What, exactly, is it I’m finding so irritating about this article?
Is it the fact that it’s in the Style section rather than Arts or the Book Review? Because that’s where all the stories about feminism go.
Is it the whininess of the interview subject? Because, yeah.
Is it stuff like this?
The most incendiary notion in “Baby Love” may be that, for Ms. Walker, being a stepparent or adoptive parent involves a lesser kind of love than the love for a biological child.
In an interview, Ms. Walker boiled the difference down to knowing for certain that she would die for her biological child, but feeling “not sure I would do that for my nonbiological child.”
“I mean, it’s an awful thing to say,” said Ms. Walker, who in a previous relationship helped rear a female partner’s biological son, now 14. “The good thing is he has a biological mom who would die for him.”
Ah. maybe that’s it. Another example of Dawn Eden Syndrome: because I didn’t love my partner’s kid as much as I love my own, that means no adoptive or step parent will ever have the Twoo Wuv for their child that I do for mine.
Barf.
Well, as much as I hate these “Motherhood is the Answer to All Life’s Questions and You Just Can’t Really Know Love or Be an Adult Until You Have One!” kinds of books, at least she advises identifying early whether you want kids and planning accordingly. Which is a bit of a refreshing change from the usual Dawn Edenish refrain of the woman ambivalent about kids who then finds Twoo Wuv with her baby and writes a book about it: that because she’s changed her mind, your decision not to have kids is a result of false consciousness and you will also soon change your mind. She seems to have avoided that for now.