It a scientifically proven assertion that professional success and sexual self-confidence cause women to grow beautiful girthy penises. Finally, a reason to excel.
The more career success a woman has, the bigger this dick becomes, and the lower her chances become of finding a man whose mouth will be big enough to fit it all inside I knew there was a reason why my jaw was double jointed!
This was so full of win. I was really irritated by the lack of support for the study author’s definition of sex as some sort of zero-sum game that women only trade for relationships. Now, if he had data that all women, or even a sizeable group of women, viewed sex in that manner, he would have a point. But as one of the commenters pointed out, so-called “low status” men were having more sex. Which suggests a few possibilities, just off top: 1) men who are underemployed high-school dropouts have more time to pursue sex than busier “higher status” men, 2) women don’t measure status the way he does, 3) educated women aren’t dashing around having sex they regret, maybe they aren’t having *as much* sex as they would like. Also, I think it is off to assume that because women don’t “buy” sex, that men’s sex is valueless to women. Women may not buy sex because buying sex is dangerous. Because purchased sex with a stranger is not the way for many of us to get our rocks off. Because sex is so stigmatized that many of us only choose partners that we really trust. He, like many others, makes the “any woman can get sex on craigslist.” But if we look at the availability of pleasurable sex for men and women (by which I mean, getting off, whether through orgasm or just through liking it) I would say it is harder for women than men to achieve that. Also, it irritates me that he seems to assume the reason women stay single is because they found someone who they love and loves them back and decided not to work on the relationship. Bullshit. IMO, it has much more to do with women spending time in relationships with people who they are not compatable with, and trying to make those relationships work. Because love isn’t enough, and because some people really try to make relationships work when the partner is a “good person” even if the good person doesn’t meet our needs. And that isn’t a woman problem, it is a universal human problem. Also, if women are having casual sex in the hopes of things turning into something more serious, and it makes them unhappy, they should stop. Not because of the likelihood of getting a “quality” partner, but because it is negative to have sex that doesn’t make you happy. Grr.
Crying fetishes are real. I think its creepy and disturbing (or at least it was in the context when I ran into it).
Soooooo much win… I’m a highly educated, in the process of becoming even more highly-educated, planning-on-being-a-professional, young woman and I definitely do not feel like I’m competing for men. Maybe I have an inflated sense of self-worth, but if some guy decides he would prefer another woman over me, I generally assume it has far more to do with him than with me. Seriously, the study she was responding to made me want to beat my head against a wall. The crisis they’re trying to investigate does not exist. They admit in the article that successful, highly educated women are more likely to get and stay married. So… What exactly is the problem then? “It’s not that young educated women don’t marry — in fact they have the highest odds of getting and staying married — it’s that if you look at the whole relationship scene out there today, more than ever women feel like they’re competing for men.” (Don’t know how use the blockquote hashtags, sorry) I don’t. I really don’t. And I seriously question whether that many women think they are. And if they DO think that they are I think it’s because people keep telling them they ought to be. It’s hardly a new theory. This study seems to indicate that there was some mystical era where men were competing for women and women were just sitting back and fielding offers. But women have always been encouraged to ‘compete’ – pressure to conforme to societal ideals of looks, body shape, style & etc. in order to snag a man carries with it the implicit threat that if you don’t, the man you want will pick someone who has conformed to this ‘ideal’.
Soooooo much win… I’m a highly educated, in the process of becoming even more highly-educated, planning-on-being-a-professional, young woman and I definitely do not feel like I’m competing for men. Maybe I have an inflated sense of self-worth, but if some guy decides he would prefer another woman over me, I generally assume it has far more to do with him than with me. Seriously, the study she was responding to made me want to beat my head against a wall. The crisis they’re trying to investigate does not exist. They admit in the article that successful, highly educated women are more likely to get and stay married. So… What exactly is the problem then? “It’s not that young educated women don’t marry — in fact they have the highest odds of getting and staying married — it’s that if you look at the whole relationship scene out there today, more than ever women feel like they’re competing for men.” (Don’t know how use the blockquote hashtags, sorry) I don’t. I really don’t. And I seriously question whether that many women think they are. And if they DO think that they are I think it’s because people keep telling them they ought to be. It’s hardly a new theory. This study seems to indicate that there was some mystical era where men were competing for women and women were just sitting back and fielding offers. But women have always been encouraged to ‘compete’ – pressure to conform to societal ideals of looks, body shape, style & etc. in order to snag a man carries with it the implicit threat that if you don’t, the man you want will pick someone who has conformed to this ‘ideal’.
This post came at the perfect time. Yesterday, my state voted to not recognize legitimate same sex marriages from other states (Wyoming). There’s still a very important vote regarding abortion coming up soon, and I am not terribly hopeful, despite the letters I sent to my legislators. I really needed a good laugh, and Molly Lambert’s acerbic wit and awesomeness really helped. Thanks Feministe!