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NYT on Alito and Abortion

Because we haven’t run this one into the ground quite deeply enough, a good editorial in the Times about Alito and his opposition to reproductive rights. If you’re tired of hearing about this, my apologies. But it’s kinda important. All emphasis in the article is mine.

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Holiday Draw

Every year my family draws names instead of buying Christmas (aka Atheist Kids Get Presents, Too! Day) presents for everyone in the family. This saves us all some money, a headache or two, and hopefully quells the holiday-related spoiling of youngsters.

Two Questions:
What would be a great gift for a brilliant, feminist, mouthy, headstrong pre-teen girl?

What would be a great gift for a forty-something brother-in-law? (If he gets yet another alumni-themed gift I think he’ll revolt.)

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“Stay tight, wear white”

advice from a father to his 13-year-old daughter. Is it just me, or is that a completely disgusting thing to be saying?

Feministing scours this one quite nicely, pointing out the huge double-standards in how parents talk about sex with their kids and how it perpetuates young people internalizing this kind of sexism. It’s worth a read, even if a lot of the comments will make you cringe. Not-so-surprising point: In every category of sexual experience, the kids have done quite a bit more than their parents thought they had. For example, only 1 parent thought their kid had given oral sex, while 51 actually had (on the other hand, 10 parents thought their kid had received oral sex; perhaps they believe their children to be selfish?).

And if that’s not gross enough for you, allow Twisty’s latest to stir up some righteous rage about our neighbor to the north: In Canada, you can now get away with rape if you claim you had “sexsomnia.” That’s right, if you rape a woman and claim that you were sleeping while doing it, you’re a-ok — you didn’t know what you were doing, even if you did have the sleep-raping foresight to put on a condom.

Friday Random Ten, 2nd Ed.

1. Joan Baez – The Night They Drove Old Dixie
2. Sigur Ros – Heysatan
3. Velvet Underground – Perfect Day
4. Missy Elliott – Lose Control
5. The Fugees – The Score
6. Kanye West – Gold Digger
7. Ani Difranco – Lost Woman Song
8. Elliott Smith – Angel in the Snow
9. Bob Dylan – Like a Rolling Stone
10. Portishead – Biscuit

Friday wine that I am not drinking until I finish this godforsaken outline: a 2004 Bordeaux which my mom brought back from France, and then dragged from Seattle to New York just for her favorite daughter. Thanks, mom!

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Friday Random Ten – The Jock Rock Edition

Apparently Winamp wants me stomping my feet in a stadium:

Do the Spidey Dance1) The Hives – Main Offender
2) Tego Calderon – Cosa Buena
3) Pixies – Here Comes Your Man
4) Lynard Skynard – Tuesday’s Gone (without irony)
5) The Skids – Into the Valley
6) Pharcyde – Back in the Day
7) TV On the Radio – Don’t Love You
8) Marvin Gaye – Mercy Mercy Me
9) T-Rex – Thunderwing
10) Nouvelle Vague – In a Manner of Speaking

Bonus Track: Joan Jett – Love Hurts

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A Big THANK YOU

To Norbizness, for the fantastic Thelonious Monk Quartet with John Coltrane at Carnegie Hall CD. Studying is much more enjoyable with this in the background. Now I actually have a chance at not failing out of law school. Thanks so much!

A Suggestion on Men’s Choices

While I find these discussions thought-provoking, and believe questions of equality and accessibility are of utmost importance in the social and political spheres, we might remember that some of the energy used to debate a man’s place in terms of choice could be aimed at lobbying for more effective male contraceptives.

Recommended: Not to be a Pill, but…

Let’s excuse some of the disparaging language in the above article and focus on the salient points:

1) Pharma has been reticent to develop birth control for men because of the pervasive belief that a) women don’t trust men to use it, and b) men are too irresponsible to be dependable. Wrong and wrong. Studies show that men are willing to be medically responsible for their own reproductive functions, and a significant portion of women report that they would trust their SOs to use birth control responsibly.

2) Pharma doesn’t believe that they will make money off of successful hormonal male contraceptives. Maybe — though the profit margin on female birth control is small, women’s widespread, normative use over time covers research and marketing expenses quite nicely. This ought to carry over to men’s BC as well.

3) The myth that hormonal male contraceptives make men into girls. Wrong — while they work differently than female hormonal birth control, recent research shows promise for easily reversible methods for men, none of which involve menarche, shrinkage or breasts.

4) Money. Private donations are down, corporate budgets don’t make annual increases like they used to, and big pharma spends a pretty penny making sure we all have our Viagra hats, Seasonale pens, and NuvaRing Superbowl commercials (right). Though the pro-marketing argument defends this spending on grounds of covering research costs, it would be easy to argue that this is the kind of research that is not only socially smart, but smart for business as well.

If we are committed to exercising the widest range of reproductive choices, including a man’s reluctance to father and support a child, this is a possibility that would do us all a great deal of good. Make every pregnancy a wanted pregnancy — for both parties.