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Summer, Sex & Spirits TONIGHT!

Summer Sex and Spirits 2011 Flier

Tonight, Monday July 25th, is the 7th annual Summer, Sex & Spirits hosted by the PPNYC Activist Council in New York City. I will be there, and you should come too. There will be an open bar all night, music by New York nightlife legends Justine D and DJ Ayres, and burlesque performances by Calamity Chang, Darlinda Just Darlinda & Ginger Brown.

Tickets are $40 in advance and $50 at the door (or $75 for VIP tickets, which include a pre-party cocktail reception and a fabulous gift bag). All proceeds go to benefit PPNYC’s healthcare services, education programs, and legislative work.

Hope to see you there!

NYC Clothing Swap Tonight at 6:30

I haven’t yet posted about secondhand clothing and why it’s feminist (but it is and that post is coming!) but I just got an email reminder for a Five Boroughs Clothing Swap taking place tonight and wanted to plug it, even though it’s starting an hour and a half. Super short notice, but even if you can’t make it, sign up for the meetup group since there are about six swaps a year: http://www.meetup.com/fiveboroughsclothingswap/

If you live in NYC and CAN go tonight between 6:30-8pm, here are the details:
-Bring: at least 5 items of unwanted clothing (seasonal only)
-Cost: $6.00 without a snack contribution, $3.00 if you bring a snack, or $1.00 with contribution of unopened bottle of wine
-Where: St. Margaret’s House, 49 Fulton St. New York, NY 10038

You must sign up for the meetup group first! If you live in NYC, do it, it’s worth it! There are 65 swappers attending tonight (and there are always over 50 in attendance) so you’re practically guaranteed to go home with good stuff.

Summer, Sex and Spirits — and a free ticket!

Summer Sex and Spirits 2011 Flier

Monday July 25th is the 7th annual Summer, Sex & Spirits hosted by the PPNYC Activist Council in New York City. I will be there, and you should come too. There will be an open bar all night, music by New York nightlife legends Justine D and DJ Ayres, and burlesque performances by Calamity Chang, Darlinda Just Darlinda & Ginger Brown.

Tickets are $40 in advance and $50 at the door (or $75 for VIP tickets, which include a pre-party cocktail reception and a fabulous gift bag). All proceeds go to benefit PPNYC’s healthcare services, education programs, and legislative work.

But, because we love PPNYC and PPNYC loves Feministe, we are giving away a free ticket to the fundraiser — we gave one away last week, and now we’re giving away the second. The first person who emails feministe@gmail.com with the correct answer to the following question will get a free ticket to the event:

What organ is considered the male g-spot?

Email your answers NOW! And no googling, cheaters.

(And if you don’t win, you should come to the event anyway).
____________________________________________
Congrats to Thomas for knowing that the answer is “the prostate.”

Summer, Sex and Spirits

Summer Sex and Spirits 2011 Flier

Monday July 25th is the 7th annual Summer, Sex & Spirits hosted by the PPNYC Activist Council in New York City. I will be there, and you should come too. There will be an open bar all night, music by New York nightlife legends Justine D and DJ Ayres, and burlesque performances by Calamity Chang, Darlinda Just Darlinda & Ginger Brown.

Tickets are $40 in advance and $50 at the door (or $75 for VIP tickets, which include a pre-party cocktail reception and a fabulous gift bag). All proceeds go to benefit PPNYC’s healthcare services, education programs, and legislative work.

But, because we love PPNYC and PPNYC loves Feministe, we are giving away two free tickets to the fundraiser — one ticket RIGHT NOW, and one next week. The first person who emails feministe@gmail.com with the correct answer to the following question will get a free ticket to the event:

How many nerve endings does the clitoris have?

Email your answers NOW! And no googling, cheaters.

(And if you don’t win, you should come to the event anyway).
______________________________________
UPDATE: Congrats, Susan, on the winning number! We’ll have one more ticket-off on Monday, so check in then.

WAM! It Yourself

For those of you who don’t know, WAM! is having a WAM! It Yourself weekend from March 25-28 in Boston, Chicago, D.C., Los Angeles, New York City and San Antonio. Check out the festivities here.

Here in NYC, there’s a benefit concert on Thursday, a happy hour on Friday, and a mini-conference on Saturday. The concert is a sliding scale donation of $5 to $10 and features Hunter Valentine, Toi Toi Toi, Rad Pony and DJ Hottmomz. The mini-conference is $12 and topics include getting published, personal finances, media training, and so forth. For those who can’t make it, I will likely be live-tweeting over at frausallybenz, assuming the internet/WiFi/phone reception is good and my batteries don’t die.

Hope to see some of you there!

Save the Date: Love Your Body Bash Oct. 28

National Organization for Women-NYC’s Annual Love Your Body Day Bash- October 28, 2009

From NOW-NYC:

Love Your Body Day encourages every woman and girl to embrace her own body on her own terms-not the terms set out by society or the media. Join our celebration of healthy body, mind, sex and soul, and support the critical work of NOW-NYC & the Service Fund of NOW-NYC.

*Mara Altman reads from her hilarious and honest new book Thanks for Coming-One Young Woman’s Quest for an Orgasm. A former staff writer for the Village Voice, she has written for New York Magazine and the New York Times. She is currently an adjunct faculty at Columbia University’s Journalism School.

*Judith Steinhart, sexpert, host of Sexuali-Teas and creator of Hey Jud, answers your anonymous, most personal questions about sex with frankness and humor. Also known as a Clinical Sexologist, Judith Steinhart, EdD, has answered questions about sex for Go Ask Alice!, which she co-created, and for thousands of college students and adults for over 25 years. She believes that knowledge is power.

*Filmakers Kimberly M. Wetherell & Amy Axelson join us in our screening room to show their short documentary, Why We Wax, a hilarious look at modern culture’s obsession with hair removal. With a light touch, through countless interviews with women and men, gay and straight, professional and pornographic , Why We Wax explores the history, fashion, function and not-strictly-feminine fascination with maintaining the hair… “down there.”

*free hors d’oeuvres, wine & spirits, raffle entry, and special giveaways. Check out our website, www.nownyc.org, for tickets and more information. Tickets start at $35. Event will be held at In Good Company Loft Space 16 W 23rd Street.

Miles For Midwives

miles for midwivesI’ve just been notified of Miles for Midwives, a great annual event being put on by Choices in Childbirth and the American College of Nurse-Midwives to help raise money for quality midwifery care in NYC:

Date
Saturday, October 03, 2009 @ 10:00 AM local time

Address
Prospect Park
Bartel-Pritchard Square, 15th Street and Prospect Park West

Registration Closing Date
Thursday, October 01, 2009 @ 11:59 PM

Brief Description
Join us for New York City’s Largest Celebration of Midwifery! ACNM and Choices and Childbirth have paired up to host 7th Annual Miles for Midwives race. Support midwifery and healthy families in your community by participating! For additional questions or sponsorship information, please email Miles4Midwives@gmail.com We look forward to seeing you there!

Additional Information
Prizes will be given in each category. Picnic to follow–bring food and store it in our coolers.

I’m not in NYC, nor can I say that I’m the running type, but this sounds like a great event for those who are. It’s no big secret that midwives are undervalued, the that right to childbirth options is under attack, and that insurance companies usually make women’s access to midwifery a lot more difficult. And all of that is definitely a feminist issue.

Click here to register, and spread the word!

Summer Sex & Spirits this Thursday

Wanted to alert you all to a fantastic Planned Parenthood event this Thursday, July 23rd. The details:

WHO: Planned Parenthood of New York City
World-Renowned Donna D’Cruz

WHAT: Annual ‘Summer Sex & Spirits’ Fundraiser
VIP champagne reception
Open Bar all night
After-hours access to museum exhibits
Silent Auction
Music by Donna D’Cruz

WHEN: Thursday, July 23, 2009
8:00pm-11:00pm
7:30pm – VIP Champagne Preview Reception

WHERE: Museum of Sex
233 Fifth Avenue, at 27th Street

COST: Tickets are $40 in advance/$50 day of event
VIP Tickets $75

To buy tickets visit www.ppnyc.org

I will probably be there, and so should you.

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March a Mile in My Shoes

It’s Gay Pride time here in New York City. Specifically, did you know that today is the 5th Annual Trans Day of Action? It’s a tradition we started / revived in the queer/trans people-of-color community around here for several reasons.

First, because we felt the need for another annual landmark to celebrate the lives and struggles of living trans people, in contrast to the somber, autumnal Trans Day of Remembrance. Second, because of an old tradition from decades past: gay pride parades that wanted to be “respectable” forbade trans people from marching on Sunday, so trans folks started their own march-in-exile on the Friday before. Third, because every year there is a lot of bullshit going down that threatens the lives and well-being of trans people, especially those who are marginalized and endangered by poverty, racism, disabilities, criminalization, unjust incarceration, homelessness, immigrant status, and much more. You can read the current list here, which is what the TDOA march was about today.

Here on the internet, there are a bunch of much more symbolic, less immediately-material issues bubbling up that have really been annoying me. Not as much as the city government here discriminating against trans people applying for welfare, but still very annoying in that internet way. Since I’ve built up a backlog, I thought I’d share them with you. An overview first, and more thoughts further down.

First of all,t the (now-defunct) websit Tranny-Alert.com. That’s right, Tranny Alert. Let me just quote their mission statement.

Your site for all things tranny. Tranny spottings. Tranny news. Tranny everything! We are all trannies, all the time. Our site cannot survive without your submissions! Spot a tranny or suspected tranny around town? See a hot tranny mess? Observe a guidette in New Jersey with tranny style? Notice trannies on TV/Radio/Billboards? Find yourself at a Lady Gaga concert? WE WANT TO KNOW!

So it’s like a celebrity-spotting blog, except they take pictures of random trans women on the subway and publish them. Guess what they just Twittered this afternoon? “omg trannies are marching in union square right now is anyone with a camera in the area?” That’s right, it was the Trans Day of Action march that I mentioned earlier. Seriously, I hope some cameras explode in some trans-stalking faces.

UPDATE: The protest against the idiotic transphobic spew of tranny-alert.com seems to have resulted in their Facebook page being deleted, and their website either being taken down by Blogger, or removed by the owners. Congratulations, online agitators!

Second, the incredibly bigoted failure of this stand-up comedy bit by Iliza Shlesinger, the first woman (and most recent person) to win the Last Comic Standing reality series.

And finally, the increasingly common trend of everyone under the sun using the word “tranny” all the time. We’ve already talked about what’s most obvious: how it’s not OK for Christian Siriano and other non-trans to toss this term around for cred, especially with negative connotations. It’s a slur, folks. More recently, I came across a couple brilliant pieces of writing by iphisol and cedar (part 1 and part 2) about why it’s not really OK for anyone but trans women, who have been historically slurred with this term, to appropriate and throw it around like it’s hilarious hoppin’ party time. I agree with them.

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