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Among The Things That Should Be Filed Under “Obvious”

Marilyn Manson, kind of pathetically and kind of brilliantly, has set up and maintained a public persona built on shock value and being a voice for the angsty, teenage underdog for the better part of two decades. But in this interview, Manson really shows the adolescent colors necessary to maintain this mindset into his forties, wherein he admits he tried to abuse his then nineteen-year-old girlfriend into what? getting back together with him? making her REALLY SORRY? by calling her 158 times on Christmas Day, cutting himself all over his face and hands, then writing a song about her called “I Want to Kill You Like They Do in The Movies.”

I’m swooning right now, myself.

Friday Catblogging

Happy Friday! Time to break out that much-lauded Cat-Only Internet Filter.

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…. but wait, you say! That’s not a cat! No, it’s not, but it’s cat-related!

I’m growing cat grass. I’m trying it with plain ol’ wheat grass seed in a packet, and growing from one of those kits at the same time — this one has wheat, oat and barley seed. This is my first time actually potting plants with my own soil, germinating the seeds etc. Yeah, it’s not much but it still has me excited. This is the two pots (kit seed, packet seed) on our window sill.

Now for some actual cats! Mitsy gets comfortable in some awkward positions.

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Buddy, on the other hand, is lying belly-up as usual.

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Would that I could borrow some of his bliss.

(Cross-posted at Three Rivers Fog)

Thoughts on disability and respectful language

There are several different topics I’m trying to write about. Sometimes, when I start typing, the words just flow out and I end up in a totally different place than I was intending to go. The following was part of another post, but it was just too incongruous with the style of the rest of the piece, and long at that. And these topics deserve to be addressed on their own.

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Before we go any further, you guys are going to need a quick tutorial on models of disability.

There are a number of models, but the two primary models are the medical model and the social model. These are the two most often discussed because of the particular ways they conflict with one another.

The medical model centers around the individual. The medical model defines disability in opposition to the normal body/brain, as deviating from that model of normalcy, and any problems that arise in your life are seen as arising from your deviation. Thus, these problems are to be solved by addressing that deviation — by bringing your body/brain closer to the normal model.

The social model centers around the structure of society. The social model does not seek to define disability: instead, it proposes that the problem is that society is built such that many people are prohibited from full participation in society because of their differences. Under the social model, the problem is not the difference, the problem is that society does not accommodate that difference. “The problem is not the person” is a common refrain from champions of the social model.

In short, you might say: The cause of exclusion is not the disability. The cause of exclusion is how the rest of society treats disability. Therefore, what needs to be addressed to eliminate this exclusion is not the individual person’s condition. What needs to be addressed is how society is set up in such a way that this person faces trouble when attempting to exercise hir right to participation equal to that of a non-disabled person. What do you change? Not the person. Society.

There are many other models of disability (including the charity model, which I think deserves more focus because of the real and lasting damage it does to disabled people) listed and explained here. It is worth a read. (You can try the Wikipedia page, but it appears to be written from an abled perspective, and of course the one model they promote besides the two above is the “market” model — how quintessentially white-American-male of them. A lesson in lenses.)

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That said, I’d like to take a moment to establish a point regarding respectful language.

When at all possible, I prefer to use the term “condition” rather than words like illness, disease, disorder — which require the assumption that something is wrong with the person. The word “condition” has a more-or-less neutral connotation, in my experience, which allows me to describe the condition (see what I did there?) of a person’s body and/or mind without loading them down with all the detritus attached to the medical model, which assumes deviance over variance.

That said, sometimes I lapse, and fall into using the more common terms — like, here, mental illness (similarly, chronic illness, invisible illness, etc). I do honestly believe that there has to be a better way to describe the same thing — [mental/chronic/invisible] health condition? — and honestly prefer that those whose brains and bodies are normative would stick to the neutral language.

But something holds me back from being too strict with myself, and others in the atypical realm, on the language issue. Sometimes, I feel like embracing the commonly-accepted language to describe my disability-pride, body-positive, radical acceptance politics might help change exactly what concepts come to mind when people use that language.

Thing is, this isn’t something that can be done in every instance. There are words which simply aren’t going to be reclaimed to a point where even non-group members can use it without calling forth all of the hate and pain associated with them. There is absolutely no acceptable use of the word “retard” or any derivative thereof.

But every once in awhile, a space seems to open up for those of more radical leanings to take hold of that language and transform it.

You see, it’s happening. Right now. With the disability movement.

Think about the word “disability.” There are so many problems to identify with using this particular word to describe a certain category of people. It uses negative language — the prefix “dis-” — to describe them, which sets the tone for all the discussion that follows. The word necessarily implies a lack of something, which is a screwy way to describe a set of people and leaves all sorts of trouble in its wake. And the assumption that people with disabilities do not have ability is kind of silly, isn’t it? Ability to do what? Maybe certain folks with disabilites cannot walk — or talk — or perform certain self-care tasks — or work for pay. But those people do have the ability to do a host of other things. Why is it only that-which-exists-in-opposition-to-abled-people which is important to identify? And why can these differences never be positive?

That’s just a start.

But here’s the thing. The disability community — not unequivically, but more or less — has embraced this word and run with it. Fuck all y’all and y’alls shitty assumptions, they say. We’re DISABLED AND PROUD!

And the disability community is holding its ground. It has created a positive identity out of the language that the scornful world shoved on us. A wide-ranging, rich and deep identity that is all its own — it’s disabled people deciding how to define their disability. Self-determination at its best. And if anybody thinks otherwise, well, fuck ’em.

And make no mistake, disabled folks are everywhere, and the community they form as a group is strong and working hard and accomplishing incredible things.

I have no shame about calling myself disabled, or saying that I have disabilities. I used to — along with other fears and anxieties about the term — but the more I connect with this community, the less I give a shit about all these problematic ideas and attitudes that abled folk come up with. I was holding back based on a construction that was wholly centered aroudn the ideas of people who were not disabled. Why should I be giving them the biggest say when determining my own identity?

The term “mental illness” (et al.) has its problems. But I’m hoping — really hoping — that it can come to inhabit the same sort of space “disabled” does now. Maybe not. Maybe I’d be better off switching to “health condition” to try to neutralize the toxic attitudes of the rest of society.

I also hope that people with mental conditions which typically aren’t considered “severe” enough to be categorized with conditions like schizophrenia and borderline — depression and anxiety disorders, for instance — might come to realize the similarities they share based on how society treats them both — and accept a term that puts them square beside fellow marginalized folk, standing in solidarity.

These are all my own thoughts. Every person has their own ideas, and is free to identify however they feel is most fitting for who they are. There will not be a monolithic voice here. And there may well be criticisms of what I’ve written here, and I’m ready to accept those if so.

But I wanted to clarify right now, so that people understand exactly what is behind these words when I use them.

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A quick aside: many of us with invisible disabilities, with mental illness, with health conditions that aren’t as inhibitive as we usually think when we think “disabled,” have trouble identifying ourselves as disabled — we feel like we don’t count.

I want everyone to know this: the disability community welcomes all of us warmly, if and when we come around to that identity. The disability community readily accepts these people.

You know who makes the biggest fuss about how certain people “don’t count”? — Abled people. Abled people who have no investment in the disability community. Abled people who aren’t interested in actually listening to people with disabilities to learn what they actually want from the rest of the world. Abled people who aren’t interested in actually addressing practical issues for the disabled.

These are the people who police that boundary. These are the people who try to shame you. Not disabled people. Abled people.

Don’t let them make you afraid of identifying a certain way. Own your identity. Have it for your reasons. Not theirs.

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Another aside: I would much rather people adopt the social model than adopt people-first language, if I were forced to choose one. I appreciate people-first language and, given that we are thankfully not forced to choose one, I use it.

But sometimes I feel like abled folk take it on to the exclusion of any other action to help PWD. There are so many other things we need. Please do something real about them. Don’t just stop at changing one fucking word in your vocabulary. Thanks.

(Cross-posted at Three Rivers Fog)

Troy Davis Decision Postponed by Supreme Court

Tentatively good news in the case of Troy Davis, the man on death row for the murder of a police officer despite his maintained innocence, no physical evidence tying him to the crime, and seven out of nine witnesses having recanted.  The US Supreme Court has put off their decision regarding whether or not to take up his case until they reconvene in September.  What that means is firstly that there can be no execution date set in the mean time, and secondly that they may be giving his case more careful consideration than they had previously.  It seems like both Amnesty International and the NAACP, two of Troy’s biggest champions, are hoping that the latter is true.

NAACP President Benjamin Jealous, however, realistically notes in an NPR opinion piece that you really ought to check out, that the last time the Supreme Court granted a motion similar to Troy Davis’ was in 1925.  That means that while it’s an outside possibility, and while it’s undoubtedly good news that an execution date will definitely not be set for at least a couple of months, other avenues have to continue being pursued.

Amnesty International is still urging you to contact Chatham County’s new DA Larry Chisolm, asking him to reopen Troy Davis’ case. I put out this same alert a while back, but if you didn’t at the time, it’s imperative that you do it now.

NYC woman allegedly punched and grabbed by misogynist cop

Chrissie Brodigan was getting off the subway with her sick pug when a cop tried to issue her a ticket. According to Brodigan, the situation quickly turned ugly; she became upset, and in response the cop reportedly said, “If you’re going to act like a woman I’m going to treat you like a woman” (a witness heard the cop say, “”Do you wanna talk like a woman? Do you wanna get knocked around like a woman?”). Brodigan told Gothamist, “He punched me in the back (there are bruises), he handcuffed me, and in the scuffle grabbed my breasts and pinched them.”

She has some pretty nasty bruises on her arms from the incident.

The New York Post (not the most reliable source) reports that a witness heard Brodigan make anti-Semitic remarks during the arrest.

Good news out of India

The Indian Supreme Court struck down a colonial-era law criminalizing intercourse between people of the same sex. The decision had some great human rights language, too:

“The inclusiveness that Indian society traditionally displayed, literally in every aspect of life, is manifest in recognising a role in society for everyone… It cannot be forgotten that discrimination is antithesis of equality, and that it is the recognition of equality which will foster the dignity of every individual.”

Thursday afternoon Youtube cheer-up

I’m having a hard time settling in without fazing out and completely losing cognition. What else to do but turn to youtube?

MOON SHOE IT UP!

Second, here’s Billy Mays (RIP) going through the drive-through at McDonalds.

(I’ve heard that (surprise, surprise) the morning radio show people this is associated with are assholes, and I’m sure they are, given that it’s pretty much a requirement in the genre. Fortunately, they don’t appear to have part in this video — it’s all Billy.)

What’s been cheering you up this week?

(Cross-posted at Three Rivers Fog)

Grandpa’s Agenda

The Human Rights Commission in Maine has been getting it right lately when it comes to protecting trans people in that state. Back in May they found that a trans woman banned from using the restroom in a Denny’s had indeed been discriminated against. Now they’ve backed a little girl who was forced out of the girls bathroom by transphobic attacks.

You’d think this would just be a matter of course for a state department charged with protecting human rights. Unfortunately, Maine is actually ahead of the curve in many ways and what ought to be commonplace is remarkable instead. I’ll come back to that idea after the cut — first, check out what actually caused the incident at this girl’s school:

The discrimination in question first occurred in October 2007 when the child was in the fifth grade at Asa Adams School. Until then, she was allowed to use the girls’ bathroom, although she was biologically male. But that fall, the transgender child was followed into the girls room by a male student who had “previously started to harass her by stalking her and calling her ‘faggot,’” according to the Maine Human Rights Commission investigator’s report.

After the second such episode, the boy was suspended and removed from the transgender child’s class. At that point, school officials told the transgender child that she had to use a single-stall faculty bathroom at the other end of the school, and that was when her parents decided to take the matter to the Maine Human Rights Commission.

Paul Melanson, grandfather of the boy accused of harassing the transgender student, also filed a complaint with the Maine Human Rights Commission, saying that not allowing his grandson to use the girls bathroom or the faculty bathroom as the other child did was a violation of his grandson’s right to public accommodation under the Maine Human Rights Act. Melanson had given his grandson permission to use the girls bathroom as long as the transgender student was doing so, according to the report.

Wow. So, this school had actually provided pretty well for this trans student’s bathroom needs, but then Paul Melanson decided to use his grandson as a pawn to fight against what’s wrong. And by “fight against what’s wrong” what we really mean here is “stalk a little girl into the bathroom yelling ‘faggot’ at her.” Good job, Grandpa Melanson. One asshole bigot who won’t mind his own business really CAN make a difference!

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Update on the New Orleans Women’s Health Clinic: It’s Down

Because of the importance of the issues and my respect for the people and organizations involved, I want to put up full follow-up post to my earlier request for answers and support around the New Orleans Women’s Health Clinic and whether or not trans women can access health care there. Thanks to several readers — especially tghi, who has been a champion the important complexities in this situation — for calling the updates to our attention.

So it turns out that nobody can get health care at the New Orleans Women’s Health Clinic, because they are currently lacking a medical director and have been forced to suspend their programs. I’m sure this represents a terrible drop in services for a lot of women in the area, not just trans women. Queen Emily has posted NOWHC’s response to her questions about getting health care there. The key answer seems to be that the clinic has had difficulty finding medical staff who will serve trans women (among many other oppressed and marginalized populations of women) without stigma, without pathologizing. They haven’t been able to find a medical director (and possibly other medical personnel?) who can accept NOWHC’s priorities without acting like treating all women’s bodies, regardless of age and ability and body type and trans status and a dozen other factors, creates an untenable “risk” or “liability.”

This is really unfortunate and unfortunately common — treating trans women, for instance, is often treated as “too dangerous” by health care providers, or labeled as something “they don’t have the necessary expertise in” even though the vast majority of trans women’s health care is identical to any other woman’s. This happens to many other women as well, and is a very common and often insurmountable barrier to finding health care. It’s happened to me, and probably to most trans women at some point or other. It’s happened to other trans people as well, which is part of why I still wonder why “trans people who were assigned male at birth” were a particular problem for NOWHC, but not trans men or other trans & gender non-conforming people who were female-assigned.

This can be a horribly thorny issue for any social-justice-motivated health care provider. I know that there are community clinics in many areas that keep trying to provide health care even though their staff is not as well-trained in trans-affirmative health care as they should ideally be. Heck, where I live a whole lot of trans people get health care at clinics where they are still occasionally mispronouned or where they encounter transphobia. It’s better than nothing, but it’s not necessarily the right way; it also hurts and creates barriers.

NOWHC faces tremendous challenges and overwhelming odds in trying to be fully responsible, in an economically devastated area where so many people are left without health care, and probably with resources that I can’t imagine are anywhere near sufficient. So I really admire their statement of devotion to doing it right, and providing health care for all the kinds of bodies, and women of different experiences, that they list. I also am glad that NOWHC has made it clear that the policy as worded on their website (currently down, for understandable reasons) did not accurately represent their real policy and goals, or fully explain the struggles going on.

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