Another Lynne asks something that I think is worth entertaining especially as feminist blogs become more prevalent in the ‘sphere. In part,
Where I get caught up in ambivalence is how to address those commenters who claim to know nothing about feminism. Yes, this blog certainly *is* advanced feminism. But still, shouldn’t we be willing to educate someone when they ask us? (Regardless of how facetious they may be when doing so) OTOH, so often this type of “commenting” is really just a way to drag strawfeminists out for them to ridicule and preach the hate, I don’t want to dignify that stuff with a response.
And at what point do we (reasonably) bring the smackdown to this nonsense? If the person is starting from the belief that feminism is *truly* about women being better than men, it takes an awful lot of work to teach them otherwise. (speaking from personal experience).
I’ve made some odd friends out of flame wars and heavy disagreements, but never in the public space of the blog. Usually this requires waiting until after the mess is over, contact through email and clarification of the messier bits point by point with a great deal of humor. While I don’t necessarily expect to change others’ views, I have softened them to the idea of feminism, or at least gain more respect for Jill and I with these contacts. Because my underlying philosophy for this blog is honest communication, as heady or juvenile as it may get, I attempt to operate from this frame.
Since the audience at Feministe suddenly exploded, taking the blog from a small, insular community to a readership I can’t quite wrap my head around, these jeers and flames have become more frequent, requiring greater moderation on my part to ensure that we have the kind of community where this honesty can prevail with good humor. I sometimes find myself holding comments from naysayers for a long while trying to decide whether or not their intent was in good or bad faith (some comments just get thrown into moderation automatically due to keywords or first-time posters) and eventually end up pushing it through, hoping for the best. I have found that most of the time people do want answers to their questions, no matter how angrily they are asked, and respect those who take the time to form genuine, reasoned answers, even if they still disagree. I do like to honor that. However, there is a difference between the general atmosphere we keep around this space and the kind of space fostered by those who followed us here from xoxo yesterday. This is a space that is generally intended to be one of de-escalation, not escalation, and when the naysayers come to inflame or escalate an ongoing argument (and we often respond in kind) none of these superficial boundaries can be crossed.
Some have wondered about the assortment of feminist-ambivalent folks around these parts lately and why Jill or I haven’t booted them out altogether. The truth is, I’ve invited them to stay. Stick around, watch, participate — you might warm up to us in the end. Some of them finally leave frustrated, and others, sometimes the most oppositional people, end up getting folded in to our little community. That’s been one of my favorite things about being the co-master of this domain and it won’t change any time soon.
Back to AL’s statement, it depends on the environment of the conversation and whether or not those who bring strawfeminists to prom decide to stick around long enough to get a feel for this board and begin to take it, and us, more seriously. Jill, the regulars, and I have been here far too long for me to let this degrade into a community that tolerates needlessly abusive language.*
But above all, I write selfishly. I write in a manner that, I hope, encourages readers to comment. Rarely have I come to a final conclusion on an issue and on many occasions my thoughts have been swayed by the conversations under the post. In a way, I like to write and then turn it all over to you, to see the comments you make, the thoughts I’ve inspired, and who I’ve pissed off, but most importantly, why.** When I turn it over to you, the reader and commenter, I often turn it over to you to fight your own fights and watch the rhetorical acrobatics that ensue. You rarely disappoint me.
Which, I suppose, hands this question off to you.
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* If at any point someone wants to remove their own comments or suggest the removal of a participant of the blog, I will take it into consideration. Email me at the address provided.
** And the bad puns. I love me some bad puns.