My all-time favorite parenting blogger is throwing in the towel for the time being after being taken into court for child support under the shittiest circumstances I can imagine. Jim McQuiggin has been a full-time single dad, amicably sharing custody with his ex-wife, only engaging in the court system in ways that will legally cover both of their asses, for about two years.
Last year, Jim lost his job and was unable to continue his child support payments in full, but paid what he could when he could while sharing equal time with the children. His ex-wife was also unemployed at the time and had to apply for government services to support herself and their children, at which point the state filed a case against Jim in her name on behalf of her children despite her protests.
Jim is currently facing six months of jail time, despite his and his ex-wife’s cooperation, despite his continued payment of support:
The state demands remittance; they’re not giving TANF money without making me pay. And they’ve made their assessment based on my income two months after I got fired (when X made her claim) as opposed to what I make now – less than half of what I used to make. Interesting that the state will research a job I haven’t had for two months (at around $2200 a month) but can’t be bothered to research a job I have now (about $900 a month).
More interesting is that the state won’t do simple math. Even if the 49%/51% split was true, X would have the children 7.3 more days per year. With the state requiring $638.00 per month, I am being asked to pay child support in the amount of $1,048.77 per day.
365 / 51% = 186.15
365 / 49% = 178.85
186.15 – 178.85 = 7.3
$638 x 12 = $7656
$7656 / 7.3 = $1048.77
Even in my most hedonistic drug days, I never spent a fifth of that. I can’t imagine spending a grand a day on anything, frankly. Nor should I expect the state to expect any ordinary citizen to spend that kind of money. Then again, I’m talking about mindless bureaucrats, worthless parasites who would not think twice about spending a grand a day of your tax money.
I’ve read the letter Jim’s ex is submitting on his behalf and it is entirely clear that the state is not interested in serving this family’s best interests. Jim has requested that I and others post about this because he is at a loss for legal assistance. His court-appointed attorney does not seem to feel the gravity of the situation as Jim, his ex, and their three children feel.
His court date is this Thursday.
Trish Wilson has been writing on this phenomenon for years — no matter what we are told about child support and custody laws, ultimately the state’s main concern is itself. In the meantime, a specialized set of lawmakers make a racket off of our greatest fears of forcible separation from our families.