My question for “feministe feedback” (thanks for adding this feature, by the way – I wouldn’t know where to ask this question, otherwise) has to do with some of the apparently false scare tactics certain factions of the anti-choice movement employ. My 14-year-old neighbor told me the yesterday, upon noticing my pro-choice bumper sticker, that she thought abortion was a big “no-no” because of a documentary she’d seen. Apparently, it included an actual ultrasound of an abortion taking place (?!). She went on to tell me that, while she’d previously thought a fetus was “just made up of a bunch of cells and stuff” she now realized it was “ALIVE” because the footage she saw showed, and I quote, “a week old fetus that was moving around furiously just to avoid the forceps there to take him away. Its heart beat was also measured and it sped up, like a normal human being in fear.” Of course, I was pretty taken aback by all of this (which gross inaccuracy to address first?), but even after a few probing questions – taking into account errors in memory/retelling – it strikes me that this girl was fed, at the very least, a lot of seriously misleading information. (And I’d really like to get my hands on this so-called “documentary.”) Unfortunately, our conversation was cut short before I could really get anywhere.
I’ve heard about lies and misinformation various groups of anti-choicers use in their campaigns, but up to this point, I’ve spent more time acquainting myself with the legal side of abortion to pay much attention. (I do know that when I was in high school – and that wasn’t even five years ago – I was never shown any suspect “documentaries” on the subject.) So, what’s going on? Where can I learn more about these so-called “facts” anti-choicers are spreading around? What are the most common ones? Are there any good resources detailing said lies – and the actual truth? (And, for the hell of it, has anybody heard of the aforementioned documentary?) Most importantly, though, what’s the best way to keep an open – and truthful – dialogue going with my young neighbor on the subject? I thought it was okay to talk to her about it because she brought it up first, but now I don’t know whether to wait for her to bring it up again, or not. I can’t stand the idea that she’s walking around with false information when, if she at least had the facts, she could make an informed decision. But, I don’t want to overstep my bounds, either.
I suspect that the documentary in question is The Silent Scream (and that link is a great resource for refuting the claims made in the film).
Beyond that, any suggestions form the peanut gallery on how to deal with this situation? How do you talk with young women about choice?