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It would seem that we can add one more thing to the list of things for which the “obesity epidemic” can be blamed: anorexia.

Yep.

Well, more accurately, we can blame anti-obesity hysteria for an increase in the incidence of early-onset eating disorders.

HUNDREDS of children under the age of 13 in the UK are being diagnosed with eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia.

The first survey of pre-teen eating disorders has revealed that doctors reported 175 cases of children with the conditions during the course of just more than a year.

Nearly half of those children were admitted to hospital, with many having to be fed through a nasal tube or treated with drugs to aid their recovery. In one case, a child with an eating disorder died due to kidney failure.

While the average age of sufferers was around 11, the youngest case identified in the survey was a boy only five years old.

The number of people suffering from an eating disorder has increased dramatically over the past two decades, with an estimated 1.1 million people in the UK now suffering from conditions such as anorexia or bulimia. While the causes are complex, experts have raised fears that the pressure to be thin in today’s image-driven culture could be affecting even young children.

The research [from the British Paediatric Surveillance Unit (BPSU)] revealed the overall number of cases was “higher than expected”. Anorexia was the most commonly diagnosed condition, followed by bulimia, but three children were also found to have binge-eating disorders. Around 20% of the cases were in young boys, almost twice the rate found in older teenage males.

Nearly three-quarters of the children showed a fear of weight gain, while a similar number were preoccupied by their weight or shape. Nearly 40% excessively exercised as a means of controlling their size, while 16% self-induced vomiting.

Jesus, five years old. I suppose things really have changed since I was a fat kid. Yes, I was well aware I was fat (and few people let me forget it), but my TV options were limited (it was the pre-cable era, after all), and I didn’t see a PG movie until I was 9 (Star Wars, if you’re interested). I also didn’t know anyone who would have advocated starvation or bulimia as a way to lose weight — certainly not to a child. But I’m guessing kids now, who are bombarded with a lot more information from a lot more sources, absorb that kind of thing as background noise:

Andrew Hill, professor of medical psychology at Leeds University School of Medicine, who has a specialist interest in eating disorders, pointed out that conditions such as anorexia were still rare among young children. However, he warned that young children were becoming more aware of shape and weight issues due to the “image- dominated” nature of modern culture.

“You can’t turn a corner without seeing somebody’s image on a billboard. You walk into shops and you are surrounded by magazines and news papers which are all pictorially driven,” he said. “You don’t have to have the sophistication of language to understand the impact of pictures. That is why it affects kids so much.”

Hill also said extreme thinness was now “socially sanctioned” and constant anti-obesity messages were also confusing the issue for children. He argued that this was “undoubtedly” a factor in eating disorders among young people, although he said it was difficult to determine exactly how important it was.

“You see so many famous actresses and supermodels who at some point had an eating disorder – it’s if they can do it, then why not me?” he added.

“I think in a sense it is fairly disastrous that it has become socially acceptable.”

Are average-weight kids these days* obsessively monitored for signs of sliding into obesity or something? Because I just can’t think of a reason why kids that young would be so body-obsessed when they don’t stick out as fat (I sure as hell don’t remember the normal-weight kids getting the same messages I did to lose weight). Unless they’re responding to other stressors, or modeling their stress response on the people they eat with. If family members respond to stress by not eating, or by binging, purging or overexercising, the kids might tend to pick up that that’s the way to do it. A coworker of mine was telling me today about her cousin, who’s been hospitalized three times for eating disorders in the past 11 years; the first time, she was only 7. She spent a year and a half in the hospital. She was under stress due to her parents’ divorce. But even though that stressor ended, she had completely fucked-up eating habits and attitudes towards food and her body, and that’s only made it harder for her.

So how do you deal with this? How do you raise kids who don’t start developing body dysmorphia before they hit kindergarten? How do you counteract the cultural messages, both those that obsess about thinness and those that are hysterically monitoring kids for signs of later obesity? Any ideas?

* I used both “kids today” and “kids these days.” Dammit. And get offa my lawn.


42 thoughts on First, Global Warming. Now This.

  1. Are average-weight kids these days* obsessively monitored for signs of sliding into obesity or something?

    Yes, actually. I can’t find the exact article I want on this (I think it was a piece in the New York Times Sunday Magazine, maybe 3-4 months back?), but regular weigh-ins were mentioned as having been introduced in some public schools, the ones participating in some pilot program to get healthier items into the school cafeteria.

    Healthier choices than the sloppy joes and pizza I grew up eating: Very, very good. Public weigh-ins of elementary school children: Not good. But that’s just my fat opinion. It’s also my opinion that this search returns way too many results.

  2. Yeah, the kids next door to me were severely underweight with countable ribs and bones sticking out every which way, and they used to make fun of all the normal kids and their “baby fat.” It wouldn’t surprise me if their family was planting this stuff in their heads because they were ALL underweight and had weird eating attitudes toward the other kids, a friend of mine who’s anorexic also had an anorexic mom who used to make her spit out food as a young child.

    My sister has had food/body issues since she had a health scare at 13. It turned out to be a false alarm, but the specialist she was sent to, an older man, insisted she was overweight and nobody had never realized it (okay) and freaked her out with all this talk about her metabolism and how she’ll find it hard to lose weight after pregnancy and all that. She never thought anything about it before that because she was an athlete and just a healthy active normal kid, but ever since then she’s been convinced she’s overweight. Her self-esteem has never been high to begin with due to family issues, and that didn’t help.

    I’ve also seen a few pieces on TV lately about childhood obesity and school cafeterias that consult with parents and limit what the children can buy, and I’ve definitely noticed that many of the kids who are supposedly causing concern appear to be normal weight. It seems like it’s getting a bit out of control.

  3. Oh God that’s so sad. I started being body-conscious in the 4th grade. I’m now a college freshman and although it’s gotten a lot better I sort of doubt it will ever completely go away. In particular in times of stress (like adjusting to college. heh) it tends to crop up (though it’s never gotten as bad as the summer before fifth grade, when I didn’t starve myself, exactly, but I watched what I ate so carefully that I shot up 5 inches and gained all of 3 pounds; I entered the fifth grade at 5’2 and 90 pounds, convinced I was fat).

    Anyway. This is just too heartbreaking, but not at all surprising to me, to be honest.

  4. Healthier choices than the sloppy joes and pizza I grew up eating: Very, very good. Public weigh-ins of elementary school children: Not good. But that’s just my fat opinion. It’s also my opinion that this search returns way too many results.

    It’s my recovering opinion. Jesus. Kids are cruel enough on their own, you know?

  5. Public weigh-ins of schoolchildren? Ugh.

    My brother-in-law’s wife has serious body image issues. She was put on a diet by her mother when she was 8 or 9, I think; complete with diuretics and daily weigh-ins. I’m concerned that she’s getting ready to do the same thing with her daughter, who’s tall with normal weight for a 7-year-old. But they’re 2500 miles away…

  6. Speaking from experience, parents also need to watch out for outside influences that are a bit closer to home than TV or movies. I took dance for 8 years as a kid. I was always a little bit overweight, but certainly not obese. Anyway, the beginner’s class teachers, who were also students of the woman who ran the studio, never made a big deal about my weight and they thought I was a great dancer. It wasn’t until I moved up to the classes taught by the owner that I had to hear how fat I was and how terrible my dancing was as a result of being so fat. I was only 13 when I finally quit, and I was an older member of the class. Other girls–younger girls–got the same messages I did. A friend of mine who was more advanced (but same age) was told that if she wanted to take her first level teacher exam, she would have to drop to under 100 pounds before she would be allowed to do it. I think she quit shortly after.

    And we wonder why young girls get eating disorders. I don’t know for sure, but I would bet this happens in other sports.

    Never mind the torture kids go through at the hands of other kids. Or gym teachers. Or whomever. You don’t even have to be obese. Someone will be obsessing about your weight anyway and trying to get you to do it too.

  7. well geez, if they didnt make the healthy food so damn expensive this might be less of a problem. vegetables are cheap enough but i doubt many people really want to know how to cook a spaghetti squash. even yesterday i went with two giant bottles of soda because they were 50 cents each and i have no money. also what parent wants to spends an hour or so cooking dinner when they can just pop something in the microwave? sure some do, but it seems as if the majority is too busy or doesnt want to. i think all this is whats really contributing to obesity, and then i guess in turn contributing to more children being anorexic. they just dont know how to eat properly on a low budget (and turn to drastic ways of weight loss instead), or cant afford the good stuff.

    of course this is just my rant after visiting the supermarket. peoples general hatred for fat people and parental weight loss weirdness are just some of the things that would also play into peoples weight problems.

  8. I wonder how much of this has to do with the normalization of (what I think are) unhealthy weight standards? I mean, if the majority of people you see (in media, for example) are very close to or under a minimum weight standard then that becomes the new “normal”, which implicitly defines anyone thicker as abnormal, even if they are actually healthier overall.

    I think it’s been going on for a while. I remember having to take those caliper tests in high school gym class (where they pinch the fat on your upper arm and make you do some math to find your body fat percentage). It was more than half my life ago and I still remember the exact numbers. I scored 19%, which was considered “good”. “Ideal” was considered 15-17%– which is basically as low as a young woman’s body fat percentage can get and have her still menstruating. A number of girls who were visibly skinnier than I was scored reliably between 25% and 30%. Everyone was really surprised, because I was definitely considered the “fat kid” of the bunch, and had been for years.

  9. My points in the above being:

    1. How fucked up is it that “ideal” = “as little as possible without shutting down your hormones”?

    2. It never did sink in with a lot of these people that when it comes to health, what you see (thinness) does not necessarily correlate with physical fitness.

    3. I still remember this in gruesome detail, which means the impression it made on me was just ridiculous.

  10. Um. They did public weigh ins, body fat measurements, and fitness assessments when I was in elementary school back in the 80’s. I do believe it was part of Arnold’s Fitness SomethingorOther under Bush 1.0. On the other hand, back then “Childhood Obesity” was still called “Baby Fat.”

  11. Precisely that, nerdlet. And to ensure that if the fat doesn’t disappear, the humiliation remains.

    Can’t have people feeling OK about themselves. It’s damned near un-american.

    It’s not just girls, either–Watching my stepdad (vastly overweight) humiliate his son (8 yrs old and just a little rounded) over a slice of pizza was absolutely cringe-worthy.

  12. Given the general lack of dignity afforded students, public weigh-ins aren’t that big of a surprise. I imagine nobody’s thought about the humiliation aspect– it’s just easiest to line up all the kids and put ’em on a scale in the gym or the hallway. Don’t most people remember gym classes as an ongoing exercise in public humiliation? I’m not sure the weigh-ins are any more horrifying than the arm-pinching I described above, which was also totally public.

    Not to say they’re appropriate, just that it’s more of the same shit on a different day.

  13. My thirteen-year-old-daughter is within the healthy range for her height. Because she is not at the low end of the range, she perceives herself as fat and is very distressed.

  14. It certainly doesn’t help that yesterday, while at the mall, I noticed that GapKids sells “skinny” jeans.

    Yarg. They’re really shoving those things down everybody’s throats, aren’t tehy?

  15. It’s not public weigh-ins of children, but Arkansas requires that students’ BMIs (body mass indexes/indices) be recorded on report cards, along with an explanation of what BMI is and what it means.

    Parents can also feel extra bad about not being home with their kids: the USDA reports that kids in families with two working parents are more likely to be overweight.

    Incidentally, most clinicians don’t use the term “obese” to describe children. They really only use “overweight.” Or at least they used to.

  16. Well, here in SF there are billboard ads in English, Spanish and Chinese, featuring a stern-looking female doctor-figure admonishing us all that childhood obesity/obesidad/etc is very serious.

    And I’m not going to say it isn’t, but the scaremongering pisses me off.

  17. Well, here in SF there are billboard ads in English, Spanish and Chinese, featuring a stern-looking female doctor-figure admonishing us all that childhood obesity/obesidad/etc is very serious.

    And I’m not going to say it isn’t, but the scaremongering pisses me off.

    I was just gonna say.

  18. Oh lord, I remember the fitness section in my highschool gym class with particular bitterness. I gained a lot of weight after my brother died, largely due to extreme depression, and they would measure us with the fucking calipers, not to mention making us hold ourselves up on a pull-up bar for as long as we could in front of the entire class (I couldn’t even hold it for five seconds, to my lasting humiliation, and the amusement of my classmates). I’ve since gotten myself into extremely good shape, but I’m absolutely positive that it’s despite of the treatment I received in highschool, not because of it.

    The only reasons I’m healthy now are my own determination, my parents’ support, and the certainty that my brother would be proud of me. Those bloody gym classes are what very nearly caused me to slide down the opposite slope into bulemia.

  19. Um. They did public weigh ins, body fat measurements, and fitness assessments when I was in elementary school back in the 80’s. I do believe it was part of Arnold’s Fitness SomethingorOther under Bush 1.0. On the other hand, back then “Childhood Obesity” was still called “Baby Fat.”

    We did the same thing here from the 70’s to the mid 90’s. It was called the Canada Fitness Test. Students recieved patches depending on their performance (bronze, silver, gold, and the Award of Excellence). I always got gold (I sucked at the flexed-arm hang, and the mile run).

    There are rumors that our new government plans to re-instate it.

  20. They weighed us every year when I was in elementary school, too, and recorded it on little cards along with our height and a few other things. I remember dreading weigh-in day. And even average-sized kids are bombarded with anti-fat messages — I was never a fat kid, and was generally smaller than most of the other kids in my class, but when I go back and read my old diaries I see that I put myself on my first diet at 8 because I thought I was fat. I practiced restrictive eating habits from then on out, and I’d be lying if I said that I still didn’t have bouts of food restriction in response to stress. Once these habits are established, they’re damn hard to break.

    It also didn’t help that my best friend from second grade on was stick-skinny — to this day I don’t think she’s hit 100 pounds, despite being about 5’5″. Her mom was always on diets, and would make fun of “fat kids” at our school who, looking back, were perfectly normal. I have a distinct memory of my friend and her mom laughing at our third friend Judy for being a “tub” because she hit 80 pounds in the fifth grade.

    As to the “what to do” question, I’m not sure. I think sports helps a lot, especially for girls — when you constantly get the message that your body is there to be looked at, recreational activity serves as a counterpoint by proving that your body is also capable of competing and pushing itself and getting stronger.

    I also think that raising children to view eating as a pleasurable activity instead of a bare necessity or an emotional crutch or something to feel guilty about is ideal. Preparing healthy, tasty food obviously helps; having dinner as a family, and making that time pleasant instead of a time to moniter whether or not Jimmy is eating his spinach is also ideal. Obviously not every family has these opportunities, though.

    Another thing that parents can do is model healthy relationships with food in front of their kids. While parents are never responsible for eating disorders, many people I know (including myself) who have had difficult relationships with food had parents who exhibited similar issues. Don’t talk about your restrictive diet in front of your kids. Don’t seek out the box that says “FAT FREE” in giant letters. Don’t count calories or measure serving sizes. Don’t make comments about how many extra miles you have to do on the treadmill because of that piece of cake. Talk about food in terms of health and pleasure, and don’t equate health with weight. There’s nothing wrong with going on a healthy diet, but be careful about how you frame it in front of your children.

    And, not to go for the obvious, but for me feminism has helped quite a bit. It’s hard to justify unhealthy relationships with food, especially when it transitions into the physically harmful, when you have an arsenal of feminist thought under your belt. And at the very least, it makes you more self-aware about why you’re behaving the way you are, which is a good first step to getting better.

  21. So how do you deal with this? How do you raise kids who don’t start developing body dysmorphia before they hit kindergarten? How do you counteract the cultural messages, both those that obsess about thinness and those that are hysterically monitoring kids for signs of later obesity? Any ideas?

    Well, I can’t really address how society as a whole should deal with it, but I do know how I’ve dealt with the issue with my own daughter. Instead of stressing issues of weight with regard to her eating, I stress eating healthily. For example, instead or pressuring her to eat more or eat less, I talk to her about the need to make sure she eats enough vegetables and fruits, that she gets a good balance of meat and carbs, and that she eats sweets moderately.

    I also try to make sure that I tell her at least once a week how beautiful and intelligent and wonderful I think she is. And to tell her at least once a week about something I’m proud of her for.

    She also knows exactly what I think of most models and movie stars. On more than one occasion, she’s heard me tell someone on the TV to “eat something, darnit” and she’s heard me praise a few celebrities (Pink, for example) for glorying in being healthy, beautiful, curvy women.

    She’s still too young for me to know for sure if this has worked or if it’s going to continue to work, but she seems to be doing pretty well so far.

  22. Wow, how we’ve changed: When I was a child in the 70’s, I was downright scrawny. Adults were constantly giving me a hard time about being so skinny, trying to stuff me with more and more food. I did eat, really, it was just genetic (my mom was a terribly skinny child as well) and I plumped up to a normal weight after puberty. But I wonder if a child is ever considered “too skinny” now?

  23. Re ballet dancing (comment #7 – Ellie) my sister who is a violinist and went to Juilliard told me that a lot of the dancers were anorexic or bulemic and there is so much pressure on them to be very thin. Also a lot of them took cocaine, not sure if this was weight-related or pain-related or what. (She said the toe dancing can cause the feet to bleed and there is a lot of pain.) Made me so happy that I was so clumsy that I stopped taken ballet at about age 10. Not because I was too fat (though I was of average weight and thus fatter than most of the girls in the program) but just because I was such a horrible dancer.

    I don’t remember ever being weighed in front of other kids. That is a really stupid idea knowing that kids can be mean to each other without the school adding pressure on those who are overweight. Geez.

  24. A friend of mine was in ballet for a number of years as a kid/young woman. Apparently, her studio used to post *on the bulletin board* who needed to lose weight.

    ‘Cause yeah, that’s healthy. *sigh* She is a petite woman, but curvy and quite busty, and always was. SHE got to bind her breasts flat to perform. Even better, eh?

    And dancing en pointe is apparently anywhere from damned uncomfortable to quite painful. Blistered and bloody feet are not uncommon. The shoes may have steel shanks (at least some of them do), but you are still putting all of your body weight on the tips of your (first two) toes — not exactly something they were designed for. *shudder* At that, ballet dancers used to a be a lot more curvy than they are today. Blame George Ballanchine and his obsession with LINE. 😛 I suspect the coke useage mentioned above was to keep their minds off of the pain and the fact that they are not really allowed to eat. I believe cocaine helps suppress appetite? (Anyone who knows, please correct me if I’m wrong on that.) And it *is* a euphoric….

  25. Veronica, I think it varies from school to school. As far as I know, most schools give out Presidential Fitness Awards every year, but many don’t actually require you to do anything for them. I always get them just because I’m nice to the gym teachers and they like me. We used to get weighed and measured once a year in elementary school and every few years they’d make us do something like run a few yards and time us, but for the most part, nothing, and nothing after elementary school. And they never told us our weights or graded our performance or anything.

  26. “Are average-weight kids these days* obsessively monitored for signs of sliding into obesity or something?”

    Ohyes.
    Several days ago I read a post from a woman whose doctor advised her that her two week old infant was becoming “overweight”.

  27. I practiced restrictive eating habits from then on out, and I’d be lying if I said that I still didn’t have bouts of food restriction in response to stress. Once these habits are established, they’re damn hard to break.
    OH GOD WORD. Thank you for sharing that, now I feel less alone. Now that I’m in college and stressed from… adjusting to college, I keep sort of freaking out about the spectre of the freshman fifteen and all.

    We had Presidential Fitness things in my middle school. I hated them because I always came in last on the mile run and I couldn’t do pull-ups (though most people couldn’t). My eighth grade year I finally said “just put me down for zero, we both know I can’t do them” and they wouldn’t, it was so humiliating. All of it was so humiliating. God I hated gym class. Gym class isn’t going to do anything towards making kids healthier if no one ensures that gym teachers a) aren’t assholes and b) call kids out on being assholes, because I had daily gym in elementary/middle school and it just taught me to hate physical activity.

  28. Gym class isn’t going to do anything towards making kids healthier if no one ensures that gym teachers a) aren’t assholes and b) call kids out on being assholes, because I had daily gym in elementary/middle school and it just taught me to hate physical activity.

    Yes, that exactly. Particularly physical activity where other people might see it, which is how most of it works… But yeah, the forced humiliation was the worst part. I couldn’t run a mile, or even an eighth of a mile, and I still can’t (and it’s far from the top of my priority list). It was popularly assumed, by both kids and adults, that it was because I was fat. This was my general assumption too, even after I knew I had asthma, because it’s action-induced. So to my mind, that meant I had asthma because I was fat. I was a kid, I don’t know. But they still made me try to the point of almost passing out, regularly, and wow that is helpful let me tell you.

    At any rate, even now (I am 22) I forget to do anything about not being able to breathe, and attribute it to being fat. My parents helped matters not at all, with my dad both insisting I eat everything on my plate and telling me I eat too much (so I guess the solution is don’t put anything on my plate?) and my mom always telling me she didn’t want me to be like her, and be unpopular because I was fat. In effect, telling me “you are fat, and people won’t like you that way.”

    So both of those things are probably things to avoid doing to your kid. And, eating healthy is good as long as you don’t let it be “you need to eat healthy because you’re fat.” Or even, “because you might get fat.” That still makes a kid’s body xyr enemy, and it shouldn’t be. I’m still working on applying that concept to myself.

  29. All of it was so humiliating. God I hated gym class. Gym class isn’t going to do anything towards making kids healthier if no one ensures that gym teachers a) aren’t assholes and b) call kids out on being assholes, because I had daily gym in elementary/middle school and it just taught me to hate physical activity.

    God, that’s so sad. And it bums me out that it’s so common. Because humiliation and hating physical activity are the exact opposite of the feelings we want kids to be getting from gym class.

  30. It might help if they made gym class about having fun being physically active rather than about competing/winning games, especially once the truly athletic kids start getting *good*, and start getting really competative. (sp?) I have heard lip service about making gym class more about being physical for life, which is a good goal, but as I am not in school any more, and don’t have any kids myself, OR any young relatives who are not athletically inclined, I can’t say if any progress has been made.

    How about if they had two tiers of gym class — one for the kids on the organized school teams or the equivalent thereof, and one for the rest of us? Where they get to play for blood, and we get to play for fun? Having a “mixed” gym class was where I ran into my biggest problems — not that I couldn’t DO the crap they were making me do (although that was part of it), but that I had to take crap from the kids who WERE good in addition to not being any good (on top of all the crap I took all day anyway).

    To this day, I refuse to play any organized sport, even the ones that are organized around socializing and having fun. I will even drop out of playing a pick up game of volleyball when the gals who played in high school/college join in, because the entire game dynamic changes when they do. And I think that’s a pretty sad commentary on the school phys-ed experience.

  31. Unfortunately, none of this body-image stuff is new. I was always the “fat kid” (and I was chubby, and my “skinny” friends were normal weight.) But damned if I didn’t win the sit-up and pull-up challenges in the “Presidential Fitness Challenge” every year.

    I remember when my husband and I started dating, I had decided I didn’t want to meet his family until I was at my ideal weight (Ideal weight? I’d set it at an unrealistic 110 at that time…I’m glad I didn’t hold to that, or 15 years later, 9 of wedded bliss, I still would never have met them.)

    I remember being in the backseat of the car with my husband’s then-4-year-old sister. She was (and is) tiny, and was asking me if she was fat! 4-years-old! This was 1991! She’s still small (5’7″ and 115…with, thank god, no eating disorders–she lives with us while in college, I’d know.) but what kind of world???? And her mom was never overweight, never obsessed about weight. Where’d a 4-year-old get that from?

    I watched part of a documentary last night on anorexia. I’ll never get past this one girl: all of 100 pounds (maybe) saying that she still wanted to lose 40 to get to her ideal. Hell, I’m over 1-1/2 of her and I’m only shooting for 35! But I understand it. I got to 135 and a size 8, and I looked good. Everyone told me, and I knew it, but I still wanted to lose another 20. I looked in the mirror and saw a fat person. I gained a bit after that, and that’s when I realized how thin I was before. I know now that I’ll never see that body I want in the mirror…even if I posses it. My perspective has been warped. I don’t think it will ever change. But I know what I know from my past experience. I *can* be happy with my body (I hope)…but I’ll never put on a bikini.

  32. I had daily gym in elementary/middle school and it just taught me to hate physical activity.

    Oh yeah. I don’t want to admit how many years it took me to get past the lingering hatred, either. And what sucks is, I didn’t start out hating physical activity. I rode a bicycle regularly, I liked skating, loved short sprints, enjoyed softball–but gym class, man. That’ll teach hatred of exercise to you. I went gradually from being a naturally active kid to “Screw this, man, all PE coaches are fiends and totally dumb. Physical education is for people who can’t hack actual education.” To try to turn that attitude around on my own as an adult has not been easy.

    What’s depressing is that from reading the comments here by people younger than I am, it doesn’t sound as if it’s gotten a whole lot better.

  33. Yup. I had this schizoid relationship with physical activity: all-day bike rides with my dad were wonderful; gym class was evil. I hated PE in particular because it wasn’t suited to my style of exercise–I like to be alone, for one thing. Weightlifting, bike riding, long hikes are all fine, but team anything is horrible.

  34. It hasn’t, Ilyka. I’m a wee babe in the woods, my ownself, and gym class was Lord of the fucking Flies. I will never forget the time, during gym hockey, I was thrown to the ground and beaten with the other kids’ hockey sticks while the gym teacher watched. When I asked him what he planned to do about it, he smirked and said he hadn’t seen anything.
    I think they thought it would make us tough, or something. I don’t know. All I know is that I thought I hated physical activity and sports until I discovered hiking, long-distance running, and weight lifting. Alone. And then, all of a sudden, I got tough another way, and I didn’t get beat up any more.

    I remember the weight exams and the humiliating pullup-bar thing and the everything else, of course. Kids shouldn’t have to go through more of that, any more than they should go through the coach looking the other way while their locker is unlocked with the code filed in the office and its contents tossed in the toilet. We can do better by them, and making them feel disgusting or weak isn’t going to make them like getting fit.

  35. Re: all the ballet comments.

    A jazz teacher I had in elementary and middle school was both overweight and a recovering bulimic. Her hair was falling out from it, but when one of the older girls lost a bunch of weight, the teacher told her she “looked great even though she looked good before as well.” The weight obsession is just so ingrained into dance culture; I don’t know dancers who don’t have EDs unless they’ve always been a size 00 and just never had to think about it.

    One of my ballet teachers said, “At least I don’t weigh you all like my mom (who owned the studio before) did to us.” She would never tell anyone to lose weight individually, but she would tell the whole class that we’d better shape up for the costumes this year.

    And if you ever lost weight, she would notice it immediately and compliment you, so it was more *positive* than negative reinforcement.

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