In the same vein as La Lubu, a comment is an inspiration for this post. In my previous post about Firestone, one comment stuck out to me the most. In response to the question (““Does pregnancy or sex comes first for women who desire both?”), Jamie said:
Try asking a lesbian who wants children. I like your blog, but this question is blatantly heterosexist.
The word that sticks out to me here is ”heterosexist”. Is someone heterosexist if they don’t want to see lesbians or gay men kissing in public? I would say that person is heterosexist. I definitely do not see myself as heterosexist but I am sure many times I have done it without even realising it. Do we as heterosexuals take our “luxuries” if they can even be called that for granted?
Words From A Wicked Woman was a fantastic blog from an African-American woman writing from a LGBT perspective. She opened my eyes concerning gay people of colour. One topic she discussed was the struggles of African LGBT campaigners. These campaigner suffer heterosexism due to the harsh and treacherous concept of ‘tradition’. Whenever I go home to Tanzania and discussions of homosexuality come up, no one is interested in hearing about their rights. However, I am interested and deeply. Another one I read is Angry Gay Black Canadian is another great blog from a black gay man in Canada. I love reading his perspective on the meeting of race and sexual orientation.
South Africa did a brilliant thing by passing that legislation but it hasn’t done anything to convince other African countries to wake up from the dead and pass the legislation. Is this because homosexuality is ‘un-African’ as some people maintain? Defining homosexuality in Africa as ‘un-African’ is heterosexist because it assumes that to have ‘African identity’, you have to be heterosexual. I don’t think most people who are homophobic at home care that much because religion and tradition are so fused these days so if you go against that double juggernaut, you are seen as Westernised…and ‘un-African’. (Something which I have been called many times).
This BBC opinion on homosexuality had some harsh views including:
Africa and Africans should not respect or entertain homosexuality in any form or fashion. Gay recognition and rights is a Western thing. African culture and tradition does support nor encourage such things… if I may go further here, neither does almight God support such a sinful act. -Osa Davies, United Kingdom
This sort of belief makes me feel sick. I just don’t understand it. Of course not all Africans who are against homosexuality think like this but I know from what I have heard when I am at home, many do. I would like to see one day where my country Tanzania and the whole continent celebrates all of her citizens regardless of sexual orientation. Sadly, it might not happen soon or the near future.