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How to Score With Chicks (And Real Women Too)

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I got some flack for some of the things I listed as my dating requirements in The Ideal Man According To Lauren. Some of them, I admit, sound elitist and snobbish, and further, they are. But these are requirements for being a long-term partner that I am committed to and will spend significant amounts of time with, not the friendly guys I talk to every day. I have far looser requirements for friends (integrity, people) but hell if I’m loosening my standards for an intimate partner.

Via Brutal Women comes another guide for dating (within my peer group) that I largely agree with, though I could have done without much of the crassness and the father-fellating comment. Numbers 1 and 5 are dead on.

In short: Try. You don’t have to succeed at everything, just be doing something interesting with yourself. Enthusiastically.

7 thoughts on How to Score With Chicks (And Real Women Too)

  1. Someone had to say it: Women don’t want “nice guys” because “nice guys” are invariably awful cretins who think they’re owed something for not being a date rapist. Of course, half of them aren’t date rapists only because they can’t get a date.

    Besides that great piece of the obvious, replace “nice guy” with “sweet” and it’s still dead on.

    Something I was happy to not see was any mention of a smoking habit, which I seem to be somewhat fixated on, right now. Deliberating whether to quit (and gain the requisite 10 lbs) or not (and continue spending $10/week on something unnecessary).

  2. Number 8 on that list is a fascinating truth. It takes a few years to figure out it has nothing to do with you and anything you do differently. It is just the new reality until recognition of the next shift. Of course I could theorize for hours on end as to the reasons for these shifts but that just sounds boring as hell doesn’t it.

  3. …I’m not so sure I like that “women don’t want ‘nice guys'” because, well, that’s what I am. And no, I don’t think I’m owed something for not being a date rapist, and no, it’s not just because I can’t get a date. It’s just me.

    *shrug*

  4. Robert, I think it’s a criticism of the guys who think dates are job interviews for a romp between the sheets. On a resume for said job, they’d put “Bachelor of Arts in Nice Guyology” under the education header.

  6. Gotta agree with the nice guy comment. I’m dating a wonderful man who shows lots of respect to everyone, but he does it because everyone should and doesn’t expect special treatment for doing so.

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