No offense, Jack, but the gay community has already done effemiphobia to death. There’ve also been approximately eight gazillion new pseudo-clinical greek/latin-derived terms coined in an attempt to get rid of the older, dingier, somehow-more-stigmatizing kind. In fact, for at least half of “androphilia,” you need to send a check to the estate of Harry Hay. But don’t take my word for it. I’m sure nineteen-year-old homos in bars across the union are coming to the exact same conclusions you are about how awesome it would be if all the other gay men could just stop acting so gay. It’s sort of like the, um, androphilic version of the “Why won’t women figure out what an awesome catch I am and stop being such stupid bitches?!” syndrome, except with more internalized hatred. Call it the Nice Gay. You should go find yourself some nice leather bears and ask them to relieve some of that anxiety.