I’d been working on some posts for today, but right now I think I’d just like to take a moment to acknowledge and honor the pain that a lot of us are feeling as a result of some recent threads here. Now that trigger warnings have been added and the harm has been addressed, maybe we can take some time to heal the suffering, and to take refuge.
“Taking refuge” in dhammic praxis has a specific meaning, and refers to the “Triple Gem”:
>> Buddha – taking inspiration from the qualities of the historical Buddha, and all enlightened teachers;
>> Dhamma – taking inspiration from the teachings of the buddha;
>> Sangha – taking inspiration from a community of dhamma practitioners.
For me, this practice (including mindfulness, everyday compassion, and Vipassana meditation) is kind of the ultimate refuge, that provides a foundation for the way I understand and participate in reality. But as the teachers at East Bay Meditation Center recently reminded me, whether or not we practice dhamma, we all have places and ways we take refuge. Could be taking a walk outside. Having a good cry. Writing in a journal. Practicing some yoga. Wilin’ out on our drum kit. Talking to a best friend. Spending time with an animal companion. Singing. Dancing. Praying. Going to therapy. Getting a good night’s sleep. Closing our eyes and breathing for one whole minute. Bringing awareness to what’s going on in our body.
Hopefully, our refuge will not be a means of escaping our suffering, but of engaging it from a different angle, which aids the process of letting go. Sue Nhim described this release beautifully just today on an earlier thread here:
this states so clearly what I have been feeling for the past few months, where before I denied that harm was done to me and yet I suffered, and then I accepted that I was harmed and still suffered, and now I understand that just because I was harmed/ damaged doesn’t mean that I have to suffer and hold on to my anxiety and anger, I can just let that go. It doesn’t negate the fact that I was harmed or mean that I should just ignore it, but it happened and what I can do to win is to not suffer and go on, wiser happier better. My mom calls it a state of grace, all I know is that it doesn’t hurt to go outside anymore.
So where do you take refuge? What are your best tools for letting go of suffering?
Wishing wellness to everyone,
katie