more resources. I can’t help but think that the zealousness with which the District Attorney is pursuing this case might have something to do with those facts.

The criminalization of HIV has been an ongoing issue since the 80s. For as long as people have been talking about locking everyone with the disease up and suggesting that HIV+ people be branded with a tattoo, there have been efforts to punish punish punish anyone with HIV, particularly if they dare to have sex.

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Feministe Feedback: How to cover feminist issues in the media

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A great call for feminist-minded suggestions:

I’m interning at a political website for the summer, and I have the opportunity to work on the womens issues/reproductive rights beat. I hear a lot of complaining about the mainstream media and how they cover women’s issues, so I’m asking the Feministe community for suggestion. How would you like to see these issues covered? What issues aren’t being covered enough? The publication I’m working for isn’t exactly mainstream, but we’ve had stories on the front pages of Huffington and Talking Points Memo. I think I’ll be writing about a story a week, plus blog posts.

Ideas? Suggestions?

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Hey You Fatty

That’s right I’m talking to you fatty with no shape and no curves.  You queen of the anti-woman, don’t try and hide your grotesqueness under the label of thick. Qviloa is on to your desperate little charade. You cannot possibly love your body the way it is, because it is not appealing to men.

“In North America it seems that most white men like thin women, while most black men like thick women. When people say that black men like fat women they are mixing up fat with thick.”

While you are conforming your body to meet male standards make sure that you slide yourself into the appropriate racial category. If you are white and happen to fall under the category of “thick”, the males that you are “supposed” to mate with will still find you unappealing. That’s right white women, you have to go the extra step and make sure that you are anorexic enough to meet the modern day beauty standards, or you may find yourself alone night after night living out that famous New Years eve scene from Bridget Jones Diary. Can you picture yourself alone, drunk and singing all by yourself? That is the life that awaits you. Isn’t avoiding that, worth getting a serious disease and starving yourself half to death.  Buck up, think about what you are risking…if you don’t do this you may never have the pleasure of another deep dick again.

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