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Domestic Violence is an Every Day Issue

This is a guest post by Katherine Greenier.
While October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, it may be the grim August murder of Crystal Ragin and her three children in Newport News that serves as the year’s most dramatic reminder that more must be done to protect women from violence.

Aggravated assault victims are targeted because they’re just too sexy

If you get stabbed, it’s probably because you just look too bangin. That’s the conclusion, anyway, if you follow Charlotte Allen’s logic:

The other reality that feminists tend to deny is that rape and sexual desire are linked. Rape, in that view, is a purely political act of male dominance. This ignores the fact that the vast majority of rape victims are under age 30 — that is, when women are at their peak of desirability.

Rape is a criminal act, and it is a crime most men won’t commit regardless of how short a girl’s skirt is or how lovely her legs. But the fact that rapists tend to target young women rather than grandmotherly types suggests that in the real rape culture (in contrast to the imaginary rape culture of some feminist ideology), the faux-hos of Halloween and their SlutWalker counterparts marching in their underwear — like a man walking at night with a bulging wallet — should be careful about where they flash their treasure.

Emphasis mine. Allen’s point is that rape is about sexual desire, and that women who are scantily clad stoke that desire in men who then assault them. Her evidence? Younger women tend to be the victims of sexual assault. And since younger women are, she says, the height of female attractiveness, that proves that sexual desire is a factor.

But, funny thing: Younger people are also the most likely group to be the victims of aggravated, non-sexual assault (just so we’re all on the same page here, the term “aggravated assault” means “the crime of physically attacking another person which results in serious bodily harm and/or is made with a deadly or dangerous weapon such as a gun, knife, sword, ax or blunt instrument”). In fact, younger people are victimized by violent crime more often than older folks as a general rule. A person between the ages of 12 and 24 is six times more likely to be the victim of a robbery than a person over the age of 50; about half of people who report being the victims of aggravated assault are under the age of 25. Men are much more likely than women to be the victims of violent crime. In every age group, black people are the most likely to be the victims of violent crime.

So yes, it is true that younger women are more likely to be targeted for sexual assault than older women. But it’s not because of The Sexy — unless hormones and hard-ons are what are causing criminals to choose their (mostly male) targets for robbery and assault also.

I suspect that younger people are more likely to be the victims of crimes because of a combination of vulnerability and opportunity. Young women are perceived as powerless and fairly weak; it makes sense for a rapist to target them. Young people are also, as a general rule, spending more time in situations where crimes occur. We know that sexual assaults often happen at the hands of someone the woman knows — younger women, I would guess, are more likely to be out on dates, or in a room with a man they thought was a friend, or meeting men at a bar. Young people, I would also guess, are more likely to be out at bars (which are pretty common locales for alcohol-related, often non-sexual assaults with male victims and perpetrators). I would guess that young people are simply more likely to come into contact with a ton of other people every day, as a result of being in school or socializing outside of their homes or being less likely to be married. And noting that African-Americans are more likely to be victimized by violent crime than any other racial group, it’s important to also recognize the socioeconomic elements at play here. African-Americans are more likely to face economic and social injustices that leave them facing poverty; poor people are going to be more likely to be taking public transportation or walking, leaving them more vulnerable to stranger attacks. Poor people, and especially poor black people, are also widely perceived as vulnerable and fairly powerless, and therefore easy targets for crimes like street robberies and assaults.

Perpetrators of violent crime also skew young. Arrest rates aren’t a perfect indicator of crimes committed, but they probably trend at least somewhat closely — and if you look at those stats, it’s clear that the under-30s are (unsurprisingly) the group with the highest arrest rates for crimes like aggravated assault, murder, robbery and rape. It’s no big leap to suggest that when young people are committing these crimes, they’re probably committing them against other young people simply out of opportunity — I’m not all that young anymore, but I certainly spend more time around other people in my age group than I do around the 50+ set, or the 18-and-under set.

Couple all of that with the vulnerability issue and of course young people are victimized by violent crime more often than other groups.

But misogynists like Charlotte Allen are happy to play fast and loose with statistics in order to shame and scare women. It’s not booty shorts and Sexy Halloween that’s getting women and girls raped, just like it’s not the overwhelming and undeniable physical attractiveness of men that gets so many of them beaten, robbed and assaulted. It’s rapists. It’s violent criminals.

7 Billion

Today, the world’s population hits 7 billion (well, not exactly today, but that’s as good an estimate as any). PSI, a leading global health organization, has extensive coverage of this milestone in their latest magazine. On their blog, you can read posts about the population boom by Feministing’s Lori Adelman, global health advocate and blogger Alanna Shaikh, and yours truly.

It’s a fantastic site that contains a wealth of information. Read, comment and enjoy.

The kids are alright.

This is a story to bookmark for those days when you’re feeling dismayed about the state of the world. This weekend saw the U.S.’s first lesbian Homecoming king and queen and possible the world’s two happiest chicks ever.

On Friday Rebeca Arellano, a lesbian student at San Diego’s Patrick Henry High, was chosen as homecoming king during a pep rally. She’s the first girl to hold the title in school history, but it gets better! Last night at the dance, Rebecca’s girlfriend, Haileigh Adams, was crowned homecoming queen, making them the first lesbian couple to be king and queen.

As Haileigh said, “The fact that other people are feeling more confident about themselves or feeling like they might have a chance at doing this, it’s opening doors.”

The girls were elected in a sincere vote by the majority of their student body, and both say they’ve gotten support from faculty, fellow students, and their families. What criticism they’ve gotten, they’ve taken in stride. Rebeca Arellano says it’s “one of the most amazing experiences [she’s] ever had.” Also, the couple is just about as adorable as is legal in the state of California. So it’s wins all around.

Yet another Sexy Halloween

The Sexy [insert noun here] Halloween costumes just don’t go away. If anything, I think they’re getting even more ridiculous, or at least less recognizable as anything but a Victoria’s Secret Angel who’s the victim of a horrible prank–seriously, this is a macaw? Not to mention the Sexy Baseball Player costume that is literally just a baseball uniform without pants. (Sidenote: I think most professional sports would become more entertaining without pants.)

It almost, but doesn’t entirely, take the fun out of Halloween–the pressure to be Sexy, when all you really want to be is funny or clever or scary. And from a feminist perspective, it throws the entire movement back about 50 years, to a time when a Playboy Club-style Dirty Cop was more generally accepted than an actual female cop on the actual street.

So as a service to you, I’ve put together a list of feminist-friendly Halloween costumes to throw together before you head out partying this Samhain.

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Against Coldplay

What SFJ said.

Seven out of ten times, Coldplay sound almost exactly like U2—the U2 that exists now, not the wiry, feral U2 of 1980 (which would be a decent idea). U2 have not broken up. This is inefficient. Coldplay should consider copying Big Star or The Monkees.

Yes. I don’t hate Coldplay with the fiery passion that I direct at, say, John Mayer, but I’m generally offended by the fact that people think they’re good. I mean, they are fine. They are generally inoffensive, even if I can’t stand listening to them for more than a few seconds before wanting to stab myself in the temple? But dear god, they are not good.

Also I hate modern-day U2.


Everyone go listen to some Tom Waits.

So There’s a Woman Dressed All Sexy-Like: Your Role as Observer

There’s a lot of ongoing debate about what, exactly, a woman is looking for when she goes out dressed all sexy-like (which is itself a subjective concept). Men (and women) get ideas about exactly what that woman wants, what she welcomes, how they should behave toward her, what her all-sexy-likeness indicates. And guys, in particular, can come up with a thousand excuses for publicly ogling a woman’s goodies–They’re right there; I can’t help but look. She’s doing it for attention–she wants men to look. If she didn’t want guys to look, she shouldn’t put them out there. They’re so ubiquitous, I hardly notice them anymore, and when I do I generally dismiss them with rolled eyes and an unladylike snort.

There is one excuse that, while common, is sufficiently uncommon to draw my attention: Some girls get their feelings hurt if you don’t look/whistle/comment/shout/grope. Seriously. Seriously? Your personal approval is paramount to them, and you’re doing them a service by sexually harassing them. They pass you by at a bar, ladypillows pushed up to their chin, and when you don’t hazard a pinch they look back at you with a single, crystalline tear rolling down their cheek. Your unsolicited grunt is really your generous way of seeing to their emotional health, you saint, you. (Whether the gentleman offering this service is the same one who wanted custody of our metaphorical dog, I shall not say.)

And so I provided him a list, albeit not a universal or comprehensive one, of things to do when you see a woman dressed all sexy-like.

1. Admire, if it’s your thing. I mean, why not?

2. Don’t stare. It’s rude. And it’s not like the view is going to change from minute to minute–generally, women don’t spontaneously disrobe or hyperinflate their breasts or turn into lizard-people such that you’d miss it if you turned away. The view ten seconds now will be pretty much the same as the view you’re getting now, so it’s safe to look away.

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Note-leaving TSA agent suspended

The TSA agent who left a very special note in my suitcase last weekend has been suspended. I am still fairly shell-shocked (and not in a good way) by the amount of attention this has gotten, especially since it’s turned from what I thought was “funny anecdote with bigger political point” into a very different animal. I realize when you put things on Twitter they are certainly public and out of your control, and I’m not going to act brand-new here, but I had no idea this would hit such a nerve. It’s very overwhelming, and I want it to go away. I am still in Ireland and would like to get back to focusing on my actual life, instead of worrying about being known as the GET YOUR FREAK ON GIRL for the foreseeable future (I know, wah wah, tiny violin, etc). But to that end, here’s what I have to say about the suspension, and what is basically getting copied and pasted to anyone who asks:

It’s easy to scape-goat one individual here, but the problem with the note is that it’s representative of the bigger privacy intrusions that the U.S. government, through the TSA and other sources, levels every day. The invasion is inherent to the TSA’s mission, regardless of whether a funny note is left behind — the note only serves to highlight the absurdity of all this security theater. As much as this is a funny and titillating story, when I put the note on Twitter for what I thought was a relatively limited audience I was hoping it would open up a bigger conversation about privacy rights (or lack thereof) in post-9/11 America. It unfortunately hasn’t done that, and instead has turned into a media circus. I would imagine that the TSA agent in question feels the same way I do at this point: I just want this story to go away. The note was inappropriate, the agent in question acted unprofessionally when s/he put in in my bag, there should be consequences and I’m glad the TSA takes these things seriously. But I get no satisfaction in hearing that someone may be in danger of losing their job over this. I would much prefer a look at why ‘security’ has been used to justify so many intrusions on our civil liberties, rather than fire a person who made a mistake.