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What I mean when I talk about movies that bore the everloving shit out of me.

For some masochistic reason, I ended up watching the trailer for The Art of Getting By today.

Here’s the official synopsis:

THE ART OF GETTING BY stars Freddie Highmore (Finding Neverland, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory) as George, a lonely and fatalistic teen who’s made it all the way to his senior year without ever having done a real day of work, who is befriended by Sally (Emma Roberts — Scream 4), a beautiful and complicated girl who recognizes in him a kindred spirit.

Now, I didn’t read the synopsis before I watched the trailer, and here is a more or less liveblog of my thoughts.

George doesn’t do any work, because it’s stupid and pointless. He wears black and is alienated. He doodles in his notebook. Some older brother/friend/mentor decides these doodles are genius. Freddie ends up in an art class with a beardy old teacher. There is a problem, because Freddie doesn’t have anything to say. He needs to FIND something to say.

(I bet he will meet a lady)

(cue music)

Enter a lady! She is very pretty. We know she is cool, because she wears black and white stripes, like a French person. She will inspire Freddy! She will help him find something to say, as they have school-skipping (whoa, rebellious!) adventures in New York City (of course) and he will develop a huge NiceGuy crush on her but pretend to be just her friend until his older brother/mentor decides to put the moves on her (gross!) and then he will be angrysad and do some lonely cinematic walking and then he will dig down and be inspired and make some Real Art from his manpain. (P.S. The heroine is described as “complicated” in the movie synopsis, which is usually code for “has some kind of mental illness or emotional problem” and also sometimes code for “sleeps with older men” or “men other than our dweeby hero”- aka – Manic Pixie Dream Girl).

Chances that his Great Art project is a painting of her?

I’m putting those odds at 1,000 percent, people.

I especially love the editing where the art teacher tells George to dig inside and find out what he cares about and what he believes, and they keep cutting to images of her. What does George care about and believe? He believes that if he could put his face on her face he would be a better person and a better artist.

Now, sometimes trailers undersell the movie by combining only the most “marketable” aspects of a film. So we’re lucky enough to have a scene from this masterpiece to let us know what we’re really getting into, and I feel like I learned a lot from watching it.

  • George and his ladylove are surrounded with wealthy, shallow, Gossip Girl people, but George is not like them.
  • George does not objectify Sally, at least publicly in front of other people out loud (can’t wait to see that painting, though!), so he is nicer than Party Douche and we should root for him.
  • I think the thing he says at the end of the scene, “I like layers,” is supposed to be a metaphor for his layered personality.
  • What I learned from this trailer: Boys, if you want to be an artist but you have nothing to say, you should try to find a complicated lady to inspire you. Even if you don’t work up the courage to ask her out, you can make some cool art later that will show her how you feel. Girls, if you have a crush on a boy, don’t say anything to him about it – it’s HIS job to say something to you and to try to impress you with the pictures he drew of you. Men are artists. Ladies are muses.

    This film isn’t evil. It’s lonely geek-boy wish fulfillment, a staple of cinema and the reason that Michael Cera has a post-Arrested Development career. (Middle-aged lonely geeks have Sideways to escape into the fantasy that Virginia Madsen is waiting on a hillside somewhere with a good Pinot Noir and that she wants to read their unpublished novels).

    I’m sure everyone involved in making it is very nice.


    46 thoughts on What I mean when I talk about movies that bore the everloving shit out of me.

    1. You’d think we’d grow out of it. I think about being lonely, geeky, and in high school, wherein this sort of yearning melodrama was appealing.

      But with time, my concept of people became more defined. I became friends with different sorts of people. I had relationships, plural. Sure, I think there’s always going to be some element of alienation and isolation present in how I view the world, but I’d like to think I’ve progressed past that point. That this is such a stock cliche by now and still being filmed makes me wonder how many people are stuck in Arrested Development.

    2. A fair assessment, but the movie isn’t for us, right? It’s for this generation’s 15-25 year old. Every generation has these things. Heck, we thought 16 Candles and the Breakfast Club were revolutionary, but in hindsight, you knew Ringwald was getting with the cool kid or the outsider in each.

      We confuse the issue because we mislabel the genres. There should be a genre of movies called “This Generation’s John Hughes Movies” and you will be able to tell you are looking in the right section by finding John Cryer, Molly Ringwald, Michael Cera, John Cusack, or Zooey Deschanel, in the movies.

      That stuff just isn’t for people older than 25 although they effectively market it to us.

    3. “You should just throw her against the wall and kiss her.”

      End of the film appears to be doing just that…

      *Gag*

      I had some friends talking about a situation in which a guy friend of ours attempted to kiss a woman friend of ours to show her he wanted to go out with her. He just leaned in and went for it, and she avoided him. I said something about how romantic I would find it if the person kissing me were to, like, ask first, you know? I pretty much got bewildered looks.

    4. konkonsn:
      “You should just throw her against the wall and kiss her.”

      If your idea of romance involves the words “Throw Her Against The Wall” you *might* want to rethink your approach.

      Use your words, son.

    5. konkonsn:
      “You should just throw her against the wall and kiss her.”

      End of the film appears to be doing just that…

      *Gag*

      I MEANT to write about that line, too – got distracted by the emo-walking.

      So, so, so gross.

      @AngryBlackGuy, I don’t buy your argument that “well, it’s just for young people, so it doesn’t matter.” I get that it’s not targeted at me, 37-year-old film snob, but it’s still troubling to send a message to high school girls that they should wait to be asked out (or thrown up against a wall and kissed) and that they should relate to a character who is only an inspiration or an object for someone else’s creativity.

    6. Three things

      1) someone’s asking whether they can kiss me (assuming I happen to like her)–super hot
      2) someone’s throwing me up against a wall and kissing me (assuming I happen to like her)–super hot (caveat: if you have not yet kissed me, a lean in–pause–look into my eyes (for permission) is the route to go).
      3) Is it wrong (read=pathetic and geeky) when you’re dating someone to suddenly want to draw, paint, and sculpt her? Even if you probably have no talent whatsoever?

    7. Can we try that one again with ALL the genders reversed?

      Depressed artistic lady teen is mentored by older lady artist and even older lady artist to overcome teenage bullshit and become an artist who “says something”. She meets winsome dude youth, they have “adventures” in New York City, then he has a weird relationship with older lady artist. Cue DRAMAZ.

      I mean, it would still be a wicked privileged piece of dreck that I wouldn’t see, but alienated lady teens need the cinematic love too!

      1. @cdrLogic, Oh my god, a woman might look at a boy with desire of her own in a teen movie and turn that into art that she makes? We can’t have that in a TEEN MOVIE FOR TEENS.

        :clutches pearls:

        But I have to admit, that version of the film got slightly more interesting.

    8. Diana:
      Three things

      1) someone’s asking whether they can kiss me (assuming I happen to like her)–super hot
      2) someone’s throwing me up against a wall and kissing me (assuming I happen to like her)–super hot (caveat: if you have not yet kissed me, a lean in–pause–look into my eyes (for permission) is the route to go).
      3) Is it wrong (read=pathetic and geeky) when you’re dating someone to suddenly want to draw, paint, and sculpt her? Even if you probably have no talent whatsoever?

      Consent is sexy!

      Making art about the person you like is not inherently bad and can be sexy!

      Movies about “boys with nothing to say” who find muses in “complicated” girls are boring. To me.

    9. A fair assessment, but the movie isn’t for us, right?

      Puts on insufferable pretentious git hat: This is why I haven’t been to or paid attention to any movies for years*. AGB is right in that these are the same movies we had when we were young, which were likely lifted straight out of movies even older than that.

      The stories have been done. to death. and they still keep on making them.

      * well, that and I’m bored to death with stories about white dudes. And tyler Perry *shudder*

    10. apropos of this post, i need some help with definitions-is what zooey deschanel doing/seems to be doing in ‘the new girl’ an instance of manic pixie dream girl ?

    11. tomoe gozen:
      apropos of thispost, i need some help with definitions-is what zooey deschanel doing/seems to be doing in ‘the new girl’ an instance of manic pixie dream girl ?

      Whoa, I don’t even know how to answer that. On watching that trailer, she seems to be the main character of the show and usually the MPDG is just a helper/inspiration for the hero, yet they have arranged it so she is constantly surrounded by and viewed through the eyes of men and performing for them?

      Also, you made me put that trailer IN MY EYES.

    12. i’m sorry, but then i have to see it over and over when i watch ‘bones’ reruns on on demand.

    13. A fair assessment, but the movie isn’t for us, right? It’s for this generation’s 15-25 year old. Every generation has these things. Heck, we thought 16 Candles and the Breakfast Club were revolutionary, but in hindsight, you knew Ringwald was getting with the cool kid or the outsider in each.

      Well, then technically it’s for me and my younger sisters. And we wouldn’t enjoy that trite crap either — even as a teenager I couldn’t stand the melodramatic “artsy” kids who thought their lives were so goddamn hard because work (which they didn’t ever have to do) was boring. And I saw all that Ringwald stuff as a teenager and thought it was schmaltzy too. So maybe this stuff is just for this generation’s incredibly self-absorbed and tasteless 15-25 year old? :p

    14. Can we just once see a movie with a female artist who is serious rather than kooky, whimsical, and non-threatening? I can’t tell you how beaten down I was all through high school by the fact that every serious ‘genius’ artist I’d ever hear about was male.

      That being said, though. Stories about artists, writers, musicians, what-the-fuck-ever finding themselves are almost always boring and self-indulgent. (Who gets to be the guy to root for in a story written by a writer? A WRITER!) Streeeeeeettttttccchhhhhh that imagination a little further than your own life, guys. The self-insertion shouldn’t be that obvious.

    15. Bagelsan:So maybe this stuff is just for this generation’s incredibly self-absorbed and tasteless 15-25 year old? :p

      And there’s enough of them out there that this film (or a version of it, reflecting cultural changes and possibly featuring POC main characters but with the genders sadly untouched) will continue to be remade over and over again until the end of movies.

    16. I wanna second and/or third ‘manpain’ as my favorite word since douchecanoe… I also wanna see that ladyartist movie! I *also* wanna second third and fourth consent is sexy. Once had a hot chick I’d been dancing with lean in to kiss me (and this was some dirty dancing, so she already sorta knew it was ok, 😉 and whisper ‘are you ok with this?’ before going in for the kiss!!! … My point ladies and gents? The only thing hotter than the first kiss, is delaying the first kiss by about 30 seconds to check in about such kiss being a consenting one. One caveot is that I date both men and women, and have heard several versions of ‘is this ok’ from the ladies, I’ve literally NEVER had a man ask if he could kiss or touch me. Granted, when I’m into it, its clear that this is the case… I just think most women have a lot more experience fending off unwanted touch, and thus are a lot more open to verbalizing/asking and even pre-negotiation of what kinds of touching and sexytime thier date might be into… just a thought. Them dudely mans could stand to learn this one from the ladies, consent is insanely crazy hot hot hot.

    17. igglanova:
      Can we just once see a movie with a female artist who is serious rather than kooky, whimsical, and non-threatening? I can’t tell you how beaten down I was all through high school by the fact that every serious ‘genius’ artist I’d ever hear about was male.

      That being said, though.Stories about artists, writers, musicians, what-the-fuck-ever finding themselves are almost always boring and self-indulgent.(Who gets to be the guy to root for in a story written by a writer? A WRITER!)Streeeeeeettttttccchhhhhh that imagination a little further thanyour own life, guys.The self-insertion shouldn’t be that obvious.

      there are lots of serious female artists, and even genius ones, depending on how you define genius, which is pretty subjective. Joan Jett for instance was very serious. And she was in several movies.

    18. Bagelsan:
      A fair assessment, but the movie isn’t for us, right? It’s for this generation’s 15-25 year old. Every generation has these things. Heck, we thought 16 Candles and the Breakfast Club were revolutionary, but in hindsight, you knew Ringwald was getting with the cool kid or the outsider in each.

      Well, then technically it’s for me and my younger sisters. And we wouldn’t enjoy that trite crap either — even as a teenager I couldn’t stand the melodramatic “artsy” kids who thought their lives were so goddamn hard because work (which they didn’t ever have to do) was boring. And I saw all that Ringwald stuff as a teenager and thought it was schmaltzy too. So maybe this stuff is just for this generation’s incredibly self-absorbed and tasteless 15-25 year old? :p

      artsy kids lives are hard in some cases. melodrama is only melodrama if its not your drama. lots of people think feminists are melodramatic, and why? because the things that oppress feminists don’t oppress them. what i am getting from you is lots of contempt for several different kinds of non-NT people. you might not have meant it that way, but it doesn’t matter, since intent isn’t magic.

    19. Matt: there are lots of serious female artists, and even genius ones, depending on how you define genius, which is pretty subjective. Joan Jett for instance was very serious. And she was in several movies.

      Yes, but the problem is we don’t get taught about them. Most people in North America know of Michelangelo, Picasso and Warhol (all who only need one name to be known), but how many know of Artemisia Gentileschi? Or Mary Cassett? Or Judy Chicago? Some do, but I didn’t learn about them until I took an ‘alternative’ art history course in college. I certainly didn’t know about them in high school.

    20. Yeah, I know there are genius female artists *now*. The problem was that I was rarely taught about them, and some teachers reacted with contemptuous lip curls whenever they felt ‘forced’ by the textbooks to give them time out of ‘political correctness’. I’m not a total art history ignoramus.

    21. artsy kids lives are hard in some cases.

      Yet you’d think that “artsy kids” were all boys, and that the girls were just there for their growth, and not as people in their own right.

    22. I watch so few modern things that the only example of requested consent that comes to mind is the disastrous failure in A Room With a View. Let us hope there are more encouraging examples in circulation.

    23. Yet you’d think that “artsy kids” were all boys, and that the girls were just there for their growth, and not as people in their own right.

      What? Did you miss the cinematic awesomeness that was She’s All That? Real art is real. About Mogadishu!

    24. If I burn myself on the popcorn, can I create great art from my manpain?

      Only if Orville Redenbacher gets to be your sexy complicated muse!

    25. If I’m genderqueer, can I make great art from my manpain? Or only on days when I feel masculine?

      I guess so. On more feminine days you should probably make art that is entirely about vaginas or afterbirths* or something (don’t have one? borrow a friend’s.)

      Some stunning examples of proper feminine art are on Regretsy.

      *And yes, the gender-essentialism is apparently mandatory.

    26. Bagelsan: I guess so. On more feminine days you should probably make art that is entirely about vaginas or afterbirths* or something (don’t have one? borrow a friend’s.)

      Some stunning examples of proper feminine art are on Regretsy.

      *And yes, the gender-essentialism is apparently mandatory.

      “Pardon me, Kate, but can I use your vagina for a couple of hours. I need to bust out a few pairs of vulva inspired earrings for my Etsy. mkaythxbai”

      Not exactly what most people want to borrow a vagina for, but I could totally see it.

    27. Just pointing out, I’m one of these annoying, incredibly self absorbed 15-25 year olds and I find the trailer to be shit too. SO… ageism?

    28. Oh, hello there. I stepped away from this thread for a bit to live LIFE OUTSIDE THE INTERNET (weird, I know).

      I’ve deleted some comments that were not constructive.

      If people want to have a conversation about the way film portrays artists, non-neurotypical people, and non-neurotypical artists, or any other kind of representation issues in film, please do with the following ground rules:

      1) No blanket insulting of any groups. Bad films about “artsy people” are not the fault of artsy teens (except the ones who grow up to be filmmakers with nothing to say). Being a teenager is hard and ridiculous.

      2) Keep it on task by referring to specific films and scenes within those films, ie, if you’re going to make a statement about the way films do x, back it up with a reference to a film that does x. (Welcome to Film School, by the way).

      @Dane, I believe your very legitimate question about ageism has been addressed – Saying that movies are targeted at young people doesn’t make them unimportant or unworthy of discussion, and Bagelsan (while there were some problems with his or her later comments) limited to them to “self-absorbed and tasteless” 15-25 year olds.

      I’d say this is more targeted to teen girls, which is one of the reasons I find it so annoying – It’s not about their agency in becoming artists and finding out what they want to say, it’s about being pretty enough so that a boy artist will want to make you his reason for having something to say. (Barf)

      That said, I would love to hear your thoughts on the kinds of movies that are targeted at people your age and how they make you and your friends feel about gender roles. What kind of movie are you longing to see? What do you wish filmmakers knew about what it’s like to be you?

    29. Angry Black Guy: Heck, we thought 16 Candles and the Breakfast Club were revolutionary, but in hindsight, you knew Ringwald was getting with the cool kid or the outsider in each.

      We? WE thought these movies were revolutionary?

      Sixteen Candles was kind of funny, but I hated Breakfast Club with it’s unbelievably simplistic and broad stereotypes. Never thought either of those films were revolutionary. In fact, to borrow a phrase form Captain A., most John Hughes films bored the ever-loving shit out of me.

      Stranger than Paradise, Do The Right Thing, Polyester, Repo Man, even Stop Making Sense, were all much more ‘revolutionary’ to me than the Brat Pack crap you mention.

      1. @Fat Steve, What I think John Hughes did really well was portraying social class in high school. It’s the kids with money vs. the kids without it. It’s also what Veronica Mars did so well.

        I don’t think people need to establish their credibility at the expense of certain kinds of films. You can like Stranger than Paradise and Do The Right Thing AND Better Off Dead. Mainstream films are great at getting inside our heads and hearts even when they carry problematic messages.

    30. *guffaws* Okay, that was a hilarious break-down! (And “manpain” is my new favorite word, I will be using it OFTEN.)

      Storytime!

      A male member of my high school graduating class was very smart and ridiculously talented at art, but he coasted academically and only seemed to care about being as ridiculous as possible. (He was highly entertaining.) We’ll call him Goof-Off. A female member of my class was a brilliant and motivated student and artist with a fantastic personality. We’ll call her Awesome Girl. Goof-Off and Awesome Girl had been pals since forever. They joked around and on occasion masterminded joint shenanigans.

      Then Goof-Off decided that Awesome Girl was his Muse and needed to be His One and Only. Awesome Girl was not interested. Goof-Off kept pursuing her. She kept saying no. He produced better art than usual. She carried on and kept it in the Friend Zone. All seemed okay until, one day, it became apparent that Goof-Off had made and was passing around an art comic. About Awesome Girl. Blatantly about Awesome Girl. And it was insulting and compromising.

      Somehow Goof-Off couldn’t understand why Awesome Girl cussed him out, threw him out of her life, and why all his fangirls in the art club suddenly wanted to beat the shit out of him. It didn’t occur to him (or his troglodyte friends) that it’s one thing to fantasize about someone, but it’s completely another to illustrate that fantasy in vivid detail that leaves no room for anonymity, pass it around your classmates, and pass it off as “just art.”

      It didn’t occur to him that his manpain and identity as an artist didn’t magically give him the right to objectify her for all to see. (Or maybe he wanted to hurt her, I don’t know.)

      So, short version: I love Freddie Hightower, but I won’t be watching this movie. I’ve seen it before. It was not uplifting.

    31. Verity Khat: It didn’t occur to him that his manpain and identity as an artist didn’t magically give him the right to objectify her for all to see. (Or maybe he wanted to hurt her, I don’t know.)

      Can’t find it now, since I need to dash off to lunch, but there’s a great piece about “The Asshole Card” – mostly about writers but its the same principle.

    32. Crys T: I first read ozymandias’ question at #32 as “can I make great art from my marzipan?”

      The answer to that is CLEARLY “yes”.

    33. Captain Awkward:
      @Fat Steve, What I think John Hughes did really well was portraying social class in high school.It’s the kids with money vs. the kids without it.It’s also what Veronica Mars did so well.

      I don’t think people need to establish their credibility at the expense of certain kinds of films.You can like Stranger than Paradise and Do The Right Thing AND Better Off Dead.Mainstream films are great at getting inside our heads and hearts even when they carry problematic messages.

      I never said you can’t like those movies, merely that they weren’t ‘groundbreaking.’ When I was a kid I loved Cannonball Run and hated Star Wars, but I’m not going to argue that Cannonball Run was a brilliant example of anything, whereas I would be foolish to deny Star Wars influence (for better of worse.)

    34. The first thing I thought when I watched this trailer was “It’s Art School Confidential with Bieber Hair” and I stand by that.

      Then I played a little of what I call “band-aid theater” and recreated the film, making it about an artsy queer femme-identifying person who develops a crush on her mentor but really it turns out that her crush was a Symbol and that all she needed was to make Art and Live Life. I’m not a script-writer, though, and maybe this is cliche.

    35. You didn’t study Joan Jett in your high school art classes? THAT IS CRAZY. !!! anyway, just wanted to give you a little internet fist bump or something.

      igglanova:
      Yeah, I know there are genius female artists *now*. The problem was that I was rarely taught about them, and some teachers reacted with contemptuous lip curls whenever they felt ‘forced’ by the textbooks to give them time out of ‘political correctness’.I’m not a total art history ignoramus.

    36. Can we just once see a movie with a female artist who is serious rather than kooky, whimsical, and non-threatening?

      Frida? High Art? That one with Nicole Kidman as Diane Arbus?

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