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Links and Links

You all have been awesome this week, and have been emailing all kinds of fantastic links. I want to write a post about all of them, but law school calls, so I’m putting them here, round-up style. Check ’em all out:

1. Sony makes the first sexist TV. Or, excuse me, “The first television for men and women.” Why do women like it (question written in pink)? Because it has a wide screen, so you can re-arrange the living room and put your couch anywhere! Because it adjusts the light conditions for when you trick your significant other into watching a romantic film! Because it’s pretty! And why do men like it (question written in blue)? Because the picture quality makes watching football and car chases more exciting! Because the wide viewing angle means you can sit anywhere in the living room to watch (after your wife rearranges the furniture)! Because it looks totally killer!

Ugh. Thanks to Josh for the link.

2. A map of women who have changed the world. Add a woman who has mattered to you.

To add a woman to the map:
– go to the map using the map url above
– register to add places to the map
– click on “Add Places to this map” right under the map, NOT “add a
Place” at the top of the page.
– find your location by putting an address or just a city and state
into the text box or by clicking on the map in the right spot.
– Click “next”
– Enter some information about the woman
– click submit

Here’s an example entry. Thanks to Tracy for the link.

3. Rednecks *heart* gay cowboys. Andrew Sullivan writes:

The past two decades have seen a huge shift in how homosexual people are viewed in the West. Where once they were identified entirely by sex, now more and more recognise that the central homosexual experience is the central heterosexual experience: love — maddening, humiliating, sustaining love.

It’s true that more and more recognize this — but a lot of folks in those red states still don’t. I’m optimistic, but Andy’s glasses are a little more rose-colored than mine. Via a nut.

4. Have kids with your partner, but you aren’t married? Sorry, you aren’t a family.

Black Jack isn’t the only city with an ordinance defining what kind of family can live within its limits. Most municipalities in the St. Louis area have similar, if not identical, rules.

Black Jack’s ordinance applies to unmarried couples with children. Under the law, a home cannot be inhabited by three or more individuals not related by “blood, marriage or adoption.”

The ordinance recently has come under scrutiny because of Olivia Shelltrack and Fondray Loving. The couple purchased a five-bedroom, three-bath house in Black Jack and moved into the home last month with their three children.

But the couple was denied an occupancy permit because their household failed to meet the city’s definition of family.

Lovely. Thanks to j0 for the link.

And finally there’s this image:
abstinence

It’s part of an abstinence-only campaign. If the print is too small, it says, “Want to tell your dad you’re pregnant? Abstinence ’till marriage.” Thanks to Andrew for this one.

There’s all kinds of crazy stuff out there on the internets. Thanks to all of you who have been sending me these links.


15 thoughts on Links and Links

  1. It’s part of an abstinence-only campaign. If the print is too small, it says, “Want to tell your dad you’re pregnant? Abstinence ’till marriage.”

    Well, gosh. Is that an admission that sometimes even good Christian girls don’t want to talk to their parents about being pregnant?

  2. Are you taking issue with the poster or just pointing it out to show opposition to abstinence-only campaigns? I’m sure no one will argue that abstinence is a bad thing.

  3. Are you taking issue with the poster or just pointing it out to show opposition to abstinence-only campaigns? I’m sure no one will argue that abstinence is a bad thing.

    No one will argue that abstinence is inherintly bad, but using a young girl’s fear of her domineering father is no way to get her to practice it. How about targeting fathers and encouraging them to be loving, understanding caregivers for their girls instead of distant, brooding figures to be feared. And what message does this send to girls who already are pregnant? Take drastic measures to avoid telling your scary father ’cause he’s gonna kill you. That’s healthy. This campaign reinforces cold, paternalistic values and I think it’s sick.

  4. Exactly Sarah, that’s just the image that I got. Can anybody else imagine the walloping this guy might give? And that in a nutshell is what the poster is encouraging–don’t have sex unless you want your ass whipped (or worse). It’s not saying “don’t disappoint your daddy.” It’s saying, “don’t fuck or your daddy will be very, very angry, and you don’t want to know what daddy does when he’s very, very angry, do you?”

  5. The intresting thing about the article is they pulled the same thing here in Grand Forks, but not because of “families”.

    The houses over by University Park were rezoned this year to only have “families”. This was to make sure that college students could not rent the houses.

  6. You know what’s interesting about the TV ad? The points are the same…great picture, wide viewing angle, slim…they just explain why those things are good in different ways.

  7. It’s not saying “don’t disappoint your daddy.” It’s saying, “don’t fuck or your daddy will be very, very angry, and you don’t want to know what daddy does when he’s very, very angry, do you?”

    But even if you could take the anger out and, say, replaced Dad’s expression with one of dismay and concern, it would still fall under the “don’t have sex because you’ll disappoint your dad and that will have negative emotional and familial consequences” heading. And if you repaced dad with friends, boyfriend, pastor, whatever, it would still be a big old shame thing.

    So maybe the basic issue is that it’s focusing on what happens after pregnancy, which makes the message inherently a threat: “If you have sex, X will happen, and that’s bad.”

    So, is there a way to re-write the poster that would include more positive messages about sexuality? My first thought is still a threat, but at least a gentler one: Replace dad with a teenage girl (or boy) giving a very clear “No way in hell” look to the camera and replace the caption with “Want to tell your girlfriend (or boyfriend) you forgot to bring a condom?”

  8. Hmmm, I didn’t get the “stern Dad” thing from that poster, although it was clearly intended.

    All I got was “wanna tell Alan Alda you’re pregnant?”

  9. Hehe, Knifeghost. Alan Alda indeed.
    I guess it gives me the heebeejeebees to think about a dad having that much stake in his daughter’s virginity. Maybe being raised without a father myself has warped my view of what business a father has being so concerned about the state of his daughter’s hymen.

  10. This is slightly OT, but: I had to tell my dad I was pregnant, despite not being married, not having a serious boyfriend and being in a casual dating relationship with a man he had already made clear he thought was skeevy (he happened to be right. Well done Dad). I dreaded it for weeks, but when I finally got up the nerve to tell him, you know what? I survived. And unless the kids are unfortunate enough to have abusive dads (in which case they’re in trouble whether or not they’re, um, ‘in trouble’) they will probably survive too.

  11. I went to a screening of the documentary The Abortion Diaries on Tuesday night. It featured 12 women who’ve had an abortion (for a variety of reasons), telling their stories and sharing experiences. One woman sadly said that her dad once remarked that his worst nightmare was his daughter getting pregnant out of wedlock. Worst nightmare. Not his daughter being murdered, or his wife getting a terminal illness, or his family being harmed. But his daughter getting pregnant out of wedlock. I think this says a lot about how much this particular father valued his daughter (or failed to value her). Why is chastity more important to some parents than life itself?? I would hope that my dad would rather I get knocked up than killed or something. I could not help but feel deep sympathy for this woman, who, in her time of need, had her own father to fear. But unfortunately I suspect it’s pretty common. And now, apparently encouraged.

  12. All I got was “wanna tell Alan Alda you’re pregnant?”

    I’d tell him. But not my own father.

    Of course, my dad was under the impression I was a lesbian, and he preferred to believe that my sister and I were both virgins, so there you go.

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