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Should feminists attend Yearly Kos?

I am going to Yearly Kos. So are several other feminist and feminist-friendly bloggers, writers and activists, including Amanda, Jen, Lindsay, Barbara , Jessica, Atrios, Joan Blades, Donna Brazile, Gwen Cassidy, Garance Franke-Ruta, Lorelei Kelley, Dahlia Lithwick, Amanda Michel, Karen Nussbaum, Speaker Nancy Pelosi, Anthony Romero, Liza Sabater, Bill Scher, Nancy Scola, Pam Spaulding, and Aimee Thorne-Thomsen. But some members of a feminist listserve I’m a part of have taken issue with feminists attending YK, or asked questions about why we’re attending. In other threads here, commenters have expressed concern about feminist bloggers supporting the event. So I thought I’d open it up for discussion.

My take: Yearly Kos is an important media, political and networking event that feminists should absolutely partake in. Of course, I can understand the desire to forgo more mainstream political participation, and to stick to more feminist-friendly and feminist-focused spaces. If feminists choose not to go, that’s totally understandable. But I take issue with the idea that feminists who are attending are selling out, or don’t know what they’re doing, or are aiding the patriarchy.

Yearly Kos is not about Markos. Markos has very little to do with the event. Markos has a limited role in the Daily Kos community these days. DK has turned into a thriving liberal space where people post diaries, discuss issues, and come at politicking from all different angles. Yes, there are some anti-feminists and some ignoramuses who post and comment there. There are some anti-feminists and ignoramuses who comment here. Yes, Markos can be a dick. I don’t agree with a lot of what he says. I certainly take issue with his view of electoral politics. He was a jerk during the pie fight incident and he was a jerk in his response to the Kathy Sierra/internet harassment issue. I am not a Markos apologist or a Markos fan. But Daily Kos isn’t about Markos anymore. Yearly Kos is even less so. And it’s a huge mistake to write off an important grassroots political conference just because the guy it’s associated with is an unsympathetic character.

There have also been questions about why some feminist bloggers didn’t attend BlogHer, but are attending YK. Short answer: I wasn’t invited to BlogHer. I was invited to Yearly Kos. I wasn’t able to take more than two days off of work, and BlogHer and YK were held on different weekends. I went to the one that invited me. Had I been invited to BlogHer, I would have considered going there instead.

Yearly Kos is not a feminist conference. But it is a conference that has been organized by people who have shown a commitment to inviting feminist speakers, hosting feminist panels, and including feminists on panels that are about issues beyond feminism. It’s also an opportunity to make connections with like-minded progressives, and maybe even to raise awareness about gender equality and nudge feminist issues into more generalized political conversations.

It’s also a chance for the feminist blogosphere to be represented. Yearly Kos isn’t a mainstream conference, because blogging is hardly mainstream. But as far as blogging goes, YK is the big kahuna. The feminist blogosphere should be represented at Yearly Kos, and I’d certainly be braying if we hadn’t been invited. But many of us have been invited, and several prominent feminist bloggers are speaking. YK is a great opportunity to make connections, promote feminist ideas in politics and media, and support progressive media and activists.

I guess I just really don’t see the point — or the productiveness — of turning that opportunity down.

Now, if you’ll just get the father of your fetus to sign on the line here

Oh, how I love living in Ohio. It gives me such marvelous pieces of legislation! Like House Bill 287. What is this lovely piece of legislative craftsmanship, you ask? A bill requiring paternal notification and consent before a woman can obtain an abortion.

A friend of mine who works for the ACLU sent me a copy of the letter from Representative Adams seeking co-sponsors back at the end of May. Here’s his lovely synopsis of the bill:

1) Prohibit a person from performing or inducing an abortion on a pregnant woman without the written informed consent of the father of the unborn child.

2) Require a pregnant woman seeking to abort her pregnancy to provide, in writing, the identity of the father of the unborn child to the person who is to perform or induce the abortion.

3) Prohibit a pregnant woman seeking to abort her pregnancy from providing to the person who is to perform or induce the abortion the identity of the man as the father of the unborn child if the man is not the father of the unborn child.

4) Prohibit a man from giving the consent required to perform or induce an abortion as the father of the unborn child if the man knows that he is not the father of the unborn child.

5) Prohibit a person from causing a man to believe that the man is the father of an unborn child for the purpose of obtaining the consent required to perform or induce an abortion, if the person knows that the man is not the father of the unborn child.

6) Require the person who is to perform or induce an abortion on a pregnant woman who identifies two or more men as possible fathers of the unborn child to perform a paternity test, or cause a paternity test to be performed, to determine the father of the unborn child prior to accepting any parental consent.

7) Provide that the written parental consent and written paternal identification are confidential.

The mind truly boggles. At the time, I sent a letter to Representative Adams, although I never received a response of any kind:

Dear Representative Adams:

It has recently come to my attention that you intend to introduce legislation aimed at protecting the rights of fathers in the case of abortion. (The original bill was introduced as HB 339 in the 124th General Assembly.) While the bill will do several things, its primary purpose is to require paternal notification and consent before a woman can terminate her pregnancy.

I am writing to you to urge you to abandon this proposed piece of legislation. First, the United States Supreme Court has considered the constitutional validity of spousal consent requirements and found them lacking. In Planned Parenthood of Central Missouri v. Danforth, 428 U.S. 52 (1976), the Court specifically held the state could not delegate a veto power to a spouse when the state itself was specifically prohibited from doing the same under Roe v. Wade. There is nothing based upon the language of your bill which suggests that paternal notification will not meet the same constitutional fate. I implore you not to waste taxpayer time and money (or compromise your own oath of office) in proposing a law that is facially unconstitutional.

Secondly, I am deeply troubled by the fact that you seem to be of the opinion that a man’s right to determine the fate of his potential offspring trumps a woman’s right to determine the same. Whether it is your intent or not, your bill would empower men to decide for women whether or not to carry a pregnancy to term. The Orwellian overtones of such a bill are, frankly, terrifying.

I am confident that it is not your intent to patronize women in this manner, nor is it your objective to put pregnant women at the whim of their sexual partners. However, I am not sure what other conclusion will result from your proposed legislation. In healthy relationships (sexual, romantic, marital, and otherwise), men and women already communicate the facts of pregnancy and proposed termination to each other. In circumstances where they do not, it is not the province of the legislature to intervene. It seems the height of arrogance to assume that a man’s right to know somehow overwhelms the right of a woman to bodily integrity.

It is indeed regretful when a man and woman are unable to agree on what to do in the event of an unwanted pregnancy, but attempting to legislate paternal consent is not a solution. I can only hope that you will please reconsider your bill and abandon your efforts to gain co-sponsors.

Sincerely,

etc., etc.

And as if the legislation were not bad enough, there’s the matter of the press coverage.

Several Ohio state representatives who normally take an anti-abortion stance are now pushing pro-choice legislation – sort of.

Led by Rep. John Adams, a group of state legislators have submitted a bill that would give fathers of unborn children a final say in whether or not an abortion can take place. “This is important because there are always two parents and fathers should have a say in the birth or the destruction of that child,” said Adams, a Republican from Sidney. “I didn’t bring it up to draw attention to myself or to be controversial. In most cases, when a child is born the father has financial responsibility for that child, so he should have a say.”

First, let’s be clear: there is nothing pro-choice about this bill whatsoever because it operates to give men complete and total authority to decide whether or not their partner may have an abortion. It’s not encouraging choices, it’s encouraging either (a) nothing at all because people in healthy relationships already talk about unplanned pregnancies or (b) abuse and manipulation. Let’s guess which is more likely. I’m not unsympathetic to the idea that would-be fathers should have some say in reproductive decision making,* but “a say” cannot be veto power. (Edited to add: you can talk all you like for as long as your partner is willing to discuss it, but the decision belongs to the person whose bodily autonomy is in question.)

Thank goodness we’ve got a liberal governor in office.

a world of spheres

Imagine a slightly deflated balloon.  Squeezing the air around can be entertaining for a little while, but eventually hands become tired, and the mind starts looking for something else to do.
You have to squeeze one side of the balloon to fill the other side.  Then, to correct, you squeeze the inflated side giving air to the wrinkled side.
Partially participating in many worlds, but unable to find wholeness in any one world is where I’m struggling.  I want to breathe the air of all sides.  Each world is nourishing, but individually, each world is suffocating.
Many times the worlds don’t fit together in daily life.
Sometimes the grass is always greener even when I’ve just arrived from the other side.
My mental is tired.

I can understand why some people think Americans aren’t connected to what’s important.
I can understand why Americans are seen as materialistic, immoral, and petty.
I can understand why Americans are thought to be loud and obnoxious.

I also find some comfort and Identity in those things that shape the American stereotype.
At the same time, I’m completely ashamed to tell people where I grew up.

In the same breath, I want:
to wear whatever I want without harassment,
roll around naked and shameless in my sexuality,
be loud and obnoxious in a café.

I want for all my worlds to remain intact at all times.  I fear that one may permanently shrivel if I give another world air for too long.

cross posted at Texas and Egypt