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One of them

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There’s an article in the Washington Post about the Albanian sworn virgins:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/08/10/AR2007081002158.html

Dones, who lives in Rockville, had just met an adherent of an ancient northern Albanian tradition in which women take an oath of lifelong virginity in exchange for the right to live as men. The process is not surgical — in these mountains there is little knowledge that sex-change surgery is even possible. Rather, sworn virgins cut their hair and wear baggy men’s clothes and take up manly livelihoods as shepherds or truck drivers or even political leaders. And those around them — despite knowing the sworn virgins are women — treat them as men

They cannot marry men, and the oath they take is irreversible; at least one of the virgins mentioned in the article talked about regretting living without a male partner. The article didn’t bother to mention their options vis-a-vis women, or bring up the subject of affairs with women, either accepted or covert. It also didn’t mention an orientation towards women as a reason for rejecting marriage and becoming a sworn virgin. I assume that sworn-virgin status is not a means of attaining social acceptance as a dyke.

The article emphasizes utilitarian rationales for wanting male status, including both a desire to evade sexism and the need for a patriarch.

“Why live like a man?” one virgin, Lule Ivanaj, asks herself rhetorically in an English-subtitled documentary that Dones (pronounced DOH-nez) made on the women for Swiss television called “Sworn Virgins.” Ivanaj looks like a man in his 50s, with short hair, thick arms and a wide metal watchband on one wrist. “Because I value my freedom. I suppose I was ahead of my time.”

Dones, 47, learned about sworn virgins 25 years ago from her university classmates in Albania’s capital, Tirana. The practice has existed at least since the 15th century, when the traditions of the region were first codified, according to Dones. The sworn virgins came into being for emergencies: If the patriarch of the family died and there was no other man to carry on, a provision was needed so that a woman could run her family.

The article portrays sworn-virgin status as generally accepted (at least historically; the choice is becoming anachronistic), but I wonder how a woman growing up alongside that tradition would have felt about it. Did families speak openly about the possibility? Were girls able to talk about it as an option they might be considering? Did they have contact with sworn virgins in their extended families? Was contact between sworn virgins and either men or women restricted apart from the prohibition on marriage? What happened when a girl told her parents she intended to become a sworn virgin, and how did parents think of their grown children who had made that choice?

I know how I might answer all of these questions as a Westerner, an American from my own very specific background. I could mention feelings of loss and intolerance and dissonance as I’ve heard them described here. I don’t know how this other culture would deal with them.

One very interesting potential conflict was the consistent use of female pronouns to refer to sworn virgins–people who had made the recognized choice to live as men and who, according to the article, were treated as men by those around them–along with consistent reference to them as “women.” There’s no discussion of whether or not the sworn virgins are referred to as “he” or “she” by the people around them.

The article also continually describes the (arguable) disjunct between the sworn virgins’ assigned sex and their role with phrases that emphasize the “truth” of the assigned sex and its assumed potential to overshadow the sworn virgins’ lives as men:

When the Albanian journalist and author Elvira Dones was traveling in the mountains of northern Albania, she asked for directions from someone she thought was a man walking his mule through a village, rifle on shoulder.

And those around them — despite knowing the sworn virgins are women — treat them as men.

Other traditional practices of the north were repressed by the communists, but leaders in Tirana simply never cared if a woman in the impoverished and remote mountains wanted to dress and labor as a man.

The article is also careful to rephrase these sworn virgins using the cues we are familiar with:

Ivanaj looks like a man in his 50s, with short hair, thick arms and a wide metal watchband on one wrist. “Because I value my freedom. I suppose I was ahead of my time.”

I’m not sure how to negotiate these differences–like I said, I’m reacting to the sworn virgins as a member of my own culture–but it’s an interesting problem to see play out here.


19 thoughts on One of them

  1. This reminds me of an article I read yesterday, about a culture that does something similar with boys who are born into a family with too many boys, and they need more females to do the “womanly” work.

    It’s an interesting read… I stumbled across it on Helen Boyd’s blog. She often posts some good links regarding trans issues.

  2. I remember learning about a very similar practice, but I don’t know if this is the same culture. I think they were allowed to marry widowed women and become the breadwinner of the family. I got the impression that was part of the point, when there were not enough men to support the widowed women, then a woman would step in.

  3. I think this really points to our own culture’s ambivalence towards fluid ideas and ideal of gender.

    I’m curious to know if the expression “sworn virgin” is literal or figurative. Obviously Ivanaj (we’re not told if this is a masculine or feminine name) chose this lifestyle in her 20’s. Was she a virgin at this age? Is she required to verify this before being accepted? What standard of virginity is used, hymen integrity, any penetration or sexual experience of any kind?

    If the expression is figurative, what prohibitions are there on women who would choose this, age, previous marriage, childbearing. For instance would a woman who marries very young, say seventeen but who’s husband is killed after only a year of marriage and who has borne no children, would she be eligible?

    This is really fascinating, especially coming from a culture that considers sex to be such an absolute and biological thing.

  4. If that’s my only choice, then sure. I’ll do it.

    Funny though, how the only way a woman can be respected as a HUMAN (and that’s what they mean when they say “man”) is to never ever let a penis inside of herself. I mean, once you’ve had a DICK in you, you’re degraded filth, right? Gosh.

    Men (OOPS, I’m so sorry, MOST MEN AND I’M SURE THAT NONE OF OUR WONDERFUL FABULOUS OH-SO-PEFECT MALE READERS are like this, kissy-kissy on them) seem to feel that fucking a woman is pretty much equivalent to taking a shit in her cunt. They hate their dicks, and because their entire social standing among the society of Other Humans (male society in other words) depends on them having the things hanging off them, they retreat to simply hating that which a dick is inserted into.

    Us.

  5. This reminds me of a website I came across the other day, after hearing about the fa’afafines from Helen Boyd’s blog. Only in this case, boys born into families with too many boys or girls that are too young to do the “womanly chores” are brought up as girls.

  6. Men (OOPS, I’m so sorry, MOST MEN AND I’M SURE THAT NONE OF OUR WONDERFUL FABULOUS OH-SO-PEFECT MALE READERS are like this, kissy-kissy on them) seem to feel that fucking a woman is pretty much equivalent to taking a shit in her cunt.

    No, the reason this practice requires virginity isn’t some odd bit of psychology. Rather, in a traditional society, having had intercourse implies marriage and being married usually implies having children. There wasn’t much in the way of birth control when these practices originated and traditional societies recognized having kids out of wedlock as detrimental – especially since Big Brother wasn’t going to be providing you with a welfare check for messing up your life. Given all of that, this was a fairly reasonable and uncomplicated compromise for those women who wanted to forgo marriage.

  7. Is the use of male pronouns something that the “sworn virgins” are called in their own language, or is that a gloss from translating it into English?

    With the caveat that I haven’t seen the documentary, I’d guess that, as in other cultures that have similar traditions, the “sworn virgins” are pretty much treated as men, period.

  8. Albania, by force of geography, language, religion and politics, has always been a very isolated country. Not to be snarky, but based on what’s presented in this post, that may not have been a bad thing.

  9. Funny though, how the only way a woman can be respected as a HUMAN (and that’s what they mean when they say “man”) is to never ever let a penis inside of herself. I mean, once you’ve had a DICK in you, you’re degraded filth, right? Gosh.

    Janis, I personally wonder if these “sworn virgins” are interested in sex with men at all. Clearly one in the documentary was, and in some measure regretted her choice to forsake that role, but I wonder if that’s true for all of them.

    I wonder if some, in a culture that offered them more varied ways of expressing this role, would sexually desire women.

    Or be sexual tops who have no interest in receiving penetration.

    We have no way of being sure of any of that because this is the role open to them and what they chose.

    And what about female-bodied people who gladly choose a social role that allows them NOT to be penetrated? What if that’s part of it for some of them?

  10. Janis, I personally wonder if these “sworn virgins” are interested in sex with men at all.

    I’m not talking about them, I’m talking about the attitudes of a culture that ONLY permits women to do certain things if they are not “sullied” by penises. I’m not talking about the motivations of the Vestal Virgins; frankly, they were probably happier than most Roman women. I AM talking about why every other woman in Rome had to sit in the nosebleed seats in the Coliseum for having somehow agreed to turn themselves into subhumans by accepting dicks into their bodies.

    It’s everyone else I’m calling fucked up.

  11. It’s been a while but I did a paper on same sex marriage and found several intersting cases of women taking the role of men. I wish I still had that to find my sources, but I remember reading some old magazines with articles about traditional native American tribes and their cultures. I recall at least one , but can’t remember which, was seen as incredibly odd becasue it gave women the choice to take on the role of a man and marry a woman. Usually it was a woman with children who had lost her male partner.

  12. The Post article probably reveals more about contemporary US bien-pensant opinion – or about one young reporter’s attitudes – on the subject than it does about the anthropology of northern Albanian gender practices. Some other sources on the topic:

    Antonia Young. Women Who Become Men: Albanian Sworn Virgins. NY: Berg, 2000.

    Roland Littlewood, “Three into two: the third sex in Northern Albania,” Anthropology & Medicine, vol. 9, no. 1 (1 April 2002): 37-50.

    [Abstract: “From the position of a formal sociology, Georg Simmel argued that the introduction of a third element into a pervasive binary system can serve to mitigate the latter”s salience. The instance considered here is that of a third sex in Northern Albania. “Sworn virgins” are generally perceived as women who become men (gender crossing) rather than as an additional engendered category (multiple gender). The overarching significance of the Albanian gender system is thereby barely attenuated, and virgjinesha do not contribute to a less subdominant position for other women.”]

    Aleksandra Djajic Horváth, “A Tangle of Multiple Transgressions: The Western Gaze and the Tobelija (Balkan Sworn-Virgin-Cross-Dressers) in the 19th and 20th Centuries,” Anthropology Matters, no. 2 (2003), at:

    http://www.anthropologymatters.com/journal/2003-2/horvath2003_tangle.htm

    Unsigned & undated article, “Crossing Boundaries: Albania’s Sworn Virgins,” in Jolique: Exploring Dress & Culture, at:

    http://www.jolique.com/gender/crossing_boundaries.htm

    René Grémaux: “Woman Becomes Man in the Balkans”, in Gilbert Herdt, ed. 1996: Third Sex, Third Gender: Beyond Sexual Dimorphism in Culture and History, edited by Gilbert Herdt. Zone Books, 1996.

    There’s also a wikipedia article, at:

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sworn_virgin

  13. Different cultures have different ways of dealing with a fundamental underlying reality. I think that is a beautiful thing and just another part of being human on this planet.

    I think this really points to our own culture’s ambivalence towards fluid ideas and ideal of gender.

    I don’t think our western culture is at all ambivalent. It is openly hostile. One can only hope that this will get better over time.

  14. The book “Transgender Warriors” by Leslie Feinberg mentions this practice.

    Albania is a very patriarchal society. I read in “Women in the Material World” that it is a wedding tradition for the father of the bride to give the groom a whip to symbolize the passage of authority from father to husband. The couple that was interviewed for the book were more egalitarian than most, a fact for which the husband was routinely ridiculed.

    I’m a straight woman who has NEVER wanted to be a man, but if that was my only alternative, I’d become a sworn virgin, too.

  15. I’d also become a sworn virgin, if I had to.

    And then use my political and social power to help create equality for women. Muwahaha!

    Still, this entire thing boggles me. The fact that a woman can be treated as an equal – or a man – even if she did have to accept certain condions, amazes me. I bet you could show that to a right-wing misognyst and his head would explode.

  16. Srdjan Karanovic’s film Virgina (Serbian title: Virdzina, 1992) is an excellent film about the making of one such Boi. The film graced a number of queer and E. Euro film festivals when it uh- came out.

    It is one of my favorite films of all time.

    This practice also existed in Serbia / Croatia, and perhaps further afield as well. I am not sure whether the practice still continues.

    In the Roma community of Albania, older women enjoy all sorts of traditional male privilege such as smoking pipes and, to a certain degree, lounging around while others (women) do all the work.

  17. Well, we all know what happens with virginity pledges generally. Just like women who became nuns in the west in the days when the church had far more secular power than it does now, this looks like a similar way to have some power in society instead of being shackled by a very restrictive marriage and a lot of kids to go with it. And if you wanted to, don’t TELL me you could not get a little on the side if you wanted it.

  18. bmc90, as long as it consisted of no activity whatsoever that would result in a pregnancy, which would pretty much demonstrate ones non-virgin status.

    Frankly, in a land where men behave like that toward the women they screw, I can’t imagine many of them being all that good in bed and hence worth fucking. Not having to deal with ignorant groping and a quick poke would probably be a relief.

  19. Er, sorry about posting the same thing twice. The first time, it didn’t show up, not even with the moderation reminder, so I went back later and, still not seeing it, posted it again. My bad.

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