A reader writes in with a question about how to do feminism in her daily life:
How do you talk about issues that are certainly feminist, but not necessarily button-pushing issues like sex work and abortion, with your friends? I’m thinking specifically about how to encourage my to accept their bodies as they are and to recognize the effect that the media has on everyone’s, and particularly women’s, body image. My friends know that I identify as feminist, and most of them, while they might not accept that label themselves, certainly believe in feminist ideals. I want to bring this idea up, because I am becoming increasingly concerned with the prevalence of body-hating talk whenever we get together. (For what it’s worth, ALL of them are conventionally attractive, so it seems to me that the talk comes more because they subconsciously think it’s expected, even required, in our society than that they actually believe it.) I already tell them regularly that they are beautiful, but I worry that 1) I’m reinforcing the idea that conventional beauty determines female value and 2) they don’t believe me anyway.
Suggestions?
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