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NPM: Kim Addonizio

I love this poem like I love Edie in Desperate Housewives (and yes, I love Desperate Housewives). It’s everything a woman isn’t supposed to be: direct, demanding, and not a sexual object, but a sensual subject. Add a wee bit of bitter vulnerability, covered by pride. Damn good poem.

I doubt this is the answer Freud was expecting, but hell, at least he asked.

What Do Women Want?” by Kim Addonizio

I want a red dress.
I want it flimsy and cheap,
I want it too tight, I want to wear it
until someone tears it off me.
I want it sleeveless and backless,
this dress, so no one has to guess
what’s underneath. I want to walk down
the street past Thrifty’s and the hardware store
with all those keys glittering in the window,
past Mr. and Mrs. Wong selling day-old
donuts in their café, past the Guerra brothers
slinging pigs from the truck and onto the dolly,
hoisting the slick snouts over their shoulders.
I want to walk like I’m the only
woman on earth and I can have my pick.
I want that red dress bad.
I want it to confirm
your worst fears about me,
to show you how little I care about you
or anything except what
I want. When I find it, I’ll pull that garment
from its hanger like I’m choosing a body
to carry me into this world, through
the birth-cries and the love-cries too,
and I’ll wear it like bones, like skin,
it’ll be the goddamned
dress they bury me in.

Amen.


11 thoughts on NPM: Kim Addonizio

  1. yes, ma’am!

    seriously…there are so many emotional layers in this poem, it’s going to take me months to find them all.

    even though the dress seems in many respects to be a metaphor, i had a very concrete image pop into my head immediately upon reading it. literally concrete. as in, hearing these words while walking past a department store with the dress in question in the window, smashing the window with a hunk of concrete and giving the dress to the speaker.

  2. Very good poem, I see the red dress as more of a character attribute, as something strong, yet sensual and compelling.

  3. wow, a blog i read posts a poem written by the ex-girlfriend of my former landlord/housemate (or so he claimed). that just blows my mind.

    i think the dress represents a desire for power, a kind of power which is inherent in women, but which women in general often eschew, as a result of societal pressure to conform to “traditional” gender roles.

    but what do i know? i’m a man.

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