I will be turning 30 this year and it seems every time I go to a social function another friend is announcing her belly is full of baby. For me it still seems so grown-up and I still prefer to sit at the kids table during Thanksgiving dinner. A few months ago one of my girlfriends had her first and only biological child. She married a high school teacher who had 2 other children from his previous marriage and they agreed that they did not want more children.
I was dismayed, although not surprised to hear how difficult it was for her to convince her doctor to perform a tubal ligation after the birth. Feeling that their family was complete, she insisted from her very first appointment that she wanted to have permanent birth control. Her physician simply would not consider it, and I am sure if it wasn’t for her pushy insistent nature she would not have been granted the procedure. Her choice was constantly challenged, not only by her doctor, but nurses, hospital staff, family and friends. You would think that by limiting herself to one biological child she was robbing herself and humanity of a messiah.
It is infuriating that women still have to “convince” doctors that we know what is right for us in regard to our reproductive choices. Considering the recent Supreme Court decision, it’s not shocking to discover that many still believe women to be fickle about our decisions that impact whether or not we reproduce. Medical and judicial establishments have a long history of pernicious dominion of women’s physical autonomy, not limited to abortion. When women have to be tenacious in justifying their choices to those who dictate and “grant permission” it is a reminder that emancipation is an illusion.
The fact that my friend is young(30), white, and married should be of no surprise that she may need to plead with her physician to allow her to have a permanent form of non-hormonal birth control, while other women are bribed to do such:
Hartford was the third stop on their nine-state summer road trip with a controversial mission – promoting birth control, including sterilization, for drug addicts and alcoholics.
A billboard on the side of Harris’ 30-foot RV read: “Attention Drug Addicts and Alcoholics. Get Birth Control & Get $200 CASH. Call 1-888-30-CRACK.”
It is impossible to ignore the racial and class undertones when discussing the differences in treatment by the medical community when comparing the experiences of white/middle class women and either Woc or different socio-economic status. Although no one endorses alcohol and/or drug use during pregnancy there are serious discrepancies in reporting/prosecuting maternal substance abuse despite no apparent racial differences:
Studies show that a growing numbers of infants are entering the foster care system due to maternal alcohol and drug use. Moreover, conscious or unconscious stereotypes of African-Americans may lead many professionals to be more likely to report African-American women for substance abuse. For example, in one study of drug use during pregnancy, although white and black women were almost equally likely to test positive for drugs, physicians were ten times more likely to report African-American women to health authorities after delivery than other women.
The medical community may be more diversified than ever but that does not erase the centuries as a male dominated space. It is going to take more than legislation to put an end to compulsive birth or sterilization, women need to act as medical consumers calling out systemic racism, classism and sexism and support others who do so.
cross-posted @ Sassywho