Shameless Self-Promotion Sunday December 8, 2013 Jill Promote yourself. Netiquette reminders: Want to recommend someone else’s writing instead? Try the weekly signal-boosting thread. we expect Content Notes as a courtesy to our readers for problematic content in linked posts and/or their comment threads (a habit of posting only triggering/disparaging links may annoy the Giraffe (you really don’t want to annoy the Giraffe)) extended discussion of self-promotion links on this thread is counter-productive for the intended signal-boosting – the idea is for the promoted sites to get more traffic. If it’s a side-discussion that would be off-topic/unwelcome/distressing on the other site, take it to #spillover after leaving a note on this thread redirecting others there.
Yesterday I briefly considered setting fire to the offices of the Evening Standard but decided to write this ranty article instead – http://www.bad-housekeeping.com/2013/12/07/why-is-the-evening-standard-teamsaatchi/ It’s about the way the press, especially the Standard have been treating the Nigella Lawson/Charles Saatchi thing.
I made a top 5 memorable wedding films list: http://film-nut.tumblr.com/post/68877434031/top-5-memorable-wedding-films and chose 5 weekend links: http://film-nut.tumblr.com/post/69375812648/the-weekend-5
As part of the conversation generated from #FeminismIsForMothersToo, I looked at the intersection of the way we value motherhood and the way we value pink collar work. When a fitness blogger posted a picture of her very fit body four days post-birth, some of the critiques of her body were downright cruel. Shaming someone for being fit isn’t all that different from shaming someone for being fat.
I take on the arguments of the right wing of the Catholic Church, particularly relating to LGBT and women’s rights issues at: letterstothecatholicright.tumblr.com Thanks for the opportunity to share, Jill!
Various other folks in my public education system refer to teachers as “in the trenches.” I think they’re correct — but not in the way they intend.
The natural childbirth movement uses feminist rhetoric to get women to hire midwives, but they act like the catholic church when sexual abuse occurs within the community. Here is my story of trying to sue for damages (emotional distress, therapy bills, etc). If you want the background of my case click the ‘my story’ link in the upper righthand corner.
Content Notes: Homophobia, Sexism, Bullying. This was an unpleasant trip to a memory of being told to “Tone Down the Gay” in a previous workplace. Content Notes: Denial of Privilege, Invisibility. Then I wondered if Lesbians Can Disappear as part of a writing exercise on superpowers. Content Note: Anti-Trans Violence, Transphobia, Anti-Disability Violence, Murder. I was sad to report that two trans women were murdered in the same week in Cleveland, Ohio. And, sadly, the media hasn’t helped by their refusal to validate the identities of the women. On a lighter note, I explored my inability to sustain Words With Friends games for the long haul: I’m a Words With Friends Failure
This week at Bitch Flicks… Call for Writers: Child and Teenage Girl Protagonists (submission deadline Dec. 20) ‘Frozen’: Disney’s First Foray into Feminism ‘The Punk Singer’ and a Room of Her–and Our–Own HBO’s Dark Comedy of Geriatrics and the Nurses Who Love Them In ‘Getting On’ The Global Feminist: Acknowledging Nicole Kidman’s UN Role The Film Version of ‘Blue is the Warmest Color’ Left Me Cold Seed & Spark: We HAVE What We Need to Create See ‘Mandela: Long Walk to Freedom’ for Naomie Harris’s Winnie Mandela How Love Triangles Perpetuate Misogyny My Love-Hate Relationship With Joss Whedon
My latest post includes quotes from women who are currently in verbally abusive relationships — and the hopelessness they feel. The more we talk openly about verbal abuse, the more we can help other women who live in a state of fear and sadness. motherhoodismagic.com
Over at delagar, I write a review of The Queen of Versailles, a independent documentary about what it’s like to be David Siegel’s wife: “The Wealthy Really Are Different, Y’all.” Spoilers: It’s unpleasant, despite all the money, unless you like being treated like a piece of meat.
Finally getting back into substantive blogging: Advise the Bishops about Marriage and Family Life is a close read and analysis of the questionnaire that Rome has sent out in preparation for the Extraordinary Synod on the family in October 2014. Of particular interest to current or former Catholics whose advice is being solicited, but additionally of interest to anyone curious about just what the Catholic church is doing here. In Mimetic Rivalry, Reform, and Unity in the Church, I deconstruct the rivalistic dynamic in a recent commentary on church reform by a liberal Catholic theologian, only to get caught up in the same dynamic myself. Oops. Also has some commentary on the applicability of 1 Tim 2:8-10 as relevant to rivalry and unity in the church: there’s actually more to that part of 1 Tim than silencing women.
I wrote a piece about why atheists should stop calling religion a mental illness, from the perspective of a mentally ill atheist. (Content note: mental illness, suicide, abuse).
It’s year-end time at Fromage. In My tiny musical slice of 2013, I offer up my totally biased choices for best music that I heard. And even though I use the term “all-female” only once (because the media made a big deal out of it), it just so happens that the list includes many female musicians.
Would You Choose Not To Be Transgender? Gender Theory, Gender Practice — Transgender people defy both essentialist and constructionist accounts of gender. Got a question about the transgender experience? Ask me! All people and topics welcome.
Thanks for these. One must never forget the ironclad rule when it comes to trans people: whoever’s analyzing us, whether they’re sex/gender essentialists or constructionists, and whatever we do, we’re doing it wrong and don’t really exist in the way we think we do.
Happy Holidays everyone here at Feministe. I must say I have been lurking on this site for quite some time now and really enjoy the various perspective here. As a male ally I made it a point to just “listen” to what feminists are saying rather than comment. The problem with gender relations or really any relations is people do not listen enough and just want to talk over and comment. Well I have learned much about Feminism here and how it helps helps liberate men as well as women. I saw this open thread and figured I would express my appreciation. I am so encouraged that more men are now a part of feminism and the fight for equality for all human beings. If anyone is interested fwiw on a good male feminist site that is sort of under the radar, there is a site a friend of mine male feminist Rob Okun created it has some pretty good info it. I look forward to continually reading this site and and learning. http://voicemalemagazine.org/
A number of studies have come to the surprising finding that: Sex Gets Better With Age? And also that: Hostility, Objectification Go Hand-In-Hand And that: Criminalizing Abortion Doesn’t Stop It
Physical movement in your avenue of expression (jaw, tongue, etc.) creates sound. Immobility is silent. Gentle exploration can help you restore restricted movement. Let Your Jaw Speak
The ‘Call Cops’ Theory: A post about the agency of those who have been abused, their right to choose how to address abuse and societal & state responsibility, written in the background of calls in India to have all cognizable offences mandatorily be investigated by the police regardless of whether or not the person who has been abused consents. (Trigger warning particularly with reference to content in the first four paras. for abuse & the non-provision of healthcare.)
After being asked by an interviewer this week why I wrote about sexism and misogyny in the university where I work, I was forced to think about the way personal beliefs relate to professional life: This Departmental Corridor Is A Feminist Issue
I’ve recently started writing at Feminist Borg, a new feminist blog whose contributors are comprised of some regulars from the Man Boobz community (e.g. kittehserf). We have posts sorted by theme of the month, and this month’s theme is pregnancy. I wrote a post in response to Jill’s recent article about the abortion restriction scenario. (I’ve only written about two posts so far, although I’ll be writing more often these days. Here’s my first post there on rape jokes.)
The homophobic things straight women say to gay men, and the sexist things gay men say about women. Gay men, straight women, and unexplored tensions. A response to the study about female “indirect aggression” and competition, and the New York Times write-up that used the study to say slut-shaming is all women’s fault. Girl-on-girl crime: competition and slut-shaming How to respond when a friend/family member/co-worker unknowingly says something sexist. And how to come out as a feminist to friends/family members who have the wrong impression of feminism. Q & A: How to react to my friend’s sexist statement
Vagina Chronicles Podcast has a great new episode on the question of…To procreate or not to procreate in your thirties and beyond. Babies or no babies, women are women. We would love for you to tune in and let us know your thoughts on the topic. http://vaginachroniclespodcast.com/category/podcast/ Thank you for your support! Toni
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