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Not a Virgin

Jill

The best version of Like a Virgin I’ve heard in a while:

Thanks to Jaclyn for the link. Lyrics below the fold.

I made it through the awfulness
Somehow I made it through
Didn’t know how fucked up it was
Until I fucked you

I was made to feel
Incomplete
Like sex could make
A piece of me go missing

But you made me think
Yeah you made me think
What can sex really do?

I’m not a virgin
Because virginity isn’t even real
Not a virgin
It’s just a heteropatriarchal construct
Designed to police how you feel

Gonna get all your consent, love
And give all mine too
There’s no reason to “save” our bodies
By denying what we want to do

We won’t lose
If we choose
That something new
I want to do with you

Our bodies are our own
Our bodies are our own
And that’s always true

I’m not a virgin
Virginity is pretty much arbitrary
Not a virgin
It gets used to justify violence
And that’s really scary

Yeah that’s really scary
Violence is the worst
Really, really bad

We won’t lose
If we choose
That something new
I want to do with you

It doesn’t need ending
And it doesn’t need defending
Virginity isn’t even a thing

We’re not virgins
There’s no virginity to steal
We’re not virgins
It creates a hierarchy of sex acts
Where only the top one is “real”

We’re not virgins
Oh, we’re not virgins
It feels so fine to say
Virginity
Is such bullshit
Oh yeah, we’re not virgins
Oh oh oh, we’re not virgins

10 thoughts on Not a Virgin

  2. “It creates a hierarchy of sex acts / Where only the top one is “real””

    This awesomely addresses my problems with the idea of sex as only penetration. By that logic I have had very little sex, but I’ve definitely had a lot of fun! <3 this song.

  5. Hir parody of ‘born this way’ is really good too. ‘Porn this way.’ Addresses the racefail in that song, among many other things.

  7. This is fabulous! It reminds me of when I had penetrative sex for the first time and beforehand I expected I would feel different after but actually I felt exactly the same because nothing had changed about me!

  8. This is fabulous! It reminds me of when I had penetrative sex for the first time and beforehand I expected I would feel different after but actually I felt exactly the same because nothing had changed about me!

  9. Sorry about the double post. Mabe some kind moderator could delete the extra one? Anyway, thanks, Dymphna, for pointing out his video Porn This Way. I like it even more than this Not a Virgin song!

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