Jessica from sidewords has a question for the peanut gallery:
I need feminist gift ideas! I found a few links to socially-conscious gifts, but what about some ways to subtlely introduce feminism to the uninitiated?
I babysat for a girl once a week for about seven years, and have maintained a solid relationship with her since then. She’s sixteen now, and she has almost completed the patriarchal transformation from confident-independent-athletic-girl, to boy-crazy- appearance-obsessed-girl.
She used to love riding her bike. She was eager to take tennis lessons. She took archery lessons. Coaches told her she had serious talent for track. She took years of horseback riding lessons and planned to own her own ranch someday. She expressed a desire to be on the volleyball team. Now she says she wants to go to college somewhere near her boyfriend and that she can’t try out for any sports teams because she’s manager of his football and wrestling teams. Her Mom is a brilliant woman with a PhD in education and moderate political views, but her Dad’s a complete wingnut. She wears a purity ring and recently told me she believes abortion should only be allowed in cases of rape or incest.
I know some of this is a phase, but for now, what on earth do I get her for Christmas?
I’ve tried athletic-minded gifts, like a tennis racquet, lessons, rock-climbing gym gift cards, etc., but they haven’t caught on.
Maybe you or your readers have some ideas?
Thanks,
Jessica
So, I know a lot of you have said that you had your minds opened to feminism at about this age. What would you have given your sixteen-year-old self to get started on that path? Trojan horse kinds of gifts — you know, the kind of gift that seems fun! and girly! but actually gets a girl to think without bludgeoning her with message — particularly welcome.