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Womenomics

Working women are routinely punished for their biology.

But for all they do to boost the economy, women continue to get the shaft across the American workplace. It’s not just the wage gap — which remains at around 20 percent four decades after equal wages were made the law of the land (According to the AFL-CIO, the average 25 year-old woman will lose almost a half million dollars over her working life). And it’s not just the “glass ceiling” (white men make up les than a third of the workforce, but hold almost 95 percent of top corporate positions, women make up 46 percent of the workforce, but hold less than five percent). The real problem facing working women in the U.S. is that we have the most inflexible workplaces in the developed world.

According to Harvard’s Project on Global Working Families (PDF), the United States is one of only five countries out of 168 studied that doesn’t mandate some form of paid maternal leave. The only other advanced economy among those five was Australia’s, where women are guaranteed an entire year of unpaid leave. That puts the U.S. — the wealthiest nation on the planet — in the company of Lesotho, Papua New Guinea, and Swaziland.

Well there’s something to be proud of.

That means that women in America face a unique burden. Regardless of how enlightened we believe we are, the yoke of housework and childrearing and eldercare still fall disproportionately on women. The legendary progressive economist Marilyn Waring was the first to consider the economics of unpaid housework in the 1980s. Waring estimated that if what has traditionally been thought of as “women’s work” were counted economically, it would constitute the world’s single largest service and production sector.

Women haven’t caught a break at home to compensate for going to work in the numbers that they have in recent decades. Suzanne Bianchi, a sociologist at the University of Maryland, studied time-use surveys and found that working mothers spent an average of 12 hours a week on child care in 2003, an hour more than stay-at-home mothers did in 1975. That double-burden constrains women’s workforce participation, lowers fertility rates, and impacts the wealth of both women and two-income families in myriad ways.

And of course,

Inflexible workplaces offer socially mobile women a devil’s choice: they can advance in their careers or they can have families. According to BusinessWeek, female corporate execs are twice as likely to be child-free as the the female population as a whole. Those women making $100,000 dollars per year are two-and-a-half times more likely.

But more often women don’t have that choice, and take the financial hit. Much of the “wage gap” is in fact a baby gap. Karen Kornbluh notes that women without children make 90 percent of what their male counterparts earn, but working mothers earn less than three quarters of what men make. A first child lowers a woman’s earnings by an average of 7.5 percent, a second child by 8 percent.

It’s not so much that women leave the workforce permanently to have kids, it’s that when they leave their jobs for a period they can’t return. That has a ripple effect across their working lives — costing them raises, promotions and benefits. According to economist Heather Boushey at the Center for Economic Policy Studies (CEPR), “If women have paid leave they are much more likely to go back to their jobs, and much less likely to quit or switch jobs.”

Leaving the workforce temporarily to have a baby or deal with a sick child or parent costs women seniority, raises and any benefits that require a lengthy stay of employment to become vested. Former Clinton advisor Gene Sperling points out that the average time a worker needs to put in to get pension benefits — if they get them at all in our wonderful “New Economy” — is five years. Men’s average length in the same job is 5.1 years; for women it’s under four. According to the AFL-CIO, “Half of all women with income from a pension in 2002 received less than $5,600 per year, compared with $10,340 per year for men.”

As a young woman in professional school, I’ve already heard, “There’s no way you can have it all.” When a successful female attorney came to speak to one of my classes, the women in the class asked her repeatedly about how she managed to balance her demanding work schedule with having a family. None of the men seemed interested, let alone concerned.

The problem isn’t that women are told that we can’t have it all when we actually can, or that feminist women have too high of expectations and are bound to be disappointed when they realize that they have to make choices. It’s that women are the only ones expected to make these kinds of sacrifices for their families. How many men in my law school class have given more than two minutes of thought to the question, “How will I balance work and family?” They don’t have to.

Social policies are crucial to balancing these things out, but there has to be a major social shift as well. Maleness has to be defined as something more than the ability to be a breadwinner, and femaleness has to be defined as something more than the ability to bear children. This has to happen in tandem with policies that allow both parents to balance work with family. Then we’ll be getting somewhere.


30 thoughts on Womenomics

  1. I wish, I wish, that the school day coincided with the work day. I’m not sure if it would be better for the kids, exactly, but ho, it would be better for the parents.

  2. This issue is such a no-brainer that I can’t believe more people aren’t up in arms about it. Women are routinely and I believe intentionally locked out of advancing in the workplace due to their future, present or expected role as mothers.

    Men who advance into positions to make the decisions that effect most employee’s lives have had the advantage of having an unpaid maid service, brood mare and concubine at home, ready and willing to serve. Thus, they can advance their career through the years unhampered by childcare problems, household responsibilities or family time demands.

    I think the biggest barrier is these men themselves who enjoy the benefits of their faithfull wives’ service. By dismissing the importance of the work women by and large must do on the homefront, they are able to disregard how much their wives’ duty to them serves their uninterrupted ascension through the ranks. To recognize child rearing, household maintenance and/or family maintenance as anything but the most trivial of occupations would be to shed light on the American male myth that they ‘made it on their own’.

    To succeed in business, in my experience, whether in the corporate or entreprenurial areas, almost a complete myopia is required regarding the needs of others. Women must attend to others at the expense of their own lives, careers, interests or goals. It is expected. Men always have a woman around to take care of that for them.

    To even compete on an equal footing, women would need

    1)a fulltime, live-in nanny

    2)maid service.

    3) an ego stroker (essential in any field where competition is fierce, it helps to have a nurse to lick the wounds, spurn healing and get you back in the race).

    A kicker at the executive level is a mistress, or in the case of our on-the-top female exec., a paramour. Young, attractive, poor and fawning, not ambitious, just clingy and insecure enough to allow for good feeding. An intern maybe.

    See? How many women you know have all that and at one-sidedly negotiated rates?

  3. So we should give pregnant women handicap parking spaces, yes?

    After all, it’s not their fault they’re that way. Someone else is to blame, like a man or The Man, or both…

  4. So we should give pregnant women handicap parking spaces, yes?

    Um, except there’s no reason a pregnant woman can’t walk. I’m 6 months pregnant, huge and uncomfortable, and yet I can manage to walk from a parking spot to the store. Surprising, I know. I can even work full time. What I can’t do? Work full time twp days after giving birth. Neither can my co-worker who just had to have knee replacement surgery. Or the co-worker who had hernia surgery. I am fortunate to work at a family friendly company in a preogressive state, where the fact that I can’t work based on the reason that I just gave birth is not less important than the fact my co-workers can’t work because of their non-birth related medical preocedures. If I lived in another state, my husband and I would struggle to make ends meet while I recovered from a very physically traumatic procedure. I tore very badly with my daughter and ended up not being able to walk for almost three weeks, drive for five weeks, go to the bathroom without screaming for close to six weeks. It doesn’t sound much to me like I was in any physical shape to be at work, and yet in all but 5 states, the fact that it was because I gave birth instead of, oh I don’t know, falling down a flight of stairs means that it is not medically significant.
    Kate also makes an excellent point- men are able to do this because it’s simply assumed that the woman will pick up the slack. My husband is a wonderful man who tries his hardest to be an equal partner, and yet when my daughter is sick, he hears “Can’t your wife take care of that?”, completely disregarding the fact that I also have a job. If people come over and the house is a mess, it’s because I’m a bad housekeeper, not him. It is hard to have a two working parent family, especially when one of them works 55-60 hours a week (as my husband does). For some women, staying home is a solution, for some men, staying home is a solution (I actually know a stay at home dad). I think for the majority of us, the answer is more family friendly policies across the board for both men and women.

  5. So we should give pregnant women handicap parking spaces, yes?

    After all, it’s not their fault they’re that way. Someone else is to blame, like a man or The Man, or both…

    You are way off the Mark, Markie.

    Man and woman get together and make family, but who, by and large, picks up the slack eh? Like I said its a no brainer. Think a little harder and try again. You got ten points left.

  6. After all, it’s not their fault they’re that way. Someone else is to blame, like a man or The Man, or both…

    Huh? Pregnancy is a fault? Perpetrated by women exclusively?

    I guess we should just do without the next generation. That will make for a comfortable retirement.

  7. So we should give pregnant women handicap parking spaces, yes?

    If she needs one, yes.

    Pregnancy is different for every woman. Someone up above mentioned being six months and huge–I’m currently six months and just starting to show. I’ve gained seven pounds despite all my efforts to gain more. My hips are starting to hurt a lot, but that’s because I have recurrent bursitis and the loosening of the tendons has triggered a flare. (And I’ve been eligible for a handicap spot due to the bursitis in the past–my doctor wanted me doing as little walking as possible until the flare went down, then. And no, I wasn’t pregnant.)

    A friend of mine was three months and huge (second child, single child not multi; and her body reacted in a totally different way than her first) and was six months and almost unable to walk. Just due to her pregnancy.

  8. Oh, and:

    Problems with my hip bursitis reoccuring due to pregnancy was something that was never mentioned as a risk to me. It’s not mentioned as a risk on any bursitis information site I’ve seen, either. There’s not a whole heck of a lot that can be done about a bursitis when you’re six months pregnant outside of staying off your feet, since NSAIDs can’t be taken during pregnancy, so I’m in a grin-and-bear-it phase. I have a pretty high pain tolerance, so I’m hoping its not going to worsen to the point of wanting a handicapped hang-tag or requiring bed rest.

  9. Kate: your first comment is so … I’m at a loss for words … it almost makes me want to cry … and not in a good way.

    Well, let’s start off on a positive note:

    To succeed in business, … almost a complete myopia is required regarding the needs of others.

    Substantially true, although I’d add the important qualifying phrase “… who have little apparent utility to one’s business or career.” Hey, what is ass-kissing but all about the needs of the Big Guy (or Gal)? But I think we’re basically on the same page.

    Women must attend to others …. Men always have a woman around to take care of that for them.

    *sob*

    OK, that particular remark of yours also needs a slight qualifying phrase: “… except when they don’t.” I guess that wasn’t so bad. Just a few extra words changes a half-true stereotype to something which is indisputably correct!

    Well, maybe we’re getting somewhere. If we take your phrase…

    To even compete on an equal footing, women would need

    … and simply replace the word “women” with the phrase, “men or women who lack significant others to cater to their domestic/emotional needs”, we once again change a misleadingly sexist phrasing into an insight which has genuine merit.

    Similarly, if we change your last sentence to “How many people you know have all that and at one-sidedly negotiated rates?” we’d have an interesting question, to which my answer would be: Definitely less than half of either gender.

    As to Julie’s last comment …

    I think for the majority of us, the answer is more family friendly policies across the board for both men and women.

    … all I can say is … Amen!

  10. This is all getting slightly tiresome and pathetic. The only reason women with kids get screwed is because of the choices they make. Yes, men with kids generally have an easier time than women with kids do. But that’s entirely the fault of women with kids behaving like doormats; no-one forced then to have kids and they decided to shack up with whoever they did. If your husband treats you badly, blame him, not society or social policy.

    Women have the option of having kids and taking a financial hit, or not having kids. They can’t blame their predicament on anyone but themselves. And as usual we get the plea that people with kids should be compensated by those who don’t share their priorities. Women aren’t being punished for their biology, they’re just experiences the consequences of the choices they make. It’s depressing that there are still feminists pushing this hetrosexualist/natalist nonsense.

  11. Oh, james, james, james.

    Did Mommy and Daddy not explain the birds and the bees to you?

    See, it takes *both* a Mommy and a Daddy to make a baby. Just like you had a Mommy and a Daddy. No matter what your Daddy may have told you when he was mad at you, you weren’t just made by your Mommy.

  12. That’s a very perceptive point Zuzu. It does indeed take two people to make a baby, and the daddy is often mean to the mummy.

    So why the hell does the blame get aimed at “society”? If you were trying to get laws passed so that mummy could sue daddy for dumping childcare on her, I wouldn’t be expressing an opinion. But instead there’s a big maternalist push for the rest of society to compensate women for having kids, a decision they make for their own satisfaction. If you feel having kids isn’t worth it, then don’t have kids. If you do have them and are unhappy with your life, then the situation is entirely your own fault, and I suggest you take it up with the person who knocked you up.

  13. James, dear, decisions about family are not made in a vacuum. Society promotes the idea that women are uniquely suited to childcare, and that idea is reflected in employment policies which penalize women who take time off to have children, which are discriminatory toward pregnant women, and which result in lower pay for women than men, even when the women don’t have children.

    This is also reflected in employment policies which make it even harder, in some cases, for men to take time off to attend to their families, which means that the status quo is left.

  14. According to Harvard’s Project on Global Working Families (PDF), the United States is one of only five countries out of 168 studied that doesn’t mandate some form of paid maternal leave. The only other advanced economy among those five was Australia’s, where women are guaranteed an entire year of unpaid leave. That puts the U.S. — the wealthiest nation on the planet — in the company of Lesotho, Papua New Guinea, and Swaziland.

    Wouldn’t it be more helpful to know who actually gets maternity leave? Many U.S. women get paid maternity leave, probably most executive level jobs. If you make a comparison that way the U.S. would looks a lot better.

  15. But instead there’s a big maternalist push for the rest of society to compensate women for having kids, a decision they make for their own satisfaction.

    uh, you do get how society needs kids, due to how kids eventually transmogrify (via a process called “growing the hell up”) into productive memebers of society, right?

    The trouble is that while children are a net benefit to society, they are a gross loss for parents, and are not something anyone should, logically, want to bother with.
    Women are therefore doing society a huge favor by giving birth, but instead of acknowledging that fact and acting accordingly by actually helping women raise children, it would much rather treat children as yet another means through which it can punish women who dare to work, while also pretending that it is doing women a favor by compensating them for their troubles and the costs involved in raising kids that the children themselves will eventually pay back to society anyway with interest.

    And of course, if society does screw them over enough, the kids will eventually pay society back for that too, also with interest.

  16. I always call the “well don’t have kids then, whiners!” argument the Kids as Expensive Pets Theory. As though the having/raising of productive members of society were a task of no benefit whatsoever to the rest of society…including the whiners like James. Somebody has to have the kids for society to survive. Therefore, the having of kids is a valuable task, and deserves some support from the society that benefits from their existence. Patriarchy solves this by making women a slave class. But since women are starting to protest this setup, we have to find a more equitable way to create new people. And no, there aren’t really enough rich people to do it all, so just making it income-dependent won’t do it, not if you want someone to wipe your wizened butt at the old folks’ home.

    Duh.

  17. Sorry guys, but people who have kids have them for their own satisfaction. People just don’t have kids because they want to help boost our demography (and a good thing too). There’s no problem with that, but if people do something for their own benefit there’s no reason why everyone else should compensate them for it. Why shouldn’t people who choose to have kids have to make sacrifices for their decision?

    It continually shocks me that there are feminists who are willing to fetishise childbearing and motherhood in this manner. People shouldn’t get bashed by the state for making their own choices about their own lifestyle. If you want to play mummy, daddy and two kids fine, but it’s nonsense to pretend you’re going it for societies benefit and deserve a reward. It’s incredible that there are ‘feminists’ who think their status as mothers entitles them to compensation from gay/childless/infertile people who don’t or can’t share their priorities.

  18. James, I don’t have kids, nor do I ever want kids. I don’t particularly like them. I don’t agree that parents should get direct payments for having kids.

    However, the society and the species kind of depends on having the little buggers. So I pay taxes for schools even though I will never make use of them. My retirement, after all, is in part dependent on taxes paid into the Social Security system by productive members of society born after me. At some point, I will be older than my elected representatives, so I will depend on the quality of their education and the resources put into their upbringing. Public health programs ensure that easily preventable problems will be less of a drag on society, and if we could get a friggin’ universal health care system in this country, employers would not be bearing the cost of insurance for their employees and employment mobility would increase, thus encouraging more family-friendly and person-friendly policies and choices.

    But by all means, if you want to go it alone, I hear the wilderness life is tough but rewarding.

  19. james:

    Sorry guys, but people who have kids have them for their own satisfaction. People just don’t have kids because they want to help boost our demography (and a good thing too). There’s no problem with that, but if people do something for their own benefit there’s no reason why everyone else should compensate them for it.

    Bah. It doesn’t matter whether people want them for their own satisfaction or not. Children are good for demographics whether people want them for their own satisfaction or not. Did you not admit that yourself?

    If you want to play mummy, daddy and two kids fine, but it’s nonsense to pretend you’re going it for societies benefit and deserve a reward.

    Again, the social benefit is in no way negated by the personal satisfaction. Motives are irrelevant, the end result is what counts. And if ‘getting a reward’ does reduce the threshold of having babies (believe it or not, people do make such cost-benefit analyses every day), then it is good.

  20. R. Mildred: You can’t really believe some of the things you wrote, can you?

    The trouble is that while children are a net benefit to society, they are a gross loss for parents, and are not something anyone should, logically, want to bother with.

    Some people having children may be a ‘net benefit’ if the alternative is nobody having any children, but this planet is being killed by overpopulation.

    Having kids may represent a gross economic loss for parents, but we are genetically hard-wired to experience the conception and raising of our progeny deeply emotionally gratifying. I can’t believe you would imply that parents out there are having kids out of some kind of misguided ‘duty now for the future’ patriotic impulse, and not for their own self-interested reasons. (Legitimate self interest by the way, but self interest nonetheless.)

    I emphatically agree that we need more child-friendly approaches in this society to allow women and men to raise their kids in a healthy manner. We also need to disincentivize people from having a lot of kids. It represents something of a social policy challenge. Analysing it purely from the ‘oppression of women’ perspective seems to cloud the issue more than clarify it, if the comments on this thread are any indication.

  21. Zuzu;

    I’m not proposing some sort of libertarian fantasy. I’m with you for paying taxes for education and universal health care.

    My argument is with the thrust of the article and commentary above. I don’t think women are “routinely punished for their biology”, they instead take the consequences of a choice they freely make. I can’t see how if someone makes the choice to have a baby, and they then have trouble balancing their work and family, they can complain that this is ‘unfair’ (except, perhaps, if the babies father doesn’t play his part). They freely made a choice because they wanted something they desired, and brought the consequences upon themselves, something we all do all the time.

    To me it just all seems like just special pleading. The suggestion seems to be that people who want babies should be able to do so at no cost to their career or earning ability. The way that propose to acheive this is by bashing those who don’t share their priorities. This doesn’t sound like feminism to me, it seems like inflicting maternalism upon the rest of us.

  22. I don’t think women are “routinely punished for their biology”, they instead take the consequences of a choice they freely make.

    If there were no bias, the father of the children would be equally penalized. But he’s not.

    Fathers of children routinely have babies at no cost to their career or earning ability; in some cases, it even enhances it (they’re seen as more responsible).

    The problem is where all of the burden falls on one gender. As has been pointed out, this is not simply a family-by-family thing; company policies and the law are set up so that it’s simply easier in most cases for the mother to take the hit.

    Children are going to affect people’s worklives, no question. But why should we fail to question institutions that put all of the burden on one parent and not the other?

  23. Fathers of children routinely have babies at no cost to their career or earning ability; in some cases, it even enhances it (they’re seen as more responsible).

    Zuzu: I would be shocked if this were true. Are you saying that, as a group, single fathers — or fathers who take time off from work to parent — experience no pay or career disadvantages compared to men as a whole?

  24. No, it’s a case of women with kids letting themselves be treated like saps and then insisting people who don’t have their priorities compensate them for it.

    Yes, fathers get don’t take much of a hit from children, because the burden falls upon mothers. It there are institutional reasons for this, you’re free to criticise them. And if you have policies which would rectify this – without hitting the childless – I’d support them. But I don’t consider mothers as being more important than people without kids. And I don’t think some of the policies suggested above are legitimate.

  25. No, ballgame, I’m saying that fathers routinely experience no cost. Because it is not routine for fathers to take time off work to parent.

    Words like “routinely” mean something.

  26. Zuzu: Fair enough. But I would respond that your sentence construction lends itself to (inaccurately) support the contention that this is all a male/female thing.

    It sounds like you’re saying, “In households with two parents and children, the breadwinning spouse suffers no pay/career disadvantage as compared to the ‘parenting’ spouse who takes time off from work to attend to the children’s needs.”

    I have no trouble believing that THAT’S true. Presumably you would respond that it’s usually the male who is the breadwinner in these situations, and once again, I’m sure that’s correct. However, presumably the male’s income simply becomes part of the household’s income, so it isn’t immediately obvious how that becomes an unambiguous benefit to the man as opposed to the family.

    In addition, your assertion focused solely on career income/prestige results, and neglects the very real emotional costs breadwinner spouses pay by being unable to be more intimately involved in their children’s lives. Fathers I know in this situation — admittedly a very small sample — do feel this loss, and one father I know became the ‘stay at home dad’ for the first year of his child’s life while his then-wife went to work.

  27. “In households with two parents and children, the breadwinning spouse suffers no pay/career disadvantage as compared to the ‘parenting’ spouse who takes time off from work to attend to the children’s needs.”

    This is true. But it’s also true that the breadwinning spouse in this situation is far more likely to be male. Hence, the gender issue.

  28. James, it is not that I think that anyone needs to compensate for my time raising my child… she’s mine, I chose to have her and I will make sure she’s taken care of. Where the issue comes in is when we treat a medical condition (pregnancy) different than other medical conditions. I mean, if someone chooses to smoke and gets lung cancer and needs treatment for it, they can go on short term disability with no questions asked. If someone chooses to drink in excess and ends up having cirrohsis of the liver, they can go on short term disability for the treatment they need. For that matter, if you choose to go skiing and break your leg in the process, you are protected by short term disability. All of these all result from choices that the person made. Why then are pregnancy and childbirth placed in a different category? It’s not an issue of thinking society owes me something for having a child, it’s a desire to have my medical conditions treated like everyone else’s medical conditions.
    The other issue comes in when women are forced to take time off from work because their husbands/partners aren’t allowed to. Take for instance, my husband and I. We actually make fairly comparable salaries (I make more per hour, but he works more hours than I do) and yet when my daughter is sick, he is simply not able to take a day off. His boss will tell him to come in, that his wife can take care of that. If he doesn’t, he’s written up. My boss is much more understanding and I can call, say Isabelle is sick and either work from home or take a sick day. However, there is a long term loss in my desirability, because when it comes time for reviews/promotions, it will be looked at that I have had to miss 6 days in the last month due to my daughter being sick, while if my husband were allowed to do the same, it would only be three apiece. Again, were more family friendly/worker friendly policies implented, there would be a more equal sharing of loss and it could easily benefit those who don’t have children as well. For instance, FMLA says that you can take 12 weeks off to care for a newborn, a spouse, a parent or a a grandparent or to recover from your own medical problems. Nowhere in there are people without children left out to the sole benefit of parents. If we make more worker friendly policies, such as reduced hour work weeks (so people like my husband don’t end up working 60+ hours a week) or more lenient sick time policies (so you don’t have to go to work when you are so sick you ought not be there, again like my husband had to three weeks ago when he spent 48 straight hours throwing up and still had to go to work), this will benefit everyone, not just those with children. I don’t think anyone here is calling for special privileges to those with children, they are simply asking that the losses of having a child not be out of proportion for men and women and that they not be out of proportion to the losses suffered by those who are also unable to work because of medical conditions.
    Oh, and yeah, Meg, I did forget to mention that all pregnancies are different… I am six months pregnant and huge probably because this is my third pregnancy in three years and I appear to be carrying a baby moose as opposed to a child… he is already measuring quite big. Also, I’m short and fat to begin with. It leads to me getting asked already if I’m due soon and people looking at me with shock when I tell them not for another four months.

  29. I have no trouble believing that THAT’S true. Presumably you would respond that it’s usually the male who is the breadwinner in these situations, and once again, I’m sure that’s correct. However, presumably the male’s income simply becomes part of the household’s income, so it isn’t immediately obvious how that becomes an unambiguous benefit to the man as opposed to the family.

    It becomes an unambiguous benefit to the MAN when/if the couple splits up and the woman has to support herself/her children on a much reduced earning ability. And in our society where as many as half of all marriages end in divorce, that counts for something.

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