Hey, ladies! September 22, 2007 piny Is there an obnoxious come-on equivalent to, “Gee, I guess you can´t handle dissent on your little blog, can you, babe?” Would this be analagous to, “You just don´t like men, huh? Is that it?” Or is it more like, “What are you, a lesbian?”
“You think you’re too good for me, is that it? Stuck-up bitch!” or maybe “Would it hurt you to smile once in a while, baby?” Actually this kind of “how dare you react strongly to my bullshit arguments instead of respecting and thanking me” garbage reminds more of that guy Mystery the loser pick-up artist than anything. “I’m just negging you so you’ll be willing to talk to me!”
“I’m not hitting on you. A nice guy can’t even have a conversation these days.” This is a time-tested tactic of dismissing a woman’s discomfort with a man’s disgusting come-ons by acting like she dreamed it all up.
holy gosh rory, this just happened in a completely obnoxious way yesterday. sitting at a table at a coffeeshop working, and some guy sits down at the other end. I studiously ignore him. he tries four different times to engage me in conversation, which I shut down politely with one word answers and go back to work. He does it again, I say, Excuse me, but I am trying to work. He then proceeds to chew me out for a minute about how he hopes I don’t get this upset and angry so fast all the time, because that would mean I am not a well-adjusted person, and he was just trying to be nice and have a conversation. needless to say, I was not silent during this lecture of his about my lack of receptivity to random creepy dudes overtures interjected against my will and request into my workspace. And then he had the gall to say, well I will just be quiet then, and stayed at my table.
Snerk. I think I know who you’re talking about. Extra points for creating new logins in an attempt to make an end run around the mod queue.
The one I always hate getting is, “Oh I get it you dont like guys that are (fill in physical characteristic)”. No trust me most of the time I am not enjoying getting hit on has nothing to do with what you look like and everything to do with the fact that you are being a sexist asshole.
Why can’t dudes get it through their heads that WE don’t like constant male propositioning any more than THEY like it. And they use it as a MURDER defense! Seriously, I think most of the guys who absolutely FREAK about “out” gyas in the military, are just horrified that they might get hit on. THey might recieve unwelcome advances from Men! Horrors! And then they go right on making unwelcome advances to WOMEN.
I think rory’s right. It’s the equivalent of the guy who says, when you turn him down, “I wasn’t hitting on you. Don’t flatter yourself.” It’s frustrating because a lot of the time you shoot them down before they even get to the actual request for a date/phone number in order to be nice and spare them from wasting their time on you or their money buying you drinks or whatever.
I think these guys want attention more than anything else. Who likes to write on the net and not get feedback? Also, it may be they are such bullies in real life they can’t keep a girlfriend. Ignore the idiots. Mark them as spam, and just make them disappear.
“You must be wanna them women’s libber types uh?” and said mind you with a chuckle as if I’d find such humorous. In my nice girl days I’d laugh along and protest ‘No, no not me.” Not anymore, I usually shut them down quickly, “Yes, in fact I am.” Or “Had a rough day uh?” followed by, “Yes.” with a turn away, often followed by, “Ooo…feisty.” I usually remove myself from their presence as soon as possible if not sooner by that time. But seriously, since I’m forty now and overweight, I don’t get hit on much anymore. Usually its the opposite, I get ignored — pushed aside while waiting my turn at a crowded coffee stand, or practically run over anywhere else. Not even so much as an “Excuse me.” since apparently they might get contaminated with my fat lady cooties. Mind you, when I was ‘the hawtness’ in my younger days, they would bend over backwards to be polite. Only reinforces my assumption of what most men think women are worth as a whole.
My “favorite” line is “Well someone must be on the rag./It’s that time of the month, isn’t it?” Yes, how dare I get upset. It must be those silly female hormones making me think I have a right to turn you down.
Jade: Last time someone said “Well, someone must be on the rag…” I replied with, “No. If I were, I’d have told you to fuck off by now”. Stupid, because it reinforces the ‘on the rag’ = mean, but it worked. 🙂
Luna: I wouldn’t say that was stupid. I highly doubt you would have been able to make him realize women do have real feelings and that he was being a jerk. I’d say you were quite justified and pretty awesome for it. 😉
*blink* I thought those *were* come on lines. Seriously, wasn’t there some book on how to get women into bed, saying he should insult her?
My “favorite” line is “Well someone must be on the rag./It’s that time of the month, isn’t it?” Yes, how dare I get upset. It must be those silly female hormones making me think I have a right to turn you down. I’ve found that a good response to that one is an innocently wide-eyed delivery of, “Am I on the– Oh, gosh, no. Actually, I’m violently allergic to assholes.”