This morning, it seems I couldn’t turn anywhere without hearing about this ZOMG MILEY CYRUS LAP DANCE VIDEO!!!!!111!!!1!
So I watched it and, for one, it’s not actually a lap dance. It’s Miley Cyrus, at 16, grinding on Adam Shankman at some party. Adam is a gay, 40-something, judge of SYTYCD, producer dude. He makes all those Step Up movies (I haven’t watched any of them, so that’s all I know).
I was… confused? I guess mostly because I expected Miley giving or getting a lap dance with a teen and instead got this. I was certainly grossed out, but I didn’t think much of it.
Until a couple of minutes later when I saw this headline: “LT’s Defense: No Sex, Just Masturbation.” For those who don’t have to keep up with the news for a living, Lawrence Taylor (LT) is some football player who allegedly sexually assaulted a 16-year-old. At first, he and his wife were denying it, and now apparently he has clarified that they engaged in some sort of “masturbatory act,” whatever that means.
It got me thinking about the reactions I’ve seen to both of these stories. Most of the responses I’ve seen to the Miley thing are along the lines of “ew, but whatever, he’s gay and it’s not like that!” Most of the responses I’ve seen to the allegations against LT – other than “SHE’S LYING!,” of course – are “put him away! pervert! why was he anywhere near that girl?”
While I understand that Adam Shankman did not rape Miley Cyrus, shouldn’t this make people more uncomfortable? I ask this of myself as well, because I was also unfazed. I get that Adam Shankman is gay, and apparently he thinks of her as a little sister (which, ew, I do not grind on my relatives)… but he’s still a 44-year-old man grinding with a 16-year-old girl.
Do you think there’s a difference? Should there be one? Sorry, that’s not what I’m asking. What I’m asking is if people should have a stronger reaction to the Miley thing despite the fact that there’s no alleged sexual assault in play.