In defending the decision to refuse an annulment for the marriage of an 8-year-old girl to a 47-year-old man, Saudi Arabia’s top cleric had this to say:
“It is incorrect to say that it’s not permitted to marry off girls who are 15 and younger,” Sheikh Abdul Aziz Al-Sheikh, the kingdom’s grand mufti, said in remarks quoted Wednesday in the regional Al-Hayat newspaper. “A girl aged 10 or 12 can be married. Those who think she’s too young are wrong and they are being unfair to her.”
Indeed, how dare we assume that preteens don’t want to be sold and raped?
Some more back-story on this case:
In December, Saudi judge Sheikh Habib Abdallah al-Habib refused to annul the marriage of an 8-year-old girl to a 47-year-old man.
The judge rejected a petition from the girl’s mother, whose lawyer said the marriage was arranged by her father to settle a debt with “a close friend.” The judge required the girl’s husband to sign a pledge that he would not have sex with her until she reaches puberty.
Two things immediately come to mind:
First, puberty really may not be so far off for this little girl. I, for example, developed breast buds around age 10, got my period by age 11, and was easily what you’d call sexually developed on a physical level (and being propositioned by grown men) by age 12. I’ve heard stories of girls reaching puberty significantly younger than that, as well — and so even if we were for some ludicrous reason to put aside the question of whether meaningful consent is ever really possible in a situation where a girl is sold to a man at age 8, it seems strange to me that raping a girl at age 12 because she has hit puberty is considered to be incredibly better than raping her when she’s 8. Well, okay, not “strange” — more like classic rape culture in action. Because if she looks like a grown woman, she must be able to consent (and therefore must consent), right?
Secondly, maybe, just maybe, if you need to require a man to sign a pledge saying that he won’t rape his child bride because she’s hasn’t even reached puberty — and just assume that he’ll keep it, no less — there’s a problem with allowing that marriage to go forward to begin with.
Al-Sheikh continued:
Al-Sheikh was asked during a lecture Monday about parents forcing their underage daughters to marry.
“We hear a lot in the media about the marriage of underage girls,” he said, according to the newspaper. “We should know that Shariah law has not brought injustice to women.”
Which is undoubtedly why the girl’s wishes and her mother’s word don’t matter one bit. And why other Saudi women are really pissed off and speaking out:
Wajeha al-Huwaider, co-founder of the Society of Defending Women’s Rights in Saudi Arabia, told CNN in December that achieving human rights in the kingdom means standing against those who want to “keep us backward and in the Dark Ages.”
She said the marriages cause girls to “lose their sense of security and safety. Also, it destroys their feeling of being loved and nurtured. It causes them a lifetime of psychological problems and severe depression.”
But hey, who cares what those uppity women think? Clearly, not this guy.
Sometimes, there are no words for situations so horrific.