So my post about nubian’s post occasioned a lot of comments to the effect of, “But she was taking responsibility for her ignorance! She was asking nubian for help!”
Otto Kerner in that thread:
“There is a point at which each person must take responsibility for their ignorance.” And one should, of course, do this by not asking questions.
Good call.
And from a response post at Too Much Information:
Piny says that “there is a point at which each person must take responsibility for their ignorance.” Sure, yeah. It would seem to be the case, however, that that was precisely what WC was trying to do. But daring to ask an “other” person a question about her experience apparently makes you seem ridiculous–you’re making an ass out of yourself by trying to take responsibility for your ignorance, in this way, according to Piny. Apparently if we’re curious about the experiences of an “other” we should do anything but ask questions of them. Wikipedia and Google were suggested as solutions to this conundrum. OK, but:
If someone says, “You there! Black person! Tell me about black people!” they are not taking responsibility for their ignorance, any more than they would be taking responsibility for their education were they to go up to their dissertation advisor and say, “So, what is the symbolic function of landscape in dense Victorian novels such as Shirley and Middlemarch?” If you are curious, start doing your own homework. See what you can learn by yourself. Come to these discussions, if and when you come to them, with some demonstration of good faith and due diligence on your part.
TMI continues:
Piny goes on to say that “while education may well be the problem of the non-privileged group, it is not their responsibility.” Yes, it is in fact the responsibility, at least partially, of the non-privileged group to clear up any misconceptions others have about them–they’re the only ones who know what the misconceptions are! Ideally people should be accepted regardless of their differences, but this is not an ideal world. It’s also the case that the path to acceptance includes precisely the kind of enlightenment Piny would have minorities shirk. Michelle makes this point beautifully in our discussion of the relevance of busting myths about fat and health to the SA movement. So i wonder, if it’s not the responsibility of the “other” to educate the ignorant about their experiences, who is it exactly that’s supposed to be writing the Wikipedia articles?
Well, black people. See, this is the thing. It’s not so much, “Why should we tell you anything?” Rather, it’s, “We’ve been telling you and telling you and telling you and you know what? You haven’t been listening. Why should we keep talking? You obviously want to remain ignorant, or you would have learned something by now.”
It’s a little like those people who email me with questions like:
What’s a transgender?
Do you have a penis?
If so, how?
You wanna know what testosterone does to your junk? Here’s a list of the effects. Wanna know what surgical options are available? Here’s a description of one procedure. Here’s a list with more resources. You wanna know what transmen do in bed? Raven Kaldera wrote a primer! You wanna know what a transgender is? Find your own link.
A few nights ago, I went to see Fresh Meat, a trans and queer performance…thing. Kate Bornstein (squee!) spoke at the end. Her piece, which was succinct and beautiful, was called, “XX: Reflections on my Twentieth Birthday.” In other words, she just celebrated the twentieth anniversary of her surgical transition. In other words, she’s been slogging away for twenty-plus years. Assaulted several times, harassed and threatened on many more occasions than that. She has devoted her life to making the world safe for people like me. And yet, many people still don’t know what “a transgender” is, because those people aren’t listening.
We all make these contributions, whether out of duty or fear or both. As TMI points out, Nubian’s out there blogging away:
First of all, if your nick is Nubian, you’re kind of setting yourself up for questions like these. You’re identifying yourself primarily by your ethnic heritage, after all. Granted, Nubian’s experience happened IRL, so presumedly the white woman knew Nubian as Kourtney and not Nubian. Still.
But this woman–and I stand by, “stupid, stupid”–isn’t doing anything to solve the problem of her ignorance. She doesn’t feel any obligation to do so. I’m gonna go ahead and call that racist.