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Do You Meet the Criteria?

More evidence that the “pro-life” crew would rather see more women have abortions than prevent pregnancy in the first place.

The story is this: Biting Beaver had various problems with hormonal birth control, and switched to using condoms with her partner in order to prevent pregnancy. While they were having sex, the condom broke. She attempted to get EC in rural Ohio, where it is not yet available without a prescription (it will be available over-the-counter nation-wide as of January 1st). Her doctor sent her to the emergency room, where BB had to make a $100 co-pay. Even there, though, she couldn’t get what she needed:

“Well see,” he begins, his voice dropping a little, “the problem is that you have to meet the doctor’s criteria before he’ll dispense it to you.”

“Criteria?” I question.

“Well,” the nurse sounds decidedly nervous as though what he really wanted to do was hang up the phone completely, “Yes, his criteria. I mean…ummm…well, are you ok? Is there any, ummm….trauma?” he asks me.

My face changes expression and I hurry to explain, “No, no” I said, “No. I haven’t been raped. This was consensual sex.”

“Oh…” he trails off.

I wait expectantly.

“Well, ummm….*clears throat*…So you haven’t been raped?” he asks again.

“No. I have not been raped. The condom broke”. I state, becoming very frustrated at this point and wondering what the hell is going on.

“Ok, well ummm….Are you married?” he mumbles the words so low I can barely hear them.

Suddenly I get this image of the poor nurse standing at the hospital reading from a cue card that was given to him by a doctor.

“No.” I state plainly. “I am not married. I’ve been in a relationship for several years and I have three children, I don’t want a fourth.” I respond tersely.

“Oh, I see.” He says and then he hurries on, “Well, see. *I* understand. I want you to know that I understand what you’re saying. But see, the problem is that we have 4 doctors here right now but only one of them ever writes EC prescriptions. But see, the thing is that he’ll interview you and see if you meet his criteria. Now, I called the pharmacy but I also talked to him and well….*clears throat*….you can come down and try to get it. You know, if you meet his criteria he’ll give you a prescription, I mean, there’s really no harm in trying.” the nurse trails off, his voice falters as I realize what I’m being told.

He continues, almost over eager at this point to distance himself from the hospital, “See, I understand what you’re saying and all. I think it’s a good thing that it’s going over the counter. I just thought I should tell you what he told me. You know, you’ll just have to have an interview with him and he’ll see if you meet his criteria. He’ll only be on duty until 2pm today though and you should ask for him if you decide to come down because he’s really your only chance.”

I sigh and thank him before hanging up. I know exactly what he was telling me. If I wasn’t raped and wasn’t married then too damn bad for me.

I opened the phone book again and called the Urgent Care in my county. Who knows, maybe they’ll do it for me. “No,” the nurse said, “We don’t prescribe the abortion pill here”.

“No, wait I’m not asking for the abortion pill. I’m asking for EC!” I say, “It’s not the same thing.”

“Well, we use the words interchangeably here. Sorry, we don’t prescribe it”. She all but races to get off the phone with me.

I start looking through the telephone book, dialing hospitals from counties all around me. It seems that nobody will prescribe it to me. None of the hospitals are willing to touch me, of the ones that will prescribe it I am asked a series of questions to ‘screen’ me before I come to the hospital. The results aren’t good. I’m not married and wasn’t raped, so there’s very little they can do for me. But I can try the nurses tell me uncomfortably.

“But if I go through all this and I can’t get it will I still be charged the co-pay?”

“Well….ummmm…yeah. I’m afraid so Ma’am.” comes the reply.

I called every hospital in every surrounding county and none of them would prescribe me EC. Not even ONE. Of the 2 that said that they sometimes will their ‘criteria’ was clearly not my situation.

Next I tried Planned Parenthood. None of them were open. Not one. Every Planned Parenthood in Ohio was either closed on Saturday or would be closed before I could drive the 100 miles to them.

I was told by every urgent care I called and every emergency room that I was shit out of luck. I was asked my age. My marital status. How many children I had. If I had been raped and when I became uncomfortable with the questions I was told, “Well Ma’am, try to understand that you will be interviewed and the doctor has ‘criteria’ that you need to meet before he will prescribe it for you.”

When I asked about what ‘criteria’ there was that I had to meet, the reply was, “Well, he’s kind of old fashioned”. I was told that I might be able to ‘talk him into it’ anyway and that it can’t hurt to try (except for the fact that each and every time I try it I’ll have to pay $100 co-pay).

I found that the more hospitals and clinics and doctors I called the more ashamed I became. Yep, you heard right. I was feeling ashamed at being such an unworthy dirty whore. Well, at least in the eyes of all these hospitals and doctors and clinics. I cried, then I sweated, then I cried some more, then I called some more.

The “criteria” for accessing medical care has absolutely nothing to do with her medical history. It has to do with whether or not the gatekeepers to that care consider her worthy enough of it. And her worth is determined by the contexts in which she had a penis inside of her vagina.

It’s a disturbing story, and my heart goes out to her. On the bright side, EC will soon be available over the counter, and hopefully fewer women will have experiences like BB’s. On the not-so-bright side, pharmacists are appointing themselves as the rulers of women’s uteruses, and often refusing to fill EC prescriptions — you can imagine that those same pharmacists will further refuse to offer EC over-the-counter. So while OTC status is a step in the right direction, it doesn’t do much good if pharmacists refuse to do their jobs.

Thanks to BB for sharing her story.

via Amanda.


36 thoughts on Do You Meet the Criteria?

  1. Jesus H. Christ. The more I hear about selective prescription on so-called “moral” grounds, the angrier I get and the luckier I feel to not have been beset by bullshit like this.

    And it really is just luck. Luck that I have an OB who thought that my (unmarried, sporadically sexually involved) request for a prohylactic Plan B prescription that I could just carry around in my overnight bag and use if the need ever arose thought it was “a great idea, a really good idea!”. And luck that student health where I go to school actually physically stocks Plan B, so getting a prescription literally meant she wrote it into my chart and I plunked down $10 and was handed the little folder of pills on my way out of the office. And lucky that my copay was $10.

    I’m so glad this is becoming OTC, the horseradish surrounding being able to get emergency contraception on demand is just awful.

  2. This story is so horrendous. I feel lucky that I’m a man and I live in NYC where I can only assume access to EC is much easier. But more importantly I’m disgusted that this happens in America. That in this land of supposed equal protection under the law, a woman’s reproductive decisions could be subjected to the arbitrary criteria of where she lives and how “old fashioned” her doctor is.

  3. I read this post yesterday. I decided to call all the local hospitals and ask them about *their* procedures for obtaining EC so that I know now which hospitals I’d have the best luck at instead of trying to figure it out when it was actually critical. I didn’t find out the ER pricing just because I’m lucky enough to still be on my parents’ insurance which has $0 ER co-pay. But I think it would be a good idea for woman to call up the various hospitals and find out these things beforehand. Or stock up on EC for the future. Or vitamin C.

    *already functioning as if abortion and EC were illegalized*

  4. In (slight) defense of pro-lifers, I doubt that, at least officially, they endorse the idea of a doctor deciding who is “worthy” enough to get Plan B. They have their (stupid) positions that personhood begins at conception and that Plan B can interfere with implantation, and therefore they oppose it as an abortafacient. (Although those pro-lifers who endorse rape and incest exceptions may have something like this in mind.)

    I think Amanda Marcotte got closer to the essence of this story– this is a classic assertion of pre-sexual revolution male privilege, the idea that men have the right to sit in judgment of the ways that women conduct their sex lives and to decide what women have a “good enough reason” to obtain reproductive health assistance.

    Nonetheless, it is a nice reminder of how close we really are to the pre-Roe, pre-Griswold society where whether a woman would be forced to take the risk of unplanned pregnancies and bearing unwanted children depended on her social circumstances, her wealth, and her ability to convince men that she was “worthy” of their help and not a “slut” who needed to be taught a lesson.

  5. With EC available OTC, it gives pharmacists even more freedom to control women. They can simply not stock it. If you live in rural areas, like BB does, you’re stuck. Not everyone can afford to hop in the car and drive however far to get EC. Not everyone has a car.

    For an example of self-righteous control-freak pharmacists, see here.

  6. spotted elephant, I don’t see it. Though that may be a failure of imagination on my part.

    Most places will stock it, right next to the condoms, because they’ll be able to make a profit on it. And the world is getting smaller, Wal-Mart is not people’s only option in emergency situations. Heck, maybe drugstore dot com will stock it and the postman will bring it to folks in a plain brown wrapper.

    And what I love best about EC is that nobody has to wait until they are in an emergency situation to carry it.

  7. Lorelei:

    True enough. And I can see some pro-life sorts supporting this sort of crap on an “anything to reduce the use of baby-killing Plan B” sort of level. (The fact that what will invariably happen is that the woman will then seek a surgical abortion seems not to occur to them, of course.)

    But even the “conscience clause”, as I understood it, was not a defense of the right of pharmacists to take a woman’s sexual history and then decide if she was “worthy” of contraception. It was simply a total opt-out. I realize we are comparing bat dung and whale dung here, and they both stink, but those are different positions. Don’t forget, this business about men deciding whether women were “worthy” of reproductive health services was not limited to pro-lifers– it was the position taken by Justice Blackmun in Roe and Doe, which emphasized the rights of doctors to determine that abortions were “medically necessary”, not the rights of women. And many “liberalized” abortion laws pre-Roe involved embarrassing appearances before tribunals of doctors who would decide if the woman would get an abortion or not.

    This story strikes me as an attempt to recapture some of that male control over women’s reproduction, rather than flat out opposition to abortion.

  8. Sounds like a lovely Equal Protection suit if any of these facilities received any federal funding. Bwahahahahahaha!!!

    Get ’em, BB!!

  9. This is all just so ridiculous. It’s because of things like this that I’m thinking seriously about getting my tubes tied. I am approaching 30; I don’t want children now, and I don’t forsee wanting them in the future. But I recognize there is a (slim) possibility I might change my mind, so I hesitate. I really would like to know for absolute sure that I can make whatever decisions about sex I want to make, without worrying about all this shit. To do this would be to take my uterus out of their grubby little man-hands forever. I’d like that. I’m just a teensy bit worried that I MIGHT want to use it later myself. It sucks that this is the choice I have to make.

  10. Matt – sadly, NYC is not without its nutjobs. A friend of mine recently had trouble obtaining EC from a respected OB/GYN in town who serves many in the arts community. In his defense, apparently one of his nurses made representations about him that were slightly inaccurate over the phone to my friend (it was the nurse who had the extreme issue with EC, not the doctor – yet the doctor was loathe to fire the nurse, probably for fear of a religious discrimination lawsuit or something like that). At any rate, the nurse stalled my friend by refusing to give her messages to the doctor, then saying she had to come in and have a pregnancy test first (WTF for?), and finally coming clean and saying she ‘didn’t believe in it’ and wasn’t going to help anyone procure the ‘abortion pill’ because they were ‘irresponsible.’ My friend was unable to get into PP in time and ended up passing the 72 hour period. Luckily, she is not pregnant, but it could easily have gone the other way.

    One of the comment posts on the related thread at Pandagon summed it up brilliantly. In their view:

    1. Sexual activity by women that involves agency on their part (i.e., not rape) and is not directly approved by the patriarchy (i.e., there is no husband who owns the womb/woman) deserves to be punished.

    2. The appropriate punishment in this situation is a child. (But wait – aren’t they the ones that argue that all children are Blessings, not Burdens?)

  11. Regina-Sure most places will stock it. But for women living where the only pharmacist won’t stock it-well, they’re likely living in an area where they can’t get an abortion either.

    Read the link in my last comment to see an example of a pharmacist who brags about not stocking it.

  12. Wishy Washy – Sigh, another horror story. The benefit of being in NYC, I would think, is that there are far more alternatives, more place to be open at the right time, more hospitals with doctors who actually are concerned with providing medical care than in other parts of America.

  13. spotted owl– Yes, I looked at the link, I’m familiar with this. Currently some pharmacists refuse to dispense, and it’s possible that if EC is available OTC, some places won’t stock it.

    Provided that it remains legal, I stand by my initial guess at what will happen– some places will stock it, others won’t, and it’ll probably be available for purchase online at places like drugstore dot com and amazon dot com.

    And I’ll reiterate that there is absolutely no reason to wait until the condom has already broken (or heaven forbid, someone has been assaulted) to get a dose of EC to have on hand. The pills have a shelf life of ~3 years, I think, and women could make it part of their medicine cabinet supplies just like aspirin.

  14. I think the nice thing about taking it off a prescription list is that it takes EC decisions entirely out of the hands of pharmacists. I mean, think about all the places you can get OTC medications. Plan B could legally be sold at the 7-11 and at any grocery store. All of these entities are not going to refuse to stock it.

  15. No, Plan B cannot be sold legally at 7-11.

    It has the ridiculous prohibition against anyone under 18 buying it, so Barr, the manufacturer, had to promise the FDA that they would only sell it to pharmacies, and that they would run “spy programs” twice a year to see if under-18 y/os could purchase it.

    There is NO MEDICAL REASON for the prohibition, but Gilead approaches…

    Barr plans more studies to prove the safety of the drug to under-18s, but that’s years away.

  16. I didn’t know that. Thanks for filling the hole in my information. Obviously that changes everything and I’ll hush up now. Sigh.

  17. In the comments at Pandagon on Amanda’s post about this, commenters provided two good links.

    http://www.getthepill.com/ — online EC prescriptions
    http://ec.princeton.edu/get-ec-now.html — You can enter your zip code to find EC providers near you. That page also provides a link to a Planned Parenthood web page that provides EC prescriptions online to people in NC, SC, and WV. (I’m in WV, so that link came up when I entered my zip code.)

    I think everyone should spread the word as widely as possible about the option to get EC online. I wasn’t aware of it until I saw the links in the comments at Pandagon. Of course, time would be an issue if ordering this after an emergency (can’t ship on the weekends), but this would be an easy way to order EC in advance to have on hand in case of a future emergency.

  18. Like I said on Bitch PhD, I had the same exact thing happen to me. Needed EC. Was off campus at the time, where EC is provided.

    This was in Charlotte, North Carolina.

    At one hospital, the receptionist treated me lika giant slut. At another hospital, I was told to lie and say that I was raped.

    I gave up and went home. I didn’t get pregnant, thank God, but it was a close call.

  19. Okay, looks like I posted a bit too fast. I was assuming they sent the EC directly to the patient. The first site, http://www.getthepill.com, calls in the Rx to a local pharmacy of your choice.

    The Planned Parenthood site says “If you would like for your prescription to be sent to you by overnight mail, there is a $20.00 fee for shipping and handling. This option is not available on Saturdays or Sundays. This service is provided in the states of NC, SC, and WV.” Then further down the page it says “Please contact the pharmacy you are planning to choose to make sure they carry Plan B.” So, I’m confused. Are they saying they will ship directly to the patient in NC, SC, and WV, but people in other states have to go to a pharmacy?

    I realize this will be moot once EC is actually available everywhere without an Rx. However, the availability of online Rx’s makes me a bit less worried about individual pharmacists deciding not to stock EC once it’s available OTC, because perhaps it will be even easier to get online.

  20. I think this is the point at which I would have started calling hospital administrators, having them paged at home and started making noises about lawsuits.

    I hate the way people file suit over every last little thing in our society but this is ridiculous. If there’s no medical criteria for refiusing to prescribe EC then there shouldn’t be any “criteria.” It’s not some doctor’s place to judge on any other basis.

    *sigh* Of course that’s easy to say now, from the comfort of my own home, not in desperate need of EC. In reality I probably would have clued in on the nurse’s coded language and lied – said I’d been date raped or something. But we shouldn’t have to!

  21. Emergency contraception is effective for up to 120 hours after unprotected sex.

    It’s still better to have the medication at hand before an accident/an assault, as it’s the most effective within 24 hours, but you’ve got a bit more leeway than you think.

  22. My retort to the “Conscience Clause” morons is that I’m gonna stop processing mail that I find morally offensive. Just toss it aside and let someone else deal with it. Maybe I will find anything with the word “statement” on it morally offensive. Or maybe everything except junk mail is morally offensive to me.

    Hoo boy, people get downright irate when they think about somebody not delivering their mail. You’d think they were being deprived. (They think they’re not getting value on their tax dollars, to which I say a big FUCK YOU, since taxes don’t pay for the USPS).

    Anyway, they get upset about that, even though most mail isn’t life or death, unlike what a pharmacist deals with. Go figure.

  23. I opened the phone book again and called the Urgent Care in my county. Who knows, maybe they’ll do it for me. “No,” the nurse said, “We don’t prescribe the abortion pill here”.

    “No, wait I’m not asking for the abortion pill. I’m asking for EC!” I say, “It’s not the same thing.”

    “Well, we use the words interchangeably here. Sorry, we don’t prescribe it”. She all but races to get off the phone with me.

    Does anyone else find it terrifying that she is speaking to a nurse here?

  24. Do ya think it would sink in if feminist pharmacists and doctors started interviewing men about why they needed medication to treat STDS and, if they did not meet their “criteria” refused to give it to them because they don’t condone the activity that led to the need for the drug? That is the test case that we need to put an end to this garbage once and for all. Can you imagine some man stumbling through, are you married, do you have more than one partner, were you using protection, have you ever had an STD before, do you parents know you are sexually active, do you ever visit prostitutes.

  25. and that they would run “spy programs” twice a year to see if under-18 y/os could purchase it.

    Hehe… of course they can… just get big sis/bro/legal-aged friend to buy it for you… like ciggarettes and beer. Duh.

    Hey, if my sister needed it, that’s what would happen. I would buy it for her. Actually I’m thinking of stocking up on it for *just in case*, as suggested in this thread, like I do with condoms (even though I haven’t had sex for years) cause, you never know.

  26. are you married, do you have more than one partner, were you using protection, have you ever had an STD before, do you parents know you are sexually active, do you ever visit prostitutes.

    Hell, I get asked all those questions just before a physical or papsmear… well, except for the last 2.

  27. Yeah, but what if you were a guy and the punch line was, well, I really don’t believe in proscribing supressive therapy for your herpes because if you weren’t such a man-whore, you wouldn’t have the disease in the first place, or I don’t think you deserve the anti-biotics you need. My mom almost bled out and died with me. Some women have no money for pre-natal care, or money to buy food if they lose their jobs during a pregnancy (which also happened to my mom – fired on the spot when she told her boss she was pregnant). Her need for this drug would be just as urgent as the man in my hypothetical, but somehow I think there would be outrage over giving him some kind of morality lecture on treating his condition as necessary.

  28. I like the idea of refusing STD treatments to men who don’t meet the “criteria” of the feminist doctor. However, in order to truly bring the analogy full circle, the world needs to *know* that the man is a horrible slut once he leaves the doctor’s office, the same way the world will know that the woman is a horrible slut a few months after she’s been denied reproductive services. How about not only denying treatment, but also branding the word UNCLEAN into the man’s forehead? After all, pregnancy is painful, and can leave permanent scars on a woman’s body…

  29. Mighty Ponygirl, there is a super coherent argument that men with STDS should indeed be branded since their condition is a danger to the health of the baby producers out there. Even getting herpes from your partner will likely mean you have to have a c-section, and of course other STDS can leave women infertile. A brand would enable any female partner to check on the man’s sexual health, and I’m guessing that wherever the brand was, it would become sexy to have clothing that clearly showed one was NOT branded. Perhaps not as good as the intact hymen, but getting there. However, of course I would NEVER really deny healthcare to any man, even James Dobson. My point is that just like if men could have babies, if you tried to do to them what doctors and politicians are allowing to happen to women, you’d get run out of town on a rail.

  30. I am a college student. My campus clinic stocks Plan B. This would seem like a no-brainer (state school and all) to people who don’t live in the (rapidly expanding) bible belt, but the clinic has stopped offering STD screenings and pap smears at various times in the past, so Plan B might be on the chopping block any day now. Because they still offered Plan B, I did not get an abortion or become a single mother last year. After that, I went to our “near” Planned Parenthood – a three hour drive away – and the clinician gave me two packs of EC. I keep them in my first aid kit. I haven’t had to use them, because I’ve been celibate since that last scare, but being from the Bible Belt I know that abstinence pledges and condoms both break. Ask all the girls from my high school who dropped out to raise little Baptists.

    Emergency contraception has hellish side effects (at least for me) and I hope I never have to take it again. I certainly don’t plan to. I hope those packs hit their expiration date and have to be thrown away. But – speaking for my own personal beliefs – I would go through worse to avoid an abortion. Those two packs of Plan B are my personal pro-life stance.

    Everyone should have access to what they need to make the choice they want to make. By God.

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