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More in Anger than in Sadness

So feh-muh-nist has “respectfully” excused herself from discussing “the trans issue” on her blog. With all due respect, what the fuck ever. I’ll just respond here.

The term “feminism” is often used in exactly the way you describe. It is a broad, umbrella term that, in the mainstream, does include all factions. Feminism, by those unfamiliar or only marginally familiar with it, is seen as monolithic. When I hear “feminism” being used in this way, I understand that the speaker is often referring to a particular area of concern for feminists or a particular group of feminists or a particular feminist school of thought. I do not deny, however, that feminism actually exists.

But do you want to think about the trans community SAII at the same level that the mainstream thinks about feminism? In a “monolithic” sense? Because that doesn’t seem like such a great strategy. When feminists discuss different schools of feminist thought, there tend to be a great many distinctions within those discussions. There are also individuals and theories who do not succeed in attaining the label of feminism–Wendy McElroy and Camille Paglia are not usually included, nor are Feminists for Life. Nor are you merely talking about a community, or a group of complex individuals. You are talking about a set of differing, frequently contradictory ideas. No one with any sense argues that every belief held or defended by a self-identified feminist is automatically feminist or part of a feminist politic, or that feminists are usually in agreement.

Moreover, your grasp of “trans politics” is as a monolith, not an umbrella. You’re definitely arguing about a particular series of beliefs, one which would not be universal even if your description of it were accurate.

So, I am at a loss. There is a group of people who appear to be associated with movements that have political effects, if not political aims. This group of people is often labeled “queer” or “trans.” Discourse requires some way to discuss this phenomenon. I appreciate that there are vast differences within that group, but that group’s political power is wielded as a group. I have opted not to use terms such as “man-made women and men” or “constructed women/men,” because they seem unnecessarily incendiary. I opted not to use transsexual exclusively, because there are political issues that I’m considering that don’t fall into that category. Transgender is the term I have heard used most consistently and most inclusively. I have not used the term “queer,” because there is often a mistaken assumption that queer necessarily includes Lesbian concerns and issues which it does not. I am open to using another term to discuss what I have referred to as “transgender politics,” but since you contend there is no better term, I guess that is what I’m stuck with if I want to discuss the politics associated with transgender choices and issues.

Thank you so much for not being “incendiary”! Do you have an Amazon wishlist?

No, my point was that no general term would be either useful or accurate, particularly for someone who (ostensibly) wants to engage these topics on a level less superficial than yer average Time Magazine article on the recent/impending death of “feminism.” If you want to talk about transsexuals, talk about transsexuals; if you want to talk about genderqueers, talk about genderqueers; if you want to talk about queers, talk about queers. And if you’ve got time, maybe you could start learning about all the fighting that goes on within each of those more specific terms. Better yet, engage the writings of real, live, individual people instead of attempting to cram any of us into a box of your own construction. You can say “transgender politics” or “transgender issues” or “transgender choices,” until the cows come home, and you will always be talking about a discrete category that doesn’t actually exist.

You know, piny, my impression is that this is a debate you have had many times before, and it’s a relatively new one to me. I don’t have the same ready stock of quick responses and retorts that you do. I am still learning about this subject, and I am going to take some time out of this discussion to explore the information that you and other commenters have shared as well as to do more reading and consideration on my own. I am serious in my efforts to understand all of the forces at work here, but the exchange we are having keeps leaving me feeling on-guard and defensive. That’s not what I want. I want to figure out what I think and why. I want to address the questions and problems that come up as I look at the radical feminist analysis of the politics of transgender, and I don’t think a continued conversation with you gives me much room to do that. In time, I imagine I will revisit the topic with a firmer grasp on how to say what I want to say, though I don’t imagine the actual content will change drastically. I’ll just shine it up so that I don’t get bogged down in the same kind of semantic debates that we are currently stuck in. And, there is always the possibility that my perspective will change considerably.

Respectfully,
YL

I really resent the idea that I’m offering up pat answers. And no, not really. I’ve never had anyone attempt to answer any of the questions I’ve asked you.

Do you understand how it might give people very little faith in you if you pretty much admit that you’re excusing yourself to go hunt down better rhetoric? Especially if you admit that you doubt very much that you’ll actually change your mind? Even though you earlier denied that you had made up your mind in the first place? Even though you earlier denied knowing or understanding all that much about the issue at all?

There’s something missing from this collection of posts, and its absence speaks volumes. Not once, in any one of these entries, have you quoted or engaged actual firsthand source material from someone holding this stance of “trans politics,” whatever you think that term means. Nowhere. (It’s conspicuously scarce on the Questioning Transgender website, too.) I doubt you bothered to find any specific examples before you started “thinking” about this issue on which you are totally undecided. When actual transpeople show up, it’s time to put the discussion on indefinite hiatus.

I don’t think you will actually follow up on this promise to learn more. I don’t think you’ll ever pick up Becoming a Visible Man. I don’t think you’ll lurk in online communities or search out blogs or read books or talk to people. I don’t think you’ll make any effort at all. The problem here isn’t that you don’t know enough or aren’t saying it right–hell, you’re the one who chose to focus on the only arguably semantic comment I made, and to insist that it was about semantics rather than structure. The problem is that you don’t want to hear any of this, and ignorance is your best excuse. There’s nothing respectful about that.


22 thoughts on More in Anger than in Sadness

  1. Well, I ended up having to shoot off my mouth on the topic because I found some of the arguments on that web site attacking “trans politics” very annoying.

    There really doesn’t seem to be any effort at true dialogue. Calling everything a “myth” just poisons the wells of discourse.

    But, there is something here worth pursuing as it relates to the gender essentilism issue I think. Although quite a bit of their critique is taken up in claims that they are opposed to essentializing moves in feminist thought, it still ends up as a cultural essentialism.

    And, really, not mater what the outcome, I think it’s very worth it for us to work through these issues.

    I can now see why you found the essay on gender expression in terms of make up and high heels useful — even though it felt kinda rambling to me!

  2. I think she’s trying to be respectful of you, piny, but you’re not willing to be respectful of her. It’s a pet peeve of mine in activist circles when one activist feels so much more in the right than another activist that s/he’s willing to villify the other activist as “dumb” or “–ist” or “not worth my respect” simply because of a disagreement over one issue, but hey. I’m just a little Pollyanna about all this, because I really do think feminists have more in common than not and should be able to be okay with disagreement and still call each other sisters as feminists. I know, don’t I sound naive.

    I don’t fully agree with YL or you, for what it’s worth, but I do have to say that as upsetting as a term “transgender politics” is, you don’t really offer a better term other than to say there’s a wealth of issues that can’t be placed under one term, umbrella or not. Really? I think there probably is, actually. “Feminism” as a term is pretty broad, after all, and yet we all find ourselves under it. So what could this elusive term be? Could it be “postmodern feminism,” although that might be lost on those of us who aren’t exactly familiar with postmodernism? “Third wave feminism,” although that uses problematic wave terminology? “Anti-gender binary feminism”? “Judith Butler, Pat Califia feminism”?

  3. It’s a pet peeve of mine in activist circles when one activist feels so much more in the right than another activist that s/he’s willing to villify the other activist as “dumb” or “–ist” or “not worth my respect” simply because of a disagreement over one issue, but hey. I’m just a little Pollyanna about all this, because I really do think feminists have more in common than not and should be able to be okay with disagreement and still call each other sisters as feminists.

    It’s really easy to dismiss it as just “one issue” when the “one issue” isn’t the validity of your entire existence.

  4. I didn’t call anyone “dumb,” thank you. I said that she gave me no reason to believe she was looking at work by actual transpeople, and that I didn’t think she would proceed to do so.

    I don’t fully agree with YL or you, for what it’s worth, but I do have to say that as upsetting as a term “transgender politics” is, you don’t really offer a better term other than to say there’s a wealth of issues that can’t be placed under one term, umbrella or not. Really? I think there probably is, actually. “Feminism” as a term is pretty broad, after all, and yet we all find ourselves under it. So what could this elusive term be? Could it be “postmodern feminism,” although that might be lost on those of us who aren’t exactly familiar with postmodernism? “Third wave feminism,” although that uses problematic wave terminology? “Anti-gender binary feminism”? “Judith Butler, Pat Califia feminism”?

    No, no, no, and no. We may find ourselves under feminism, but are we agreeing right now, you and I? Do I agree with Yawning Lion? I don’t understand why it would make sense to you to call something affiliated with transpeople “feminism” of any kind; this is not a dispute within feminism. All of those terms could apply to some beliefs held by some trans people and would probably describe some arguments made by trans advocates; none of them apply to all of those beliefs or all of those arguments. If you wanted an accurate taxonomy, you would also have to include neologisms like “anti-Pat Califian,” “Judith-Butler hating,” “anti-feminist,” “a-feminist,” “sexist,” and “essentialist,” because they’re under there too. Oh, and “anti-transgender” and “anti-transsexual.” There’s no point to lumping contradictions together; the beliefs that “trans politics” tries to equate are mutually exclusive. Take the two theorists you described: do you think they have some kind of majority “trans” adherence or respect? They don’t. Each one is fervently supported by some people, despised by others, and wholly without relevance to still others.

  5. While I think the YL has a problematic outlook, I don’t think that she deserves the disrespect you’re giving her here, especially after your last section of quoted text. Reguardless of who is wrong or right, its just mean to call someone a liar because you’re angry at her misinformed views, and I feel like it is what you’re doing here. She very respectfully says she is going to take off and do some more thinking and researching, which is what she should be doing in this situation. I don’t see why you have to be cruel to her and say that she is lying about the whole thing. She may be misinformed in her views and underestimate her unconscious prejudices, but she doesn’t show anythign in that exchange that makes me thing that she deserves to be called a liar. That’s not cool. She is recgonizing her privledge and understanding that might be inadvertantly oppressive against someone. That is a tough pill for anyone to swallow. I congratulate her on having the wisdom to see that (because most people never will), and I wish her luck in her studies. I don’t understand why you don’t.

    I have been in a couple of similar situations in the feminist blogsphere where I would myself hopelessly lost and unable to articulate or understand my feelings on an issue/group/way of thinking, and I’ve opted out to go learn more because in talking about it I realize that I don’t have enough knowledge or haven’t given the matter enough thought.. I can’t imagine how shitty I would feel if I did that only to be mocked and called a liar for doing so (shakes head in sadness).

  6. Me, I think politeness is overrated.

    The internet is a written form of communication, and because of this, it means we have as much time as we need to formulate our arguments. If something pisses you off because it was rude, you can take as much time as you need to cool down and write a level-headed response.

    Especially given this incredibly damning statement:

    “I imagine I will revisit the topic with a firmer grasp on how to say what I want to say, though I don’t imagine the actual content will change drastically.”

    Anybody who says “I don’t think my opinion will change with new evidence” deserves a bit of a drubbing, especially when they admit they don’t actually know much of anything about the subject at hand.

    As for labels, it seems to me that all feminists can be identified by one trait: the desire for women to be at least the equals of men. Other then that there’s a huge plurality of beliefs, but you at least know that that one idea will show up.

    On the other hand, transgender is a term that doesn’t really encompass ideology.

    Okay, so I don’t have a blogger acount and I can’t ask this over at Feh-Muh-Nist, but here’s my question:

    Men and women are physically different (Big shock, I know), so, even if we live in a completely egalitarian society with no gender discrimination, mightn’t some people still prefer to change genders just as a matter of personal taste, an aesthetic sense that prefers one gender to the other?

    I mean, just because there’s no societal bias against eating peanut butter, that doesn’t mean everybody enjoys it, right?

  7. She is recgonizing her privledge and understanding that might be inadvertantly oppressive against someone.

    When? Where? Where does she mention privilege? Where does she say she’s been oppressive, or that she has some serious re-thinking to do?

    Look, this is what she’s taking time off for:

    In time, I imagine I will revisit the topic with a firmer grasp on how to say what I want to say, though I don’t imagine the actual content will change drastically. I’ll just shine it up so that I don’t get bogged down in the same kind of semantic debates that we are currently stuck in.

    She doesn’t think she’ll change her mind. She thinks she’ll understand how to say the same things better.

  8. I don’t fully agree with YL or you, for what it’s worth, but I do have to say that as upsetting as a term “transgender politics” is, you don’t really offer a better term other than to say there’s a wealth of issues that can’t be placed under one term, umbrella or not. Really? I think there probably is, actually. “Feminism” as a term is pretty broad, after all, and yet we all find ourselves under it. So what could this elusive term be? Could it be “postmodern feminism,” although that might be lost on those of us who aren’t exactly familiar with postmodernism? “Third wave feminism,” although that uses problematic wave terminology? “Anti-gender binary feminism”? “Judith Butler, Pat Califia feminism”?

    I should add as well that since questioningtransgender.com sets up an explicit adversarial relationship between “feminism” and “trans,” I doubt very much that anyone who agrees with it would support a label that implies that “trans politics” is feminist.

  9. Basically you just think she’s wrong, and she’s wrong in a horrible, immoral way. And as long as she doesn’t change her mind, she’ll still be wrong, no matter what sources she has or arguments she makes. Fine.

    I think this means that the two of you have fundamentally diverging views of what feminism means. (Something that won’t be solved by by refining terminology). Fine.

    Basically, though, you *are* calling her a bigot and a liar and accusing her of holding values that are incompatible with feminism as you see it. That’s fine too. But I think you should admit it.

  10. Basically, though, you *are* calling her a bigot and a liar and accusing her of holding values that are incompatible with feminism as you see it. That’s fine too. But I think you should admit it.

    …Maybe you could find the place in my post where I say she’s not a feminist?

  11. And fine: I think she’s a liar, because I don’t believe she’s going to make a serious inquiry; I think she’s a bigot, because she believes things without basis in fact.

  12. Y’all do realize, right, that this is just the same old civility argument. Why can’t you be civil to this person who is arguing very nicely that your existence is an affront to feminism? I mean, she’s being very civil, and you’re being rude! You’re calling her a bigot! You don’t see her calling you a bigot! (Just a walking, talking affront to feminism, but very politely.)

  13. Christopher –

    for an interesting take on the question of gender as aesthetic choice, I recommend “Steel Beach” by John Varley. Cracking good sci-fi.

    Honestly, Piny, I find it refreshing to read someone who’s unafraid to be angry and maybe hurt someone’s feelings. Fuck vacillating and politeness, if you’re really furious then let rip!

  14. Did anyone read the web site YL was advocating? That web site declared that it was setting “myths” straight.

    i don’t know how you can 1. get any ruder than that and 2. how you can clearly convey that you are not interested in dialogue.

    I don’t think anyone should be polite to this pseduo-politeness. it’s not. Calling “trans politics” myths is about the same as a Rush Limbaugh type plucking a bunch of random ideas set forth in the feminist blogosphere and then calling them “myths.”

    Not one statement that was called a myth actually quotes a real person saying it.

    This is, plain and simple, the rudeness otherwise known as logical fallacy. Why piny or anyone should be polite in return. . . boggles the mind.

  15. Tara, I don’t think piny’s objection to YL’s arguments is based in their being moral or immoral at all, and I might put forth that suggesting such in those terms, especially in these circles, is framing piny’s own argument as analogous to religious dogma.
    I have yet to see piny arguing that YL–or even the fine folks at questioningtransgender.com–are bad people per se, or breakers of decency and social mores. He is, however, arguing (and correct me if I’m wrong, piny) that their assertions about transpeople are based in preconceived notions and hold damaging implications for people who they did not bother to consult about their reality; that those assertions can be refuted by a not-inconvenient attempt to look at facts and evidence or by actually interacting with the people being damned by them, the such-as-it-is-trans-community, who are not only being tarred with a broad brush there in such a way that people who have no real connection to each other are being lumped into a single category that doesn’t, upon examination, seem to make sense, but are being tarred specifically with objections to their very existence, not the ideals they may or may not hold; that the refusal to make that not-inconvenient attempt to gather information other than from one highly-contested source is evidence of a will toward refusing to actually engage with said trans community while continuing to make harmful assertions about them; and that the continual deflection of any question or debate on piny’s own part into playing this all off as a problem of semantics is disingenuous at best.
    (breath.)
    Now, I myself would take moral issue with such an approach to dealing with other human beings, but I’m an odd duck. piny hasn’t, anywhere I’ve seen, argued the morals of either position, but he has argued about making sweeping statements in public that harm other people, in an academic form and context, without the support of traditional academic sources of validity like evidence, reference, or research. And it’s fair, when someone says they’re more interested in finding new ways to phrase their arguments than actually find new information or be open to changing, to be a bit gunshy about the prospect of their actually going out to learn something new.

    And you know what else? It’s kind of impressive that the rhetorical technique YL uses about incendiary speech is still so in vogue. “I wouldn’t dare suggest that you’re not a real man/woman, and I certainly am going to refrain from calling your identity or manhood or whatever ‘constructed’ or ‘man-made,’ because I’m much too polite to do so. Surely you can tell me another way to refer to you, other than the ones you’ve suggested or requested already, because I wouldn’t ever ever want to be insulting by saying those things.” Suddenly I’m flashing back to Cicero’s “Now, I’m not saying that Clodia is a whore, but…”

  16. Wait, wait… since when was it wrong to call a bigot a bigot and say that, based on evidence cited in the post, one believes that one’s debate opponent is being less than honest about an issue? I must have missed the memo that said it was considered “rude” to be honest about one’s feelings on personal issues.

    And, I’m sorry, when someone supports a bigoted view based on ignorance — especially admitted ignorance! — that person is a bigot. It might hurt your feelings to hear that, but maybe instead of whining about how mean piny was, you naysayers might do well to actually think about how your own non-trans privilege may have contributed to your defensive response to this post.

  17. what tekanji and bitch / lab said.

    Really now. This is the blogosphere, right? If YL doesn’t want people to hurt her feelings maybe she should make her blog private. Then she and all her admirers can discuss their version of “transgender politics” or “transsexual politics” or “it’s really all about us politics.”

    Otherwise, act like a mature adult and take your hits.

  18. Tekanjii,

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with calling someone you believe to be a bigot on their bigotry. But now Piny said that’s not what he meant anyway.

  19. I don’t think there is anything wrong with calling someone you believe to be a bigot on their bigotry. But now Piny said that’s not what he meant anyway.

    What? I did say she was a bigot–in comment 11, two below yours. This is the second time you seem to be inferring something that I didn’t actually say. Can you quote directly next time, please, so that I at least know what you’re going by?

  20. piny: The only thing I can think of is that Tara has selective reading and chooses to believe that feminists can’t also be bigots, and since you said you weren’t questioning YL’s feminism, then obviously you can’t be actually upfront about calling her a bigot. Or something. I don’t know. Tara’s posts kind of confuse me because she seems to be reading from an entirely different post than I am.

  21. …Yup, pretty much what Rose said. And, wow. Thanks for the elaboration.

    I refrained from moral/immoral and “incendiary” phrasing not because I won’t own the implications of what I’m saying–the whole dishonest, prejudiced, and damaging thing, in other words–but because I wanted to keep the focus on process. My problems with the argument and the analysis are specific and structural. Words like “immoral” obscure that specificity.

    Everyone: thanks for the comments and kind words.

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