My blog is called Redfish for no particular reason. I’m a student at the University of Toronto majoring in classics and classical civilization. I love everything about the classics program. In fact, I love it so much that I’m aiming for grad school (fingers crossed!) I’ve just started to visit feministe, but I love the idea of an open blog day. So I had to put in my two cents:
I hate it when people tell me they understand how hard it is to be a black woman. It’s usually people who are otherwise fairly progressive who do this, and it drives me nuts.
Let’s get one thing straight: it isn’t hard to be black. It isn’t hard to be a woman.
What can be hard is the way people in this society treat me because I’m a black woman.
It seems like such a small distinction. Most people I’ve explained this to dismiss it with “it’s really not that big of a deal.” But you know what? It kinda is.
I don’t experience racism because I’m black. I experience it because some people are racists. Likewise, people don’t make sexist remarks to me because I’m a woman; they do it because they’re sexist. True, racism and sexism wouldn’t impact me in the same way if I wasn’t a black woman, but my being a black woman isn’t the problem. Racism and sexism are the problems.
This is just as true when it comes to the more invisible, systemic forms of oppression. The discrimination existing in society today is not intrinsically connected to the identities of groups being oppressed.
I know that it can be hard to acknowledge that the lives of women or black people can be incredibly, horribly difficult because of oppression without saying that it’s hard to be black or that it’s hard to be a woman. I don’t, actually, mind it when people use that shortcut–as long as they recognize that it is a shortcut.
I had this argument for the first time in high school. I wish I could say that it’s only teenagers who just. don’t. get it.
Being myself isn’t hard.
It’s the way some people react to my self that makes my life difficult.
Enyo Harlley
enyo_harlley@yahoo.ca