This week I’m guest posting over at Greta Van Der Rol’s blog, “Perceptions of Reality,” on the topic of moving past your “Aha!” moment in order to write something worth reading: http://gretavanderrol.net/2011/12/08/clear-your-throat-then-write/ My professor did not want half-baked musings. He wanted well-developed theories with cohesive, backed up logic. He wanted to be lead on a journey of discovery, rather than handed some undergrad’s fleeting moment of insight. -Meredith L.
Female friends: an untapped resource in fixing ‘Mary Sues’ in fiction Newt Gingrich wants to turn the movie ‘Moon’ into reality. Someone doesn’t understand The Grapes of Wrath. Hilarity ensues. Headlines I had to bash my head against the key board to type: Helping poor students learn: why child labor is not the answer.
Vague but happy memories of a restaurant I frequented with my parents: Tip of my Tongue I’ve decided to register for this year’s Warrior Dash – “Lady, are you on Glue?” Pressure to conform and keep up with the Jones, manifested in a simple meeting of my child’s friend’s parents: I bet June Cleaver Never Had to Deal with This Kind of Self-Doubt
Things I had to bash my head against the key board to type. Helping poor students learn: why child labor is not the answer. Female friends: the untapped resource for fixing Mary Sues in fiction Newt Gingrich would like to make the movie ‘Moon’ into real life.
The combination of the flu, my couch, laptop, tea and many fails has led to three posts this week: “Cut the Crap”, a shot rant about the male white privileged ignorance that intersectionality is still treated with. “Why Is the Rum Gone?”, a post about germany’s so-called “Pirate Party” and their fuzzy edges, and why their self-proclaimed progressiveness in terms of gender and race is complete bullshit. “Fauxminists, Season 2”, about the latest annoyance produced by self-proclaimed “troll feminism”, rape apologism and wannabe-witty fauxminists who do not even understand the mere basics of rape culture, slut shaming and victim blaming (obviously: Trigger Warning!).
I wrote about some of the complexities of relating to the veneration of Mary as a Roman Catholic feminist on the Feast of the Immaculate Conception (aka “Catholic trivia for $200, please”). And since my blog is named for Gaudete Sunday, which is today, I wrote a little bit about that too.
Last month I started my own blog and this week I wrote a post about Band Aid’s “Do They Know It’s Christmas?” – which, of, course, Glee will be covering this week in their Christmas episode. So I’m sure I’ll have more to say about that. My blog’s a mixture of feminist social critique, humour and day-to-day shenanigans of a grad student, so if that sounds good to you come check it out!
I wrote about some of the complexities of relating to the veneration of Mary as a Roman Catholic feminist on the Feast of the Immaculate Conception (aka “Catholic trivia for $200, please”). And since my blog is named for Gaudete Sunday, which is today, I wrote a little bit about that too.
Catching up on some slightly older posts as well as recent ones, not in that order: Most recently, I asked how you deal with social justice DO NOT WANT cropping up in your favourite sources of entertainment/relaxation. For Hallowe’en, I also rambled on about my thoughts on the intimate relationship between racism and cultural appropriation, and why it’s not just harmless borrowing. (101 stuff, not harrowing new insights.) Finally, a little while ago I went through a funk about what the hell a would-be activist is doing in an academic institution and asked in general how people cope with meeting their ideals in less-than-ideal realities. I’m not nearly so despondent about the issue as I was then, but I’m still completely torn about what the hell to do after finishing up my current degree, and looking for any and all insights from other people’s experiences, similar or different.
This week I wrote about corporal punishment of children in corporal punishment – time to ban it , and about our culture’s hypocritical and sex negative view of teen sex in sex ed and driver’s ed.
Get Me Off This Damn Pedestal http://thefatalfeminist.wordpress.com/2011/12/10/get-me-off-this-damn-pedestal/
(Pseudo-) feminist online dating in France (and beyond): http://disciplineandanarchy.wordpress.com/2011/12/08/online-dating-in-france-more-or-less-progressive-than-you-might-think/
One more reason the mainstream media sucks. Voter registration: now an arrestable offence. Upcoming event this week of interest to those in the NYC area.
14 must-read books for activists: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/14-must-read-books-for-activists.html For the love of horses: exploring our inconsistent relationship with non-human animals with our children: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/for-love-of-horses-exploring-our.html
Hiding: Then and Hiding: Now [both TW for fat shaming, body policing] — On exercising while fat, shame, and hiding. Dear PA Liquor Control Board: Fixed That [TW sexual assault, victim blaming] — I responded to the now-pulled advertisement by making one of my own.
I blog over at Oklahomans for Reproductive Justice, but I’d rather shamelessly promote our other writers today (’cause they blow my mind, duh). Sandra breaks down rape jokes in an post I might print out and give to everyone in my life. Carly gets real about having her identity co-opted by our local pro life militants and dissects the flaws in opposition to MaterniT21 prenatal testing. Mallory connects the dots between racism, stress and birthing complications. Finally, for a pick me up, I like to reread Judie’s hilarious guide to non-racist halloween costumes for white people. Any noun! If you like those there’s plenty more to read at OK4RJ.org and more being added all the time. Reproductive Justice is real in Oklahoma, everybody!
This month, the Carnival of Aces, a rotating blog carnival about asexuality, is at Confessions of an Ist, my blog. The theme is unfulfilled desires; possible topics include unfulfilled desires for yourself, the ace community, and the world.
It’s been quite the week for writing. I started by talking about why this time of year is one of my favorites. I continued by announcing that my book is available in paperback! I’m probably more excited about it than I should be. I wished my dad a happy birthday (and shamelessly promoted his book, haha.) And then ended the week by sharing some of my more recent worries.
A woman as a syringe. Do female bodies have a value of their own, or do they simply serve as devices to provide sustenance to others? http://clarissasblog.com/2011/12/10/through-the-eyes-of-a-stranger-a-woman-as-a-syringe/ Should feminist writing start abandoning the passive voice? http://clarissasblog.com/2011/12/10/passive-voice-feminism/ Is your partner unemployed? Here I share my experiences with how to provide support to an unemployed partner: http://clarissasblog.com/2011/12/08/how-to-provide-emotional-support-for-an-unemployed-partner-part-i/ http://clarissasblog.com/2011/12/09/how-to-provide-emotional-support-for-an-unemployed-partner-part-ii/ Talking to my students about femicide: http://clarissasblog.com/2011/12/07/is-femicide-a-good-thing/ We’ve also had a great discussion on the blog about how to stop suffering from anxiety: http://clarissasblog.com/2011/12/06/how-to-stop-suffering-from-anxiety/
On society’s message that things are not worth doing unless you’re great at them right away, and how that is often pushed hard at women, since women who excel at anything not stereotypically female are seen as exceptions: http://onefemalegaze.wordpress.com/2011/12/07/mathochism-math-pride/ Careless mistakes, not getting complacent, and why a new professor may or may not wind up being a bad thing: http://onefemalegaze.wordpress.com/2011/12/09/mathochism-the-final-chapter/
This week I wrote about choice feminism (a reaction to an article on a popular, ostensibly feminist site), and on my Tumblr, brought back my list of music writing by women with a few new additions.
Kathy: This week I wrote aboutchoice feminism(areactiontoanarticleonapopular,ostensiblyfeministsite),and on my Tumblr, brought back my list ofmusic writing with a few new additions. I just wanted to add that in the first post I linked to a six-year-old article here (not the one I just mentioned), which I hope is okay because I know that bloggers’ opinions change over time, but the discussion that followed was worth the link, too.
I wrote about rape, abuse and greed-is-good mentality that crops up in Christmas songs http://stavvers.wordpress.com/2011/12/08/christmas-songs-that-can-fuck-off/ I also wrote about horrific abuse of police power against women and my concerns about Tory policy towards marriage.
The motherhood penalty: it’s not children that slow mothers down http://curtrice.wordpress.com/2011/12/08/the-motherhood-penalty-its-not-children-that-slow-mothers-down/ There are fewer women at the top because they have a different work/life balance than men, it is claimed. Mothers’ careers progress slowly because they are mothers — because they have to spend more time on their children. There’s some appeal in this explanation; it seems intuitively correct. Mothers have greater childcare responsibilities than fathers. And while we may hope for a different division of labor some day, we speculate that these work/life realities explain why women who are mothers are on slower career tracks than men. It’s the realities of daily life behind the statistics that in fact explain the statistics. Correlation becomes causation. But that’s a mistake in how we think. There’s more to the story. And you can read it at the link above.
My best friend/room mate/cousin got laid off on Friday, and I’m struggling on how to deal: Sad day for the Park Ave. Pub.
I help run a blog with a group of wonderful Oklahoma feminists. We write about anything reproductive justice related. This has included: An entry on what it’s like to be a rape crisis advocate: http://ok4rj.org/2011/11/so-you-want-to-be-a-rape-crisis-advocate-trigger-warning-discussions-of-rape-and-sexual-violence/ A post on how to respond when someone says you’ve done/said something racist: http://ok4rj.org/2011/11/it’s-okay-that-you-said-something-racist/ And a piece on chosen families and radical activism. Chosen families are important here in the South because many of us have identities (being queer) or engage in activities (being pro-abortion rights) that our biological families think are immoral. http://ok4rj.org/2011/04/i-choo-choo-choose-you-chosen-families-and-radical-activism/
A post on Audrey Flack, the most prominent woman of the photorealist movement of the 60s and 70s, whose paintings were often derided as “too feminine” or “too emotional” to be photorealism. Comparison to the work of her contemporaries shows the double standards and gender biases of the late 60s artistic community.
A post about my grandmother, who was Melungeon; if you are also of Melungeon ancestry, drop me a line! I’d love to connect with others. http://daisysdeadair.blogspot.com/2011/12/real-daisy.html
Some thoughts on Plan B (many high school virgins didn’t want to be…): Do Those Who Oppose OTC Plan B for Teens Remember Being a Teenager?
Illinois high risk insurance violating the Illinois Human Rights Act? – I’m trying to put together an argument that Illinois CHIP’s specific denial of gender reassignment surgery is in violation of the Illinois HRA Race Identity – In which someone thinks I’m not white, and I think about race
Hypatia and the history of misogyny: why it matters. CGI bodies are a symptom of the sickness, not the cause Online threats, stupid hostile comments, and how free speech and censorship do not mean what misogynists think they mean. My own private zombapocalypse, “Oomblaug Day”. How I illustrated the crappiness of the world without using or knowing the terminology I know today.
The Humbling of a Pretty Girl: On the Lauren Scruggs case. A woman is injured and the international media salivates speculating about how her model looks might have changed. Why? Well, because the humbling of a pretty girl is the most popular plot in the world. Marriage equality isn’t the be all and end all of LGBT rights. What else you need to know about the struggles and successes of LGBT advocacy in Australia.
I shared a misty-eyed memory of my first involvement in feminist activism, at the tender age of nine. It ended in humiliation, but we still won.
Yesterday, the Nobel Peace Prize was awarded to three wonderful, deserving women. And yet there is something ironic, boarding on tokenistic in this particular award. I wrote a piece called “The Nobel Peace Prize Committee’s problem with women” at http://wp.me/p1xS1Q-aD It starts like this: This year’s Nobel Peace Prize award makes it clear that the current Peace Prize Committee has a serious problem with women. In fact, they have two. Their problems have nothing to do with the choice of laureates; Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, Leymah Gbowee and Tawakel Karman are all inspirational winners with exceptional accomplishments. But the way the award was made this year exposes two uncomfortable realities: (1) The men who speak on behalf of the committee are ambivalent about the importance of making the award to women, and (2) the consequence of dividing the prize three ways in practice diminishes the value of each woman’s contribution. Read the rest at the link above.
I’ve got a post on Christmas commercials that promote shopping as competition, one on using social media to promote ethical consumption and one on the mind-boggling way the Department of Education collects race/ethnicity data.
Covered some of the 99inDC stuff this last week. Had a blast in DC and wrote up a few pieces – Gingrich fundraiser being protested, 62 occupiers arrested, and the sheer elitism of a few members of Congress.
http://actsoffaithblog.com/questlove-of-the-roots-finds-out-he-cant-get-away-with-his-dbr-behavior http://actsoffaithblog.com/your-right-to-be-offended http://actsoffaithblog.com/inspirational-quotes-series-epictetus http://actsoffaithblog.com/have-you-read-the-holstee-manifesto
Not from this week (blogging is time consuming!), but I am super curious if anyone had taught English as a way to travel abroad… http://theepicadventurer.blogspot.com/2011/12/teaching-english-as-way-to-travel.html
This week I wrote a post called “How to ‘Be There’ for a Depressed Person,” which is about supporting friends and loved ones with clinical depression: http://miriammogilevsky.wordpress.com/2011/12/11/how-to-be-there-for-a-depressed-person/ Also, just now I wrote a post about why I disagree with Obama’s response to the Plan B thing. Overplayed, I know. 🙂 http://miriammogilevsky.wordpress.com/2011/12/11/obama-the-patriarch/
I wrote about my concerns on how people seem to view school shootings and moral issues around it. I also wrote on how some people think you can make life easier in books if it’s aimed at younger generations (you know, life is good, bad things don’t happen). It’s all centered around one author, who I refuse to ever read a word by again. http://katreadsbooks.blogspot.com/2011/12/message-to-todd-strasser.html I also am making something called “The Making of a Feminist Character”, concerning how feminist characters are made and aimed towards children and teens (it’s not as serious as it sounds, being very light hearted with characters I.
Aah, my post got cut off. Yeah, “The Making of a Feminist Character” is actually more of a fun project than a bunch of serious articles. http://katreadsbooks.blogspot.com/2011/12/making-of-feminist-character-1-trixie.html And Herman Cain deserves this: http://katreadsbooks.blogspot.com/2011/12/fuck-you-herman-cain.html
I wrote about the creepiness of “My Heart Belongs to Daddy” http://www.nerdyfeminist.com/2011/12/my-heart-belongs-to-daddyewwww.html …and I stand up for Zooey Deschanel for once! http://www.nerdyfeminist.com/2011/12/switcheroo-zooey-i-got-your-back.html
My first venture into talking about privilege, inspired by a rather horrible pregnancy scare a few days ago. (TW for… semi-detailed descriptions about my sex life, I guess, which involve condom malfunctions.) http://procnetheswallow.wordpress.com/2011/12/12/dipping-my-toes-in-the-murky-waters-of-privilege/
I put up a Solstice Tutorial since I have read so many misrepresentations of the traditions and customs and reasons for the seasons. With Rituals! Bring Out Your Dead Plots explores my frustrations with another witch-hunter anti-women’s-agency movie. I offer a synopsis of my ideal witch movie… Starring Bianca Lawson! (in my dreams!!!)
This week, I complained about dating advice that treats things that are generally true as being some mysterious quirk of just one gender. I also started reading some kung fu instruction books, in particular Hung Gar (The basis of earthbending in Avatar: The Legend of Aang) and Wing Chun (which it turns out has a pretty feminist background, being devised by a woman, and then according to legend used to defend herself against would-be “suitors”)
These are some verses for my parents, Jersey, Hunter S. Thompson, the birds, and the trees. http://nomadthought.blogspot.com/2011/11/crazy-thing.html
An article on Harvey Mansfield, a horrifyingly misogynistic Harvard professor. http://www.thecrimson.com/article/2011/12/12/mansfield-sexism-book/
Your couch bed which you sold on eBay had a little extra something in it when we unfolded it. I just thought you should know.
After enduring The Jersey Shore television show and its reputation, I wrote a piece about what I consider it means being a “Jersey Girl.” Fun, irreverent and true. The REAL Jersey Girls
It is just a little thing, but I have decided to start a photo-a-day blog at http://1day1pic1woman1year.wordpress.com/.