I liked Eliot Spitzer, I really did. And I can understand that lots of other people liked him too, and now they want to defend him. But are liberals serious arguing that “Spitzer did nothing wrong“?
The outrage over former New York governor Eliot Spitzer hiring an A-list hooker makes me feel like throwing a gigantic, crippling pile of superheavy biology and economics books at everyone in the United States and possibly the world. Are we still so Victorian in our thinking that we think it’s bad for somebody to pay large amounts of money for a few hours of skin-time with a professional? Have we not learned enough at this point about psychology and neuroscience to understand that a roll in the sheets is just a fun, chemical fizz for our brains and that it means nothing about ethics and morality?
Except that it does mean something about ethics and morality when it’s illegal and you’re a governor. And, while I don’t know the details of Spitzer’s marriage, I’m gonna guess that the majority if the time, it matters when you’re married. Call me old-fashioned, but I think when you make a commitment to someone, you honor it. Now, if Spitz and his wife had a deal where he could sleep with as many other people as he wanted, fine. But given the circumstances — specifically, chatter about Spitzer’s sexual requests, which reportedly included some condom-free activity, and the fact that he’s a prominent public figure for whom being caught meant total ruin — I have a hard time believing that his wife was a-ok with everything.
Plus, no, I don’t think we’re all on the same page that prostitution is totally morally acceptable, especially when the reality of sex work includes lots of women and girls who aren’t there voluntarily. Perhaps in theory, sex work isn’t problematic (although even that’s debatable). But in practice it often is. In Spitzer’s case, he was with a woman who was by all accounts there on her own volition. That’s great. While I have no problem with women who choose to go into sex work, I have to admit that I do have a problem with men who purchase sex. Perhaps that comment is going to get me attacked, but I’ll stick to it: I don’t think that it’s immoral or wrong to sell sex or to work in the sex industry. I do think that men who buy sex are committing a moral wrong. Sex work is not a morally clear issue, and no, we most certainly do not all agree that buying sex is nothing more than a fun roll in the sheets without any ethical or moral strings attached.
Of course, my moral opinions aren’t really the point. But even if we put that aside, Spitzer also may have committed a variety of financial improprieties in an effort to hide his sex work purchases, in addition to, you know, illegally purchasing sex. That’s definitely “wrong” in my book. And although I don’t think prostitution should be criminalized, I do think that the kinds of financial buggery Spitzer is accused of is rightly criminal. And as liberal people who expect a basic level of responsibility and ethical judgment in our leaders, I think we have to be just as hard on politicians we love as those we loathe. Which is why we have to be tough on Spitzer: Because he was wrong, legally and ethically. It was not simply a private matter. And when we cover our eyes and act like we don’t understand how anyone could possibly have a problem with what Spitzer did, we look like idiots.