If you’re freaking out before your wedding because your fiancé wants strippers at his bachelor party and the idea of your fiancé hiring strippers makes you uncomfortable, you should probably just tell him that. And if he still insists on having strippers at his bachelor party even after you tell him it’s making you really really miserable for whatever reason (you don’t want him touching other naked women, you object generally to the idea of men paying women for sexual services, you thought he had more sophisticated taste in recreational activities), perhaps he is not the dude to be marrying. Seriously, if there are “a bajillion fights” over strippers and you’re so stressed out you lose 8 pounds and can’t sleep for days because for him it is A Matter Of Great Importance that there be bare titties at his bachelor-fest? He’s a jerk, don’t marry him! If he’s the kind of guy who might cheat on you (or attempt to cheat on you) at his bachelor party? He’s a jerk, don’t marry him! If your future husband tells you that he’s not interested in having strippers but all his friends are calling him a pussy for saying no and so he has to go along with it? He’s a jerk and also a coward, don’t marry him!
But, sorry girl, it ain’t the strippers’ fault that he’s a jerk. But also, while I’m all for demystifying what goes on at bachelor parties — it’s true that it’s rarely sexy and probably does not threaten your relationship and is actually incredibly cheesy — maybe it’s not so cool to make fun of women who are distressed because their future husbands think it’s super fun to pay other women to get naked.