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Patriarchy 4 Life (and in death)

I’m not even sure what to make of this article, which is about Chinese families buying female corpses to bury alongside their dead sons, in order to give him a wife in the afterlife. Brides are already essentially bought and sold in some rural areas, where there are thriving networks of “bride sellers” who trick or kidnap women and then sell them into marriage.

But if you ever needed an example of women’s humanity not mattering, this is it:

“For girls, it doesn’t matter about their minds, whether they are an idiot or not,” he said. “They are still wanted as brides.” Dead or alive, he added, as he peered at the river.

“There are girls who have drowned in the river down there,” he said. “When their bodies have washed up, their families could get a couple of thousand yuan for them.”

It’s apparently customary for families to burn fake money in honor of deceased relatives, with the hope that the dead will be able to use that money in the afterlife. These families also need a woman for their deceased son to use in the afterlife.

Guo Yuhua, a sociology professor at Qinghua University in Beijing, an expert on folk traditions and burial customs in the Loess Plateau, said the minghun custom stemmed from both dread and sympathy for the dead. She said parents with dead daughters, like those with dead sons, were also carrying out an obligation to their child. They will sell their bodies as a way of finding them a place in a Chinese society where tradition dictates that a daughter has no place on her father’s family tree.

“China is a paternal clan culture,” said Professor Guo, who did postdoctoral work in anthropology at Harvard. “A woman does not belong to her parents. She must marry and have children of her own before she has a place among her husband’s lineage. A woman who dies unmarried has no place in this world.”

Lovely.


12 thoughts on Patriarchy 4 Life (and in death)

  1. It’s apparently customary for families to burn fake money in honor of deceased relatives, with the hope that the dead will be able to use that money in the afterlife. These families also need a woman for their deceased son to use in the afterlife.

    Jesus. That sounds like what happened to Dora Mae on Carnivale.

  2. I honestly have no idea how to respond to this. As a Ukrainian woman, I can rant about all sorts of crazy shit that goes on back home, because I at least have some “authority” on the subject. But even my fellow Ukrainians will say things to me that boil down to stuff like, “it’s our culture, leave it alone. Fuck off, you imperialistic traitor.” And even more hurtful are the people who make assumptions about the way Ukrainian society operates, and proceed to then Other-ize me as the result.

    It’s always very hard to talk when the word “culture” gets thrown into play. Once upon a time, a girl in one of my classes wrote about how her parents didn’t love her enough, until she had an illness-related scare that threw things into perspective for them. She was Chinese, and it was obvious from her writings that her parents were disappointed that their only child was female, even though they were highly educated and successful. The entire class was very uncomfortable, because it was obvious to everyone why the conflict with her parents had taken place, but no one could come out and say it. It was that “cultural” barrier thing working its magic. We didn’t want to open our mouths and come off as intolerant bigots who made a bunch of assumptions about her family and their country.

    It’s very hard to respond to someone’s culture and be constructive, especially when one considers the fact that culture means different things to different people. And I’m not sure what to do or say, or how to even formulate a proper dialogue.

  3. Quote-a-Matic:
    “If it happens to men, it’s ‘politcs’. If it happens to women, it’s ‘culture’.”

    Quota-a-Matic Lite:
    “I want your bahhhhhdy
    “You can have it when I’m finished with it.”

  4. It’s apparently customary for families to burn fake money in honor of deceased relatives, with the hope that the dead will be able to use that money in the afterlife. These families also need a woman for their deceased son to use in the afterlife.

    A new market for the RealDoll, perhaps?

  5. I wonder if this has anything to do with, IIRC, an imbalance of men vs. women in China, brought about by infanticide against baby girls?

  6. …infanticide against baby girls?

    AFAIK it’s a result of sex-selective abortion, and why parents are aborting female feti is that men are valued more, and because people aren’t allowed to have as many children as they would like, it is logical to put your bets on the more valued sex.

    Probably there are cases of infanticide, but they are very unlikely to have statistical significance on a country of, what, 1.4 billion people or so.

  7. Quote-a-Matic:
    “If it happens to men, it’s ‘politcs’. If it happens to women, it’s ‘culture’.”

    The article upsets me as a Chinese American woman for political not cultural imperialism reasons.

    I wonder if this has anything to do with, IIRC, an imbalance of men vs. women in China, brought about by infanticide against baby girls?

    That’s sexism too.

  8. The sex ratio imbalance is mostly due to sex-selective abortion due to the one-child rule and girl infanticide mostly happens in rural areas. The article also concerns rural areas where many of the women leave for bigger cities.

  9. Probably there are cases of infanticide, but they are very unlikely to have statistical significance on a country of, what, 1.4 billion people or so.

    Maybe not statistical significance, but absolute significance? Even if 0.01% of female babies are killed after they’re born, that’s a staggering amount of dead baby girls.

  10. Maybe not statistical significance, but absolute significance? Even if 0.01% of female babies are killed after they’re born, that’s a staggering amount of dead baby girls.

    That goes without saying, obviously. It just doesn’t explain the imbalance of men vs. women in numbers.

  11. It is a pretty big imbalance, though. I think I read recently it’s something like 120 men for every 100 women in China. Something’s going on there; that’s not a normal sex ratio for people at all.

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