Thanks to Going Gray in the comments to this post, I found her blog as well as the site Going Gray, Looking Great, a site for Diana Jewell’s book of the same name. Lots of great information about transitioning there, as well as colors to wear with gray and photos of great gray hair.
I haven’t yet done anything with the color, though I got a haircut yesterday. I was willing to chop it short, but I left the cut in the hands of the stylist with some instructions (i.e., GET THIS FUCKING HAIR OUT OF MY EYES OR I’M GOING AFTER IT WITH NAIL SCISSORS!!!!), and wound up with something much more textured but still more or less a chin-length bob. Which looks great. And given that there’s a good deal of texturizing, there’s a lot of shorter pieces which won’t take long to grow out.
I hadn’t been planning on getting a haircut yet, but I had a job interview yesterday afternoon, and since my hair was both showing roots and overgrown, I had to fix one or the other in order to look polished. And since I both still couldn’t stain my bathtub AND I suspect I’ve developed an allergy to a chemical in hair dye, I went with the cut.