A Feministe reader sends this on, and it’s definitely interesting fodder for discussion:
Recent events in the news (UNICEF photo of the year) and my experiences in the field have gotten me thinking hard about what human rights advocates should do about the problem of child marriage. As a feminist, I am appalled and horrified by the idea of a girl being withdrawn from school (if she ever went at all) married, and impregnated –all as soon as she gets her first period, sometimes, depending on what country and culture she is from, to a much older man.* Her life is thus defined for her while she is still a child. She enters the same sad cycle her mother and grandmother and every female ancestor lived; early marriage, early motherhood, a life of hard labor, and early death. Her daughters soon follow.
So, child marriage, especially child marriage that enforces a cycle of gendered poverty. It is a very bad thing. It goes against just about every principle of human rights. But what should be done about it?
If a twelve or thirteen year old girl from the suburbs of an American or Western European city is forced to marry, her parents should be held criminally accountable for what is absolutely, no question about it, child abuse.
But what if the girl in question lives in a remote part of Eastern Europe, Latin America, Asia, or Africa? What if she is a member of an impoverished or despised ethnic minority, or a historical underclass? What if, due to her circumstances, she will likely die at what, for those better off, would be middle age? What if she and her family live in a state experiencing violent conflict, or the depressed, uncertain aftermath of conflict? What if the state itself is in no position to enforce minimum age laws when it comes to marriage, or that most marriages are not sanctioned by the state? What if getting the authorities involved might cause the situation to worsen because the minority group the girl and her family are part of has historically been abused by the police or discriminated against by the bureaucracy?
Cultural relativist arguments such as “We’ve always done it this way, it’s a our culture” and “Our women are not like your women” are more about patriarchy than genuine desire to preserve culture, in my opinion, but the above mentioned circumstances are very real for millions of girls forced into early marriage –and also for those working to stop the practice.
So, feministers, my semi-rhetorical question to you is this: If you were already working to address the root causes (poverty, racism, social exclusion, and lack of education) –but the practice of little girls are married off and made to bear children when they themselves are still children was still one that made your feminist heart ache and rage flare– what then would you do?
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*Marriages of young girls to older men are not common where I am working. Young adolescent marriages, however, are the norm in some communities.