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Sad Songs

Jeanne and Lynn have recently written about songs that make them cry.

Lynn and I are completely in agreement on this one: “Alone Again, Naturally,” a song that isn’t very compelling, cheesy if anything, but has a line that kills.

I remember I cried when my father died, never wishing to hide the tears.
At sixty-five years old, my mother, God rest her soul,
Couldn’t understand why the only man
She had ever loved had been taken.

Dismay is the worst emotion to witness.

The most recent song I have found that expresses this emotion is “John Wayne Gacy, Jr.” by Sufjan Stevens (right click, save as). I had just downloaded a prerelease of this new CD and listened to it as I was planting my garden this spring. Elbow deep in peppers, I found myself weeping openly. There are several parts of this song that could go wrong, but it doesn’t. Pay attention to the one-line chorus and the last verse.

The CD with this song, “Illinois,” isn’t yet on the market, preorder it for release on July 5th. It is beautiful, Sufjan’s best work, and has an appeal for all kinds of music lovers. In the meantime see it’s sister CD, Greetings From Michigan: The Great Lakes State.

If you don’t feel like listening to sad songs, watch this (via Amanda).


29 thoughts on Sad Songs

  1. My dad, who was my best friend is no longer with me. He was a Frank Sinatra fan, his favorite song was “Fly me to the Moon” which I played at his memorial service. Several months later at Waffle House of all places, the song came on….I started to cry and we had to leave…..

    However…I am a cry baby……I blame it on being a pisces

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  3. “Waltz #2 (XO)” always makes me tremble a bit. Of course, “Blood on the Tracks” is my favoritest album ever, so tas this reflects the body of sad songs I like is relatively large…

  4. I think the saddest songs I’ve heard lately have been by Antony & the Johnsons. Their single “Hope There’s Someone” is a real tearjerker, as are all of the songs on their most recent CD. I actually listen to it when I need to cry—it’s cathartic, therapeutic and beautiful.

  5. Karrin Allyson singing “Everything must change” would be my nomination for most beautifully done sad song.

    And then there is Samuel Barber’s Adagio for Strings.

  6. One of my sad songs is “Sour Girl” by Stone Temple Pilots. It always seems to fill me with a feeling of dread, which is strange that I like it so much.

  7. Yes, it’s hokey, but ever since I had kids, Cat’s In The Cradle makes me all misty. Especially since my Dad was definitely in the I’m-too-busy/tired-to-play-with-you-right-now camp.

  8. The saddest song, for me, would have to be “Perfect Day” by Lou Reed. It’s not especially tragic or dramatic, just sad in such a mundane, defeated way that it breaks my heart.

    Also: “1000 Oceans” by Tori Amos. One of the most moving songs about loss that I’ve ever heard.

  9. It’s not really a sad song, and it’s actually the video that does it to me. I’ve seen the World On Fire video enough times that the effect should have worn off, but I still leak a tear or two every time I see it.

  10. Also, the last Johnny Cash single and video, the NIN cover “Hurt.” Some of the imagery in that video made me think of my own father.

  11. “You Are My Sunshine” Cash/Dylan version, or maybe Ray Charles

    “She Moved Thro the Fair” — Anne Briggs or Sandy Denny or Van Morrison versions, especially

    “Grow Old With Me” Lennon (demo)

    “Slippin and Slidin'” Buddy Holly (Jan 1959 home recording)

    “Trouble” Cat Stevens (mostly due to its association with “Harold and Maude” and what’s happening in the movie at that moment)

    “This Woman’s Work” Kate Bush (esp. as used in “She’s Having a Baby”)

    Chopin “Prelude #4”

    “Hickory Wind” Gram Parsons

    “Perfect Day” Lou Reed

    “Slip Away” Clarence Carter

  12. Chopin “Prelude #4″

    Oh, yeah.

    The scene in The Pianist, where the German officer asks the pianist to play something and he plays Chopin’s Ballade #1, Opus 23, E flat major?

    Cried like a baby.

  13. “Yellow” by Coldplay

    I sang it to my daughter when she was having to sit under the bilirubin lights. She looked very yellow.

  14. Tom Waits “So it Goes”
    Bob Dylan “Mr. Tambourine Man” (go figure)
    Kate Bush “Everything Reminds Me of My Dog”
    Lucinda Willams “Side of the Road”
    Richard Thompson “Keep Your Distance,” “Beeswing,” “She Cut Off Her Long Silken Hair,” “The Ghost of You Walks”
    Warren Zevon “Keep Me In Your Heart,” “Accidentally Like a Martyr””
    The Magnetic Fields “All My Little Words”

  15. Thanks for the new Sufjan mp3, Lauren! I can’t wait until his new one hits. Greetings from Michigan has some tearjerkers on it, like O God, Where Are You Now? (can’t remember if that’s the title or just the chorus).

  16. Since I dropped the ball on the High Fidelity challenge,
    My Top Five in no particular order:

    1) Hallelujah – Jeff Buckley
    2) Highway Patrolman – Bruce Springsteen
    3) Kathy’s Song – Simon & Garfunkel
    4) Ne Me Quitte Pas – Nina Simone
    5) Angel from Montgomery – John Prine (and Bonnie Rait)

    honorable mention: Goodnight Saigon by Billy Joel, Maps by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Beethoven’s Seventh/second movement, and I just can’t help it, The Leader of the Band by Dan Fogelberg.

  17. “The Living Years” by Mike and the Mechanics (especially sad if you’ve experienced family problems)

    “Bobby Jean” by Bruce Springsteen (I don’t know why, but I find it really poignant that he never got a chance to say goodbye to his friend)

    “Love Me” by Collin Raye

  18. “A Case of You” by Joni Mitchell
    “It’s Not” by Aimee Mann
    “He Never Got Enough Love” by Lucinda Williams

  19. “Chemo Limo” by Regina Spektor. Particularly, it’s the line “my Barbara, she looks so much like my mom” that turns on the waterworks.

  20. Tori Amos’ “Toast”, which is a tribute to her brother who died recently, it’s at the end of her latest album. At one point you can actually hear her voice break as though she’s almost crying as she sings.

    Also Joni Mitchell’s “River” has to be one of the saddest break-up songs.

  21. Oh, I’m always so late with these.

    My vote goes to “Ohia River Boat” by Will Oldham

  22. For those of us of a certain age, “Alone Again Naturally” isn’t cheesy – it was a sweet, humble expression of the reality of grief. There was a lot of grief in the late 60s/early 70s. (I first remember the song from 1972.)

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