Okay, so Kevin wrote a post on the Washington Post’s series on “Being a Black Man.” And I want to comment at length, but first I have to highlight this bit, because bwah ha ha ha ha ha!
Here’s a story: A Black man who was in all other respects a good person, when finding out that I lived with a gay man, could only respond, “how can you live in an apartment that smells like ass all the time?”
Really? I thought fags were all anal-retentive neat freaks.
Anyway, Kevin goes on to write about the Washington Post’s description of black male culture, which I’ll just re-quote here:
On the streets, strangers frequently give each other an uptick of the head when their eyes meet, a nod of black male acknowledgment. Black men have invented so many special handshakes that a recent McDonald’s commercial turns on this fact. Their commonality is often defined by their style, their walk, their slang and even how they refer to each other (”Slim,” “Shorty,” “Dawg,” “Mo,” “Brother”). Wherever black men congregate, there is often a comfort level that crosses class and generational lines. There is even a universally acknowledged black men’s club, the barbershop, where no subject is off limits.
(Q: What do two trannyboys do in bed together?
A: They take off their shirts.)
It can be such a thin line between celebrating commonality and parroting stereotypes, particularly when outsiders are doing it. The head-tic thing–which I’ve actually gotten from men, period, which is odd–is also something that queers of various stripes do. Ragdoll over at Television Without Pity called it, “The Look of Mutual Homosexual Acknowledgement.” I’ve also heard, “The Nod of Lesbian Solidarity.” A quick non-verbal “hey” to the only other one in the room could well be a more general thing.
Which kind of makes me wonder how the Washington Post is going to deal with commonality as a function of racism and segregation, or as a historical firebrake against racism, and whether–as Kevin points out–it’ll make much of an effort to separate reality from pop-culture stereotype.