John Neffiger has a fantastic post up on HuffPo about the so-called “partial birth” abortion ban, and abortion politics in general. And he does a pretty great job of boiling complex issues down to the basics:
The conflict over abortion has no bottom — no matter how deep you dig, there’s no place both sides can come together and recognize one another’s humanity. In part, that’s because of the biology: in an unwanted pregnancy, the woman’s interest is for the fetus to cease to exist entirely, while the fetus’ presumed interest is for the woman to endure weeks of sickness and unwelcome bodily transformation, followed by many hours of incredible pain… followed by years of hard work, emotional strain, expense, and responsibility. As long as you have people eager to speak on behalf of a fetus as if it was a whole person, those are some seriously irreconcilable differences.
You might think that both sides could at least agree on preventing unwanted pregnancies. But that’s where things get weird. It turns out the hard-core anti-choice folks don’t actually care so much about preventing fetal suffering: Despite all the studies proving that improving birth control access and teaching adolescents about sex reduces unwanted pregnancies, serious “Pro-lifers” oppose these ideas, and vigorously.
So what are they after? Apparently, the heart of the matter for hard-core anti-choice folks is that sex should only be for making babies. That means it’s only for married people, and kids have no business knowing about it. That part of their vision has some appeal in our dizzyingly hypersexualized culture, as unrealistic as it is. But the other corollary is that all pregnancies should be carried to term, either as a blessed gift to a happy family… or as divine punishment for a loose woman.
Exactly. Then he takes on parental consent laws — and beautifully:
From a broad public-policy view, parental choice laws make no particular sense. As a general rule, children should not be having children because they are not prepared to raise children. Do we really want laws that make it more difficult to keep children from having children? If abortion is allowed for anyone, doesn’t it make the most sense for unhappily pregnant teens? And since a teen generally does not need her parents’ consent to have a kid, why exactly should she need their consent not to?
But this debate does not happen in the realm of logic. Parental consent laws appeal to parents’ primal fear that their kids are having sex and getting in trouble and they’re the last to know. Debates on the issue typically invoke the image of a solid middle-class family with a rebellious teen girl who falls in with a bad crowd and needs to be set straight. And that’s about where the thinking stops.
Sometimes that’s the reality of teen pregnancy: a loving, understanding family, and a kid who either made some stupid decisions or had birth control fail them. And in some of those cases, a parental consent law might be just the thing to nudge the reluctant teen to have a much-needed heart-to-heart with her parents.
Of course most teens in that rosy scenario will turn to a trusted parent anyway. But what happens when the scenario is less rosy? Tolstoy said every happy family is the same but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way: that makes for a lot of heavy issues for this law to get mixed up in. What if the parents are abusive? What if they choose to punish their daughter for her misbehavior by withholding consent, and maybe throwing her out of the house? Or what if they just would have preferred not to know?
Then there’s the scenario nearest to the hearts of anti-choice advocates: what if the parents are anti-choice? Should they be able to force their daughter to give birth? Imagine the decision resting with a pregnant teen’s father. He has never voluntarily endured anything as painful as childbirth (unless he’s undergone elite military training to resist torture, or maybe starred in a Jackass movie). Should he have the right to force that on his daughter, when she wants to have an abortion and get on with her life?
“Pro-lifers” would say yes — her life, after all, isn’t of much concern. Neither is her baby’s — once it actually is a baby, anyway.
And then there’s his conclusion:
What we do know is this debate will be won or lost on whether people empathize with the developing fetus or the pregnant woman (or girl). And as long as it’s all about the fetus, as long as women’s stories are still not being heard, women (and the women and men who love them) lose.
And to top it all off, he even gives me a shout-out. Can’t beat that. Go read his whole piece.
Now, can Mr. Neffiger please replace William Saletan at Slate?